Ep 33. Finding Your Business Pace, part 2

Ep 33. Finding Your Business Pace, part 2

If you've ever wondered why some people's ideas of success can feel like a trap (even when things are going well), this episode is a permission slip to build a business that doesn't require self-abandonment. Erin and Elana talk about the weird cultural religion of work, the invisible identity games underneath "So what do you do?", and what it looks like to make values-based decisions when your nervous system is screaming for safety. Takeaways you can use immediately * If your business requires you to be depleted to be successful, it's not success. It's a slow leak. * Your values should run your calendar, not your anxiety. * Being "polished" is optional. Being aligned is not. * If you're obsessing over tiny mistakes, that might not be professionalism. It might be self-protection. * You can build a business that's steady, profitable, and not constantly on fire. If this episode resonates, it's probably because… You're in (or nearing) that moment where you realize: I can't keep doing it like this. Not because you're broken. Because you're paying attention. Connect with us: Elana McKernan is a Master Certified Life and Creativity Coach who specializes in helping perfectionists create more by treating themselves better. You can check out her free content here [https://www.instagram.com/elanamckernan/] and learn more about coaching with her here [https://www.coachingwithelana.com/book-a-consult]. Erin Aquin is a Master Certified Life Coach and co-author of the #1 bestseller "Superabound: Live the Life the Universe is Dreaming For You [http://besuperabound.com/book]." She provides whole life coaching for business owners, integrating success and personal fulfillment through her unique all-in-one approach. Learn more at besuperabound.com [http://besuperabound.com/consultation]

Ep 32. Cocktails & Cadence: Finding Your Business Pace

Erin and Elana are back at the Coaching Mixer with an important question: how do you create your own pace in business (one that actually works) without burning out or getting stuck in "nothing gets done" mode? They go deep on this while Erin sips a "Fairy Godmother" cocktail made with whiskey, amaretto, cherry, and lime, and Elana has whiskey with magical sumo orange juice, topped with a sprinkle of dried rosemary. They talk about the real-life tension so many business owners feel: sometimes you genuinely want a sprint season. Sometimes it's exciting, focused, and purposeful. But the moment you're sprinting like you're being chased by a monster, it's time to get honest about what's sustainable, what's just habit, and what might be turning your business into a never-ending launch week. Takeaways for your own business: * How to tell the difference between a healthy sprint and an unsustainable pace. * A simple framework for staying creatively playful without sliding into shiny-object chaos. * Why your "best work hours" matter, and how to stop scheduling your hardest work when your brain is a baked potato. * The hidden mindset layer: how self-worth, work culture, and scarcity can keep you from honoring your actual rhythm. * How to build a "creative outlet with no stakes," so your business isn't the only place you're trying to feel alive. If you're trying to find a pace that feels ambitious and humane, this episode is a must-listen. Links * Find Erin on Instagram: @besuperabound * Find Elana on Instagram: @elanamckernan Connect with us: Elana McKernan is a Master Certified Life and Creativity Coach who specializes in helping perfectionists create more by treating themselves better. You can check out her free content here [https://www.instagram.com/elanamckernan/] and learn more about coaching with her here [https://www.coachingwithelana.com/book-a-consult]. Erin Aquin is a Master Certified Life Coach and co-author of the #1 bestseller "Superabound: Live the Life the Universe is Dreaming For You [http://besuperabound.com/book]." She provides whole life coaching for business owners, integrating success and personal fulfillment through her unique all-in-one approach. Learn more at besuperabound.com [http://besuperabound.com/consultation]

Ep 31. Long-Term Clients Without the Codependency Spiral (Part 2)

Tune in to part two of the long-term client conversation, perfect for any coach who has ever wondered where the line is between support and slowly becoming someone's decision-making system. Elana and Erin talk about how to build long-term coaching relationships that are warm, real, and deeply effective without slipping into unhealthy authority dynamics or turning sessions into renewal pitches. The Drinks Erin's sipping a bourbon-lime-ginger drink while Elana's got honey + ginger vodka topped with seltzer and a splash of pineapple juice. They discuss: * Why "I'm the expert" branding can quietly train clients to hand over their authority. * The difference between being a thinking partner and being the person clients can't function without. * How to receive client appreciation without inflating your ego or deflecting the whole compliment into the void. * Why sales conversations inside paid sessions can mess with presence and trust. If you're a coach... Listen if you want clients who stick around because the work is good, not because they feel like they'll fall apart without you. (Also: ginger is apparently the unofficial beverage of boundary-setting.) Links * Find Erin on Instagram: @besuperabound * Find Elana on Instagram: @elanamckernan Connect with us: Elana McKernan is a Master Certified Life and Creativity Coach who specializes in helping perfectionists create more by treating themselves better. You can check out her free content here [https://www.instagram.com/elanamckernan/] and learn more about coaching with her here [https://www.coachingwithelana.com/book-a-consult]. Erin Aquin is a Master Certified Life Coach and co-author of the #1 bestseller "Superabound: Live the Life the Universe is Dreaming For You [http://besuperabound.com/book]." She provides whole life coaching for business owners, integrating success and personal fulfillment through her unique all-in-one approach. Learn more at besuperabound.com [http://besuperabound.com/consultation]

