YOU Built This Mess

The Rewrite: How Kimberly Love Rebuilt her Life After Disappearing into Someone Else's

Kimberly Love is a six-time published author, a licensed pilot, a radio host with a nine-year track record, and a woman who spent years as the invisible support system in her own marriage before she finally reclaimed herself. In this episode, Kim talks about childhood abuse as a foundational experience, how she dissolved her own creative identity to prop up someone else's goals, the specific moment she realized she was disappearing, and what the actual process of rebuilding looked like after the marriage ended. She also tells the story of getting her pilot's license and what happens when a flight instructor cuts the engine mid-air to see what you are actually made of. This one runs deep. Topics covered: identity loss in marriage, divorce and healing, becoming the main character, the foundation metaphor, resilience built through repetition, creative life and self-prioritization, attention span and social media, advice to your younger self. Get Kimberly Love's books: https://www.amazon.com/stores/author/B07H1YY4NW?ccs_id=bac4f071-8ff4-4653-8856-95680ec6f09b Get Rob's book F*ck The Script: https://www.amazon.com/-/es/CK-SCRIPT-Caring-Others-Rebuild/dp/B0FQ4F5NBB

The Unluckiest Man in NATO: Who Transitioned in to the Definition of Resilience

David Jarvis spent 21 years in the British Army before a medical discharge in January 2022 forced him to rebuild everything from scratch. He was three months into his training when he watched a fellow soldier die in the bunk beside him, days after 9/11. That moment, and the PTSD it helped create, followed him through three tours of Afghanistan and two decades of using busyness as a coping mechanism. When the Army finally let him go, he had no plan, a deteriorating credit score, a family to house, and a fraud charge from his own unit hanging over him. In this episode, David walks through his five rules for navigating adversity, the moment a Type 1 diabetes diagnosis forced him to actually write those rules down, the six weeks his family spent effectively homeless, and what finally pushed him toward motivational speaking. In September 2024, he delivered the Time for Reflection address at Scottish Parliament. In April 2024, he had just started his company. This episode covers PTSD in the military, the real cost of a medical discharge, financial literacy as survival, and the difference between responsibility and accountability. If you are rebuilding something right now, this one is for you. Connect with David at SpeakingSBC.com Book: F*ck The Script -- https://www.amazon.com/-/es/CK-SCRIPT-Caring-Others-Rebuild/dp/B0FQ4F5NBB [https://www.amazon.com/-/es/CK-SCRIPT-Caring-Others-Rebuild/dp/B0FQ4F5NBB]

Regret Nothing: The Travelling Veteran on PTSD, Government Betrayal, and Rebuilding From Zero

In this episode of Fuck the Standard, Rob sits down with Dean Griffin, also known as the Travelling Veteran, a British Army veteran who served in Bosnia and Iraq before being medically discharged in 2003 with PTSD. When he asked what support he would receive, the answer from the Ministry of Defense was, nothing. What Dean built over the next two decades is the core of this conversation. He returned to college alongside school-age students, retrained as an electrician, passed every module with distinctions, reached the semi-finals of the Screwfix Apprentice of the Year competition, and then went on to teach at the same college. He now runs his own business, structures his work week around his disability, and serves as an ambassador for the Veterans Charity, the Veteran Community Network, and Andy's Man Club. Together Rob and Dean cover the "man up" culture and how it keeps men, particularly veterans, from seeking help, the crisis of veteran suicide in both the UK and the United States, the over-medication problem inside veteran healthcare systems, what it means to be willing to receive help, and how hope can survive even when everything else has been stripped away. Find Dean Griffin YouTube, TikTok, Facebook, Instagram: search "Travelling Veteran" Website: travellingveteran.co.uk Fuck the Standard Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/2DlreEYrKuU5uER4F3AIGQ?si=af4421a7ff95456b F*ck The Script by Rob (the book): https://www.amazon.com/-/es/CK-SCRIPT-Caring-Others-Rebuild/dp/B0FQ4F5NBB

The Price You Pay

Deepak Saini walked into adulthood as the chronically ill, morbidly obese kid who kept telling himself the next thing would eventually fix everything. The next job. The next raise. He lost thousands of pounds over his lifetime running the yo-yo cycle and never once stopped to look at what was actually driving the pattern underneath it all. Then in 2014 his back gave out. He could not bend at the waist. He could not put on his own socks. He could not pick up his three-month-old daughter. The Western medical system ran him in circles with misdiagnoses and ineffective treatments until Deepak stopped waiting and started researching on his own. What he found was an alternative modality that healed his back and, as a byproduct, eliminated the final 60 of the 100 pounds he had carried his entire adult life and sent his undiagnosed autoimmune condition into remission. He has not been meaningfully sick in a decade. He was not trying to lose a single pound. He was trying to hold his child. That shift sent him down a different road entirely. He got certified in timeline therapy, NLP, and hypnosis. He left his CPA career behind. He built a health and mindset coaching practice around the core insight that most people are not failing because they lack willpower. They are failing because they are running unconscious patterns that no amount of discipline can override without the right tools and the honesty to look at where those patterns came from. In this conversation Rob and Deepak cover the full arc: the physical transformation that nobody saw coming from the outside, the limiting beliefs stored in the body as armor around old wounds, the moment Deepak brought his laptop to the hospital while his wife was recovering from giving birth, the scarcity mindset handed down from immigrant parents who were just trying to protect their kids, what men actually model for their daughters whether they intend to or not, and the anger that ran through Deepak's early life that he would do anything to have addressed sooner. They also get into the softening of an entire generation, the consequences of parenting without consequences, and what true wealth actually looks like when you strip away every story you have been fed about money and success. Connect with Deepak Saini: deepaksainihealth.com Get the book F*ck The Script: https://www.amazon.com/-/es/CK-SCRIPT-Caring-Others-Rebuild/dp/B0FQ4F5NBB

YOU Built This Mess

Season 2 opens with a solo episode. No guest, no script to hide behind, no filter. This one is about the political outrage machine, the echo chambers you built yourself, the news channels that stopped reporting and started flattering you, and the generation of kids we're raising on screens while we fight strangers online. It's not about who's in office, and it never was, it's about who we've become. political outrage, social media addiction, echo chamber, keyboard warriors, parenting, accountability, blue collar podcast, mens mindset, self accountability, media manipulation, solo episode, fuck the standard Both sides catch it equally, nobody gets a pass, and if something in this episode makes you uncomfortable....THAT'S THE POINT!!! This is what solo episodes on Fuck The Standard sound like now. Get used to it. Rewrite. Rebuild. Repeat.