#18 For the Love of Holly

He was hurt as a child- You can speak out too

IT IS CLEAR THAT IF I MENTION SA OR THE R-WORD, THERE WOULD BE COMPLAINTS. SO MUCH SO, THAT VICTIMS OF CHILDHOOD TRAUMA WILL FIND IT MORE DIFFICULT TO FIND THE SUPPORT THEY DESERVE TO MAKE SENSE OF WHAT HAS HAPPENED TO THEM. SUCH SUPPORT COULD ENABLE THESE CHILDREN AT SOME POINT IN THEIR LIVES TO LIVE AS CLOSE TO THE LIFE THEY COULD HAVE LED IF THEY WERE NOT R'D. ANOTHER RESULT OF 'WE DON'T TALK ABOUT SA OR R' MEANS THAT SOME PERPETRATORS EXIST IN A WORLD OF SELF-HATRED, UNABLE TO GET THE HELP THEY NEED. WHILE OTHER PERPETRATORS FEEL THEY ARE ENTITLED TO LIVE OUT THEIR IDEOLOGY, ALTERING THE LIVES OF THOSE CHILDREN WHO SEEK, AS WE ALL DO, TO LIVE A CHILDHOOD FREE OF HARM. WE DON'T TALK ABOUT R OR SA BECAUSE SOCIETY (YOU AND I) ARE TOO UNCOMFORTABLE TALKING OPENLY AND HONESTLY ABOUT THE UNSPEAKABLE. THE VULNERABLE SUFFER BECAUSE OF THE UNSPEAKABLE. LUCKILY FOR US, JEREMY INDIKA IS AN INDIVIDUAL WHO SPEAKS ABOUT THE UNSPEAKABLE, AND SOME ORGANISATIONS EVEN TRUST HIM ENOUGH TO HELP HIM SHARE HIS EXPERIENCE. IT IS AN HONOUR FOR ME, IN MY SMALL WAY, TO CHAMPION THIS GOOD HUMAN WHO SEEKS TO MAKE THIS WORLD A LITTLE BIT SAFER FOR YOU AND I. BY NOW, YOU KNOW WHAT WE ARE 'NOT TALKING ABOUT'. TO LEARN MORE, LISTEN TO THIS EPISODE, SHARE, COMMENT AND GET ACTIVE IN ANY WAY YOU CAN. TO BE ACTIVE, VISIT HTTPS://JEREMYINDIKA.COM/ [https://jeremyindika.com/] YOU WILL HAVE ACCESS TO LINKS TO HIS PODCAST YOUTUBE [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeM5j3x68j8gq3MHPSLzjmQ]. AND MUCH MORE. Other places of support in the UK. https://www.thesurvivorstrust.org/ [https://www.thesurvivorstrust.org/] https://www.thehavens.org.uk/ [https://www.thehavens.org.uk/] Please let me know where in the world others have gained support, and after some due diligence I will add it to this list. THE EIGHTEENSEVEN PODCAST IS PRODUCED INDEPENDENTLY. THE PRESENTER, EIGHTEENSEVEN, HAS OVER 17 YEARS OF WORKING WITH MALE PERPETRATORS AND VICTIMS OF DOMESTIC ABUSE. HE IS A QUALIFIED IDVA (INDEPENDENT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ADVISOR) AND, A LEVEL 4 COUNSELLOR IN TRAINING OFFERING THERAPEUTIC SUPPORT TO MALES (AND THOSE WHO IDENTIFY AS MALE). TO SUPPORT THE PODCAST, VISIT MY SOCIALS TO COMMENT AND SHARE HERE [https://linktr.ee/eighteensevensaid]. USE THIS LINK TO EMAIL ME. [https://open.acast.com/eighteensevensaid@gmail.com] OR CALL ME BY CLICKING HERE. [https://api.whatsapp.com/message/CRAE74IJWZVWH1?autoload=1&app_absent=0] ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