Ep 30. Ginger Bitters & Big Feelings: Long-Term Clients Without the Codependency Spiral

A listener asked: How do you support clients long-term without accidentally becoming their emotional support human, their outsourced decision-making brain, or their personal "always be closing" sales funnel? Erin and Elana get into the uncomfortable truth, that "dependency" is not a villain. It is a spectrum. But coaching that ends up training people to distrust themselves is problematic. And yes, they also talk about the marketing version of coaching that's basically: "Your life is terrible, I'm the cure, please renew for six more months." Huge ick. The spicy bits: * Being the "expert coach" can accidentally train clients to hand over their authority. * Long-term coaching can be clean and powerful when approached as a collaborator, thinking partner, and extra brain, not authority figure with a payment link. * Sales conversations inside paid sessions feel gross (for everyone). If you're tracking breakthroughs mostly so you can prove the transformation at renewal time, you are no longer fully on their side. * The dependency tells to listen for: * The client keeps giving the coach all the credit. * The client keeps asking what the coach thinks they should do. * The client seems unable to decide without external validation. You will discover: * One sentence that instantly cleans up the power dynamic (and makes clients trust themselves more). * The tiny line between celebrating wins and low-key running a renewal pitch (and how to tell which spot you're in). * How to take the compliment and give the power back, without deflecting or claiming credit you did not earn. If you're a coach listening to this… This episode is basically permission to stop doing coaching like it's a performance review plus a sales close. Connect with us: Erin Aquin is a Master Certified Life Coach and co-author of the #1 bestseller "Superabound: Live the Life the Universe is Dreaming For You [http://besuperabound.com/book]." She provides whole life coaching for business owners, integrating success and personal fulfillment through her unique all-in-one approach. Learn more at besuperabound.com [http://besuperabound.com/consultation] Elana McKernan is a Master Certified Life and Creativity Coach who specializes in helping perfectionists create more by treating themselves better. You can check out her free content here [https://www.instagram.com/elanamckernan/] and learn more about coaching with her here [https://www.coachingwithelana.com/book-a-consult].

Ep 29. Spicy Cherry Plot Twist: How to Create Without Suffering for It

If you've been telling yourself that your creative work "doesn't count" unless it's hard, dramatic, or all-consuming, this episode is a gentle (and very real) reset. In this Coaching Mixer conversation, Erin and Elana talk about what it actually looks like to create when you have clients, responsibilities, and a life. They unpack why "going all-in" is often a pressure story (and sometimes a privilege story), and how tiny, consistent steps can build serious creative momentum over time. You will walk away with a calmer, clearer way to create work you care about, without any needless suffering. Also, because this is the Coaching Mixer: Elena is sipping a cocktail with egg white foam (and leaving the last weird foamy bit behind), and Erin's drink gets better as it goes, with spicy little cherries that are, honestly, the whole plot twist at the end. This is for you if you are a business owner who wants to write, share, or build something meaningful, but you keep getting stuck in Static like: * "If I cannot do it perfectly, I should not start." * "If it feels easy, it does not count." * "If I do not have hours a day, I am not a real creator." In this episode, you'll learn: * Why creativity tends to shut down when the stakes feel too high * How to separate "creating" from "sharing," so you can get the work moving again * Why five minutes a day is not a consolation prize. It can be the whole method. * The trap of "all-in" thinking, and how to build something sustainable instead * A powerful reframe: what if your creative project right now is building the conditions that make creativity possible? Connect with us: Erin Aquin is a Master Certified Life Coach and co-author of the #1 bestseller "Superabound: Live the Life the Universe is Dreaming For You [http://besuperabound.com/book]." She provides whole life coaching for business owners, integrating success and personal fulfillment through her unique all-in-one approach. Learn more at besuperabound.com [http://besuperabound.com/consultation] Elana McKernan is a Master Certified Life and Creativity Coach who specializes in helping perfectionists create more by treating themselves better. You can check out her free content here [https://www.instagram.com/elanamckernan/] and learn more about coaching with her here [https://www.coachingwithelana.com/book-a-consult].