#82: Are You a Perfectionist or Just Hiding? 5 Questions to Find Out

#82: Are You a Perfectionist or Just Hiding? 5 Questions to Find Out

Send Carlene a text or voicemail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2412227/fan_mail/new] You've said it before. Maybe you're saying it right now. "I'm a perfectionist." But what if that's not the whole truth? In this episode, I'm coming back to perfectionism — because just when we think we've put that monster to sleep, it sneaks back in. It disguises itself as excellence and hard work and caring oh so much. And today I'm giving you some tough love, because the only way through it is to name it for what it really is. I'll walk you through five honest questions to help you figure out whether you're in perfectionist mode — or hiding mode. Because they look the same from the outside, but they have very different solutions. Then I'll give you three shifts to build momentum and keep it going, even when perfectionism tries to nudge its way back in. 3 KEY TAKEAWAYS FROM THIS EPISODE 1. If nothing has materially improved in the last week, you're not refining — you're stalling. 2. Nothing can be perfected until it's completed. You cannot improve what you refuse to release. 3. Progress is not a mood. It's a system. Map it, make time for it, ship it at 80%. If your dream has been waiting on you — this is the conversation that gets it moving. DOWNLOAD THE FREE START DREAMING AGAIN GUIDE [https://coachcarlene.com/dreamer] Check out all my coaching and course offerings - Coachcarlene.com [https://coachcarlene.com/] MORE FROM ME Follow me on Instagram:  @coach_carlene [http://instagram.com/coach_carlene] SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW If you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-distracted-dreamer/id1772968728?itscg=30200&itsct=podcast_box&ls=1&mttnsubad=1772968728]! Your support helps me reach more dreamers who need these insights. 🎙️ Thanks for tuning in to the Distracted Dreamer Podcast! See you next week! FOLLOW NOW Also, if you haven't done so already, follow the podcast. I'm adding episodes every week, and if you're not folllowing, there's a good chance you'll miss out. Follow now [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-distracted-dreamer/id1772968728?itscg=30200&itsct=podcast_box&ls=1&mttnsubad=1772968728]! Episode Website  [https://thedistracteddreamer.buzzsprout.com]

#81: Finding yourself again in midlife: it's not about finding your purpose

Send Carlene a text or voicemail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2412227/fan_mail/new] Have you ever stood in the middle of the widest open season of your life — and somehow felt more lost than free? That's where so many of us are in midlife. The kids are grown. The schedule has space. And instead of feeling excited, we're staring at a 12-page menu of possibilities with no idea what to order. In this episode, I'm sharing the one question that cuts through all of it — and it's not "what's my purpose." It's simpler than that. And honestly? It works a whole lot better. I'll walk you through five questions I use with my own clients to uncover your deepest values — because once you know what you value, your dream filter exists. You stop chasing everyone else's version of a good life and start building your own. 3 Key Takeaways from this episode: 1️⃣ You've grown over the past 20 years and that means your values have changed. 2️⃣ Midlife is the time where you can finally sit in the quiet and get to know yourself again. 3️⃣ The overwhelm you feel is a sign that you're ready to start thinking about what you want again DOWNLOAD THE FREE START DREAMING AGAIN GUIDE [https://coachcarlene.com/dreamer] Check out all my coaching and course offerings - Coachcarlene.com [https://coachcarlene.com/] MORE FROM ME Follow me on Instagram:  @coach_carlene [http://instagram.com/coach_carlene] SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW If you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-distracted-dreamer/id1772968728?itscg=30200&itsct=podcast_box&ls=1&mttnsubad=1772968728]! Your support helps me reach more dreamers who need these insights. 🎙️ Thanks for tuning in to the Distracted Dreamer Podcast! See you next week! FOLLOW NOW Also, if you haven't done so already, follow the podcast. I'm adding episodes every week, and if you're not folllowing, there's a good chance you'll miss out. Follow now [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-distracted-dreamer/id1772968728?itscg=30200&itsct=podcast_box&ls=1&mttnsubad=1772968728]! Episode Website  [https://thedistracteddreamer.buzzsprout.com]

#80: Stop Pushing, Start Creating: How Rest Unlocks Your Most Creative Ideas

Send Carlene a text or voicemail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2412227/fan_mail/new] What if the reason you're stuck has nothing to do with motivation — and everything to do with how your brain is actually designed to create? In this episode, we're getting into the neuroscience of creativity — and why your best ideas almost never show up when you're trying to find them. I'm talking about the Default Mode Network, the incubation effect, and what researchers call the Shower Effect. And I'm sharing the personal story that made all of it click for me in a very unexpected place. This episode is equal parts science and story — and by the end, you'll have a whole new relationship with rest, creativity, and what becomes possible when you finally stop forcing it. 3 KEY TAKEAWAYS FROM THIS EPISODE: 1️⃣ Forcing creativity is often what blocks it. When you stop pushing and create space, your brain finally gets to do what it was designed to do — and that's when the ideas come. 2️⃣ Rest is not the opposite of productivity. It's the condition for it. Science backs this up — and after this episode, you'll never feel guilty about the walk, the pause, or the quiet moment again. 3️⃣ Your next dream isn't hiding from you. It's waiting for you to get quiet enough to hear it. This episode is permission to stop thinking so hard — and start listening instead. DOWNLOAD THE FREE START DREAMING AGAIN GUIDE [https://coachcarlene.com/dreamer] Check out all my coaching and course offerings - Coachcarlene.com [https://coachcarlene.com/] MORE FROM ME Follow me on Instagram:  @coach_carlene [http://instagram.com/coach_carlene] SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW If you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-distracted-dreamer/id1772968728?itscg=30200&itsct=podcast_box&ls=1&mttnsubad=1772968728]! Your support helps me reach more dreamers who need these insights. 🎙️ Thanks for tuning in to the Distracted Dreamer Podcast! See you next week! FOLLOW NOW Also, if you haven't done so already, follow the podcast. I'm adding episodes every week, and if you're not folllowing, there's a good chance you'll miss out. Follow now [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-distracted-dreamer/id1772968728?itscg=30200&itsct=podcast_box&ls=1&mttnsubad=1772968728]! Episode Website  [https://thedistracteddreamer.buzzsprout.com]