#19 Will you Still love me when I'm 64

HAVE YOU THOUGHT ABOUT GETTING OLDER AND WHO WILL PROTECT YOU? HAVE YOU CONSIDERED THAT PERHAPS YOU HAVE WORKED HARD TO PROVIDE FOR YOUR FAMILY, AND WHEN YOU ARE VULNERABLE, EVERYTHING CHANGES? Yes, this is another bleak episode where we explore domestic abuse of the over 60's. We discuss who can be abusers and how to recognise subtle clues that will identify a victim. We look uniquely at the issues abusers face and why victims may not wish to cause a fuss and live with the abuse. Hourglass is a unique charity that is funded to support victims. Isobel Irwin no longer works with Hourglass. However, you can get all the information you need to support them and potential victims with whom you may come into contact. The Helpline is open 24/7 – including weekends and bank holidays. Email, text and instant message options are only available during business hours. Freephone 24/7 Helpline: 0808 808 8141 The mobile number for the text service is 07860 052906 Knowledge Bank: https://knowledgebank.wearehourglass.org/ [https://knowledgebank.wearehourglass.org/] Chatbot: Hourglass Services | Hourglass (wearehourglass.org) [https://wearehourglass.org/hourglass-services] Email: helpline@wearehourglass.org [helpline@wearehourglass.org] THE EIGHTEENSEVEN PODCAST IS PRODUCED INDEPENDENTLY. THE PRESENTER HAS OVER 15 YEARS OF WORKING IN DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND IS CURRENTLY QUALIFIED IDVA WORKING EXCLUSIVELY WITH MALE VICTIMS OF DOMESTIC ABUSE. HE IS BECOMING A QUALIFIED COUNSELLOR BUT WISHES TO WORK WITH MALES (AND THOSE WHO IDENTIFY AS MALE). TO SUPPORT THE PODCAST, VISIT MY SOCIALS TO COMMENT AND SHARE HERE [https://linktr.ee/eighteensevensaid]. Use this link to email me. [https://open.acast.com/eighteensevensaid@gmail.com] OR CALL ME BY CLICKING HERE. [https://api.whatsapp.com/message/CRAE74IJWZVWH1?autoload=1&app_absent=0] ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

#18 For the Love of Holly

AS A PARENT, YOU NEVER WANT TO HAVE TO BURY YOUR CHILD.  IMAGINE YOU HAVE TO, KNOWING THAT YOUR CHILD HAS BEEN SNATCHED FROM YOU AND YOUR FAMILY BY SOMEONE WHO DECIDED, AFTER MONTHS OR EVEN YEARS OF COERCION, CONTROL, AND VIOLENCE, TO THEN MURDER THEM.  WHAT WOULD YOU DO? FOR THIS EPISODE, I BRIEFLY EXAMINE THE WORLD OF DOMESTIC HOMICIDE AND ITS POSSIBLE IMPACT ON FAMILIES. I SPOKE WITH NICK GAZZARD, WHO, WITH THE SUPPORT OF HIS FAMILY, DID SOMETHING WE SHOULD ALL THE GRATEFUL FOR. MAKE NO MISTAKE; THEIR WORK HAS SAVED LIVES. HAS PROTECTED VICTIMS FROM FALSE ALLEGATIONS AND PRODUCED EVIDENCE THAT HAS HELPED CONVICT PERPETRATORS OF ABUSE. Here you can learn more about the outstanding work the trust is doing nationwide. [https://holliegazzard.org/] Here you can download the Holiguard App. Probably the best personal protection app in the UK. [https://hollieguard.com] THE EIGHTEENSEVEN PODCAST IS PRODUCED INDEPENDENTLY. THE PRESENTER HAS OVER 15 YEARS OF WORKING IN DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND IS CURRENTLY AN IDVA WORKING EXCLUSIVELY WITH MALE VICTIMS OF DOMESTIC ABUSE. HE IS ALSO TRAINING TO BECOME A QUALIFIED COUNSELLOR BUT WISHES TO WORK WITH MALES (AND THOSE WHO IDENTIFY AS MALE). TO SUPPORT THE PODCAST, VISIT MY SOCIALS TO COMMENT AND SHARE HERE [https://linktr.ee/eighteensevensaid]. Use this link to email me. [eighteensevensaid@gmail.com] OR CALL ME BY CLICKING HERE. [https://api.whatsapp.com/message/CRAE74IJWZVWH1?autoload=1&app_absent=0] Further Information on the subjects mentioned. Mankind research. https://mankind.org.uk/statistics/ [https://mankind.org.uk/statistics/] Suzy Lampugh Trust https://www.suzylamplugh.org/ [https://www.suzylamplugh.org/] ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

