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True Partner Intimacy: Building Trust, Safety, & Connection (with Matthew & Joanna Raabsmith)

1 h 21 min · 13 de nov de 2025
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In this insightful conversation, I chat with Joanna and Matthew Raabsmith, relationship coaches dedicated to helping couples deepen intimacy and strengthen connection. Together, they explore the foundations of lasting relationships—honesty, safety, shared adventure, and mutual growth. The Raabsmiths introduce their Intimacy Pyramid, a framework that maps out the essential steps toward achieving true intimacy. They emphasize that intimacy extends far beyond the physical—it’s built through emotional honesty, trust, and consistent effort. Listeners will learn about the transformative power of daily check-ins, how individual growth plays a part in your relationship, and why play, shared goals, and small daily choices are crucial to keeping love alive. True intimacy is not accidental—it’s a daily practice rooted in honesty, safety, and shared commitment. Joanna and Matthew are authentic speakers on the topic of relationships and intimacy and some of the memories they share I hope will remind you to notice the ways silly moments in our relationships can create connection for years to come.  Follow: @theraabsmithteam  [https://www.instagram.com/theraabsmithteam/?hl=en] The Raabsmith Team website [https://raabsmithteam.com/] HONEST check in: https://raabsmithteam.com/free [https://raabsmithteam.com/free] Get their book:  Building True Intimacy: Creating a Connection That Stands the Test of Time by Matthew & Joanna Raabsmith and Dan Drake [https://www.amazon.com/Building-True-Intimacy-Creating-connection/dp/B0C2RX95WN] Other recommended reading: Intimate Deception: Healing the Wounds of Sexual Betrayal by Dr. Sheri Keffer [https://www.amazon.com/Intimate-Deception-Healing-Wounds-Betrayal/dp/0800729129] Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction: Discover the Practical and Spiritual Steps to Lasting Recovery by Dr. Mark Laaser  [https://www.amazon.com/Healing-Wounds-Sexual-Addiction-Laaser/dp/0310256577] Additional Resources on the topic: Dr. Sue Johnson [https://drsuejohnson.com/] Attachment theory [https://www.attachmentproject.com/] The Gottmans [https://www.gottman.com/] The Couch Next Door episodes: Couple’s Therapy  [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2285228/episodes/16114713] Betrayal Trauma [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2285228/episodes/14092134] I'd love to hear from you! Send a message to the show about the show. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2285228/fan_mail/new] Follow me on Instagram: @candicefraserlpc [https://www.instagram.com/candicefraserlpc/] Find me on Substack: candice512.substack.com [https://candice512.substack.com/]

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