#79: Parenting Adult Children: How to Navigate Letting Go, Staying Connected, and Finding Yourself Again

Send Carlene a text or voicemail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2412227/fan_mail/new] Nobody warned us that one of the hardest parts of motherhood would come after the kids leave home. We were handed books about teenagers. We had pediatrician conversations about every developmental stage imaginable. But parenting adult children? Crickets. So we carry it — quietly, alone, with nowhere to put any of it. In this episode, I'm going there. Because what you're carrying is real, and it's time we talked about it. I'm sharing eight things that can actually help you navigate this transition — from letting go without losing the relationship, to staying connected in a way that works for both of you, to something I believe is the most important role you can play in your adult kids' lives right now. And I'm getting personal. Because I get to witness one of my daughters become a mom for the first time — and it has taught me everything about what it means to show up in this season the right way. This episode is for the mom who loves her kids fiercely and is figuring out what that looks like now. 💛 3 Key Takeaways From This Episode 1️⃣ Letting go isn't a loss — it's the most loving thing you can do for them and for yourself. 2️⃣ Your role hasn't ended. It's evolved. And how you show up in it now matters more than ever.  3️⃣ While you're witnessing your kids become who they're becoming — this is also your season of becoming What you're carrying is real. And you don't have to carry it alone. DOWNLOAD THE FREE START DREAMING AGAIN GUIDE [https://coachcarlene.com/dreamer] Check out all my coaching and course offerings - Coachcarlene.com [https://coachcarlene.com/] MORE FROM ME Follow me on Instagram:  @coach_carlene [http://instagram.com/coach_carlene] SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW If you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-distracted-dreamer/id1772968728?itscg=30200&itsct=podcast_box&ls=1&mttnsubad=1772968728]! Your support helps me reach more dreamers who need these insights. 🎙️ Thanks for tuning in to the Distracted Dreamer Podcast! See you next week! FOLLOW NOW Also, if you haven't done so already, follow the podcast. I'm adding episodes every week, and if you're not folllowing, there's a good chance you'll miss out. Follow now [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-distracted-dreamer/id1772968728?itscg=30200&itsct=podcast_box&ls=1&mttnsubad=1772968728]! Episode Website  [https://thedistracteddreamer.buzzsprout.com]

#78: Why You Feel Lonely Even When You're Constantly "Talking" to People — And the One Thing That Fixes It

Send Carlene a text or voicemail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2412227/fan_mail/new] You're texting. You're in the group chat. You're sending the memes and the voice notes and the "thinking of you" messages. So why do you still feel so lonely? That's exactly what listener Theresa asked — and honestly, it stopped me cold. Because she's not wrong. We have more ways to reach people than ever before, and yet so many of us feel more disconnected than we ever have. In this episode, we're talking about the difference between contact and connection — why they are not the same thing, what real presence actually does for your relationships, and the one simple shift that changes everything. Because you're not doing it wrong. You're just missing something nobody told you about. 3 KEY TAKEAWAYS FROM THIS EPISODE 1️⃣ Contact keeps you in touch. Connection is what fills you back up — and they require very different things. 2️⃣ The loneliness you feel isn't about how often you reach out — it's about how you're reaching out. 3️⃣ You don't need permission to call someone. You never did. DOWNLOAD THE FREE START DREAMING AGAIN GUIDE [https://coachcarlene.com/dreamer] Check out all my coaching and course offerings - Coachcarlene.com [https://coachcarlene.com/] MORE FROM ME Follow me on Instagram:  @coach_carlene [http://instagram.com/coach_carlene] SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW If you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-distracted-dreamer/id1772968728?itscg=30200&itsct=podcast_box&ls=1&mttnsubad=1772968728]! Your support helps me reach more dreamers who need these insights. 🎙️ Thanks for tuning in to the Distracted Dreamer Podcast! See you next week! FOLLOW NOW Also, if you haven't done so already, follow the podcast. I'm adding episodes every week, and if you're not folllowing, there's a good chance you'll miss out. Follow now [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-distracted-dreamer/id1772968728?itscg=30200&itsct=podcast_box&ls=1&mttnsubad=1772968728]! Episode Website  [https://thedistracteddreamer.buzzsprout.com]