#17 Stewart Lee - Me and My Addiction

I'm not sure how many times I need to apologise, but I'm sorry for the late, late, late episode. I reset my kit, and everything sounded horrible. All sorted now, I hope. (Let me know if I am wrong) I have a better idea of what I am doing with the podcast and how I am formatting the episodes. As a result, there will be a return to two episodes a month. Plus, the episodes will be longer with more information. This episode is a bit about addiction but mainly about a man in recovery who wrote a fantastic book about his lived experience of alcohol addiction and his recovery journey. THE BOOK IS CALLED ME AND MY ADDICTION, WRITTEN BY STEWART LEE. [https://www.amazon.co.uk/Me-My-Addiction-Stewart-Lee/dp/1739097076/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=] This is an infuriating and empowering story about the guy we all know who needs a shake or a cuddle. This book will help those who struggle with addiction and those who struggle with caring for an addict to understand each other. A great read. To buy the book, HERE [https://amzn.eu/d/54IfSV6]. If you have read it, leave a review. FOR MORE ABOUT STEWART LEE, THE AUTHOR. [r https://www.stewartleeauthor.co.uk/] The EighteenSeven Saiid Podcast LINKS TO ALL OF THE PODCAST SOCIALS AND CONTACT DETAILS ARE HERE [https://linktr.ee/eighteensevensaid?utm_source=linktree_admin_share]. To support the podcast for free, subscribe and share with other lovely humans. If you have a story or a comment you wish to share, message or send a voice note via WhatsApp. [https://wa.me/message/CRAE74IJWZVWH1] Anything you share with me is confidential and will not be shared with any third party unless you or others are at serious risk of harm. REMEMBER. YOU ARE IMPORTANT. 18:7 ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

#16 Mark Brooks OBE- Mankind and the Men and Boys Coalition

In this episode, I speak with Mark Brooks about his work with great people and fantastic organisations striving for equality for all by supporting male victims of domestic abuse and more. For more information, please follow these links: THE MANKIND INITIATIVE HTTPS://WWW.MANKIND.ORG.UK [https://www.mankind.org.uk]  Confidential helpline for male victims of domestic abuse and violence. Lines open 10 am to 4 pm 01823334244 Call 999 if you are in immediate danger. THE MEN AND BOYS COALITION. HTTPS://WWW.MENANDBOYSCOALITION.ORG.UK [https://www.menandboyscoalition.org.uk] Twitter @MBCoalition [https://twitter.com/MBCoalition] To donate to the coalition [ https://donate.justgiving.com/donation-amount?uri=aHR0cHM6Ly9kb25hdGUtYXBpLmp1c3RnaXZpbmcuY29tL2FwaS9kb25hdGlvbnMvN2MzNjVhZTM3MjNiNDNjMGJmOTM2OGQyM2ZjMzM1NDI/aXNDaGVja291dEFwaT1mYWxzZQ==] The Amendments to the Controlling and Coervice Offence [https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/domestic-abuse-bill-2020-factsheets/amendment-to-the-controlling-or-coercive-behaviour-offence] REMEMBER, IF YOU HAVE A STORY TO TELL OR NEED A QUESTION ANSWERED, CONTACT ME DIRECTLY ON, WhatsApp now [https://api.whatsapp.com/message/CRAE74IJWZVWH1?autoload=1&app_absent=0] Email in EighteenSevensaid at gmail.com [http://gmail.com] For all the Socials, visit https://linktr.ee/eighteensevensaid [https://linktr.ee/eighteensevensaid] To support this podcast, please share and subscribe that way, you'll never miss an episode. ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.