005: Dating Standards and the Four Loves — Rev. Thomas G. Morrow, STD

009: Straight Thinking About Sexual Identity — Katrina Zeno

https://youtu.be/9WXMeW0CH8g Do you have a daughter who feels more like a boy than a girl and wants to have a sex change?  Or do you maybe have a son who came home from college last Thanksgiving and shared the news over the turkey dinner: “Mom, Dad, I’m gay”?  If you are a parent who is facing or has faced one of these difficult and very modern situations, you might be as, if not more, confused about “gender” as your child.  In this episode, guest Katrina Zeno [https://healingandpeace.com/blog/media/podcasts-vlogs/the-healing-and-peace-show-with-thomas-schmierer-lmft-catholic-therapist/guests/zeno-katrina/] explains how the road to our modern confusion about “gender” has taken hundreds of years to develop.  Katrina [https://healingandpeace.com/blog/media/podcasts-vlogs/the-healing-and-peace-show-with-thomas-schmierer-lmft-catholic-therapist/guests/zeno-katrina/] sees the writings of St. Thomas Aquinas [https://healingandpeace.com/blog/faith-matters/should-we-trust-teachings-of-st-thomas-aquinas/] and Pope St. JPII as offering much-needed clarifications on matters of sexual identity. Katrina Zeno [https://healingandpeace.com/blog/media/podcasts-vlogs/the-healing-and-peace-show-with-thomas-schmierer-lmft-catholic-therapist/guests/zeno-katrina/] is the coordinator of the St. John Paul II Resource Center for Theology of the Body and Culture for the Diocese of Phoenix.  She is the author of three books including Discovering the Feminine Genius and The Body Reveals God. Katrina [https://healingandpeace.com/blog/media/podcasts-vlogs/the-healing-and-peace-show-with-thomas-schmierer-lmft-catholic-therapist/guests/zeno-katrina/] has been speaking nationally and internationally on St. John Paul II’s “theology of the body” for over 21 years.  Born and raised in San Diego, she received her B.A. in theology from Franciscan University in Steubenville, Ohio and her Masters in Theological Studies from the Pontifical John Paul II Institute in Washington, DC. In this episode Katrina [https://healingandpeace.com/blog/media/podcasts-vlogs/the-healing-and-peace-show-with-thomas-schmierer-lmft-catholic-therapist/guests/zeno-katrina/] addresses: * How the body and the spirit are supposed to be united * Why some theology of the body speakers might have what appears to be a risqué presentation style * How theology of the body in many ways is about trying to recompose the human nature in the fullness of the truth that we are an embodied spirit * How 700 years of philosophy led us to our current thinking on matters of sexual identity * How the nominalism of William of Ockham and its overemphasis of God’s will was the beginning of where philosophical thinking got off track * The importance of accepting that there are universals or natures in correctly understanding sexual identity * How René Descartes jettisoned the essence and purpose of things, leaving only the function, and how he erroneously over-emphasized the human will * How Sir Francis Bacon’s view that there is no permanent essence and no purpose devalued deductive reasoning such that it overemphasized the experimental method in understanding the how things work and how such a view is being used today to wrongfully discount proper views of sexuality and morality * The importance of knowing the difference between meaning and function and their proper applications as pertains to determining the morally righteous use of the human body * How Charles Darwin sought to show that the origin of the species did not include God and how Darwinism’s Godless arbitrariness fails to adequately explain the nature of human sexuality * How Friedrich Nietzsche had good intentions but the wrong solution regarding the problem of defining sexual nature * How Nietzsche erroneously our understanding of God to be a projection of human psychology, e.g. a shame-riddled person will see God as honorable * How Nietzsche’s claim that “God is dead and we have killed him” makes sense in the context of his erroneous understanding of God * How Nietzsche’s “will to power” is another example of an overemphasis on the will, albeit an atheistic viewpoint * How Nietzsche’s view that “We go beyond good and evil” is dangerous when used to define and understand the sexual nature of the human person * How the structure of reality has been discarded by Nietzsche * How the solution to all the confusion created by erroneous philosophies is the “recapturing of human nature made for union and communion through a total gift of self in love” * How the closest we can get to giving a total gift of self is in the marital act * How in receiving the Holy Eucharist when properly disposed, we become one flesh with God and experience the ultimate purpose of what our bodies were created for * What is her most basic book on the Theology of the Body? ---------------------------------------- Links mentioned by Katrina Zeno: * TOB Center [https://Tobcenter.org] * TOB Tuesdays Blog [https://dphx.org/jp2/tob-tuesdays/] * Katrina’s Facebook Page [https://www.facebook.com/TOBSpkr.KatrinaZeno/] * KatrinaZeno.com [http://katrinazeno.com/] * Katrina’s YouTube Channel [https://www.youtube.com/user/tangohio] Email link for ordering Discovering the Feminine Genius and The Body Reveals God books: * mailto:tobspeaker@gmail.com [tobspeaker@gmail.com] ---------------------------------------- Photo by Tim Mossholder [https://www.pexels.com/@timmossholder?utm_content=attributionCopyText&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=pexels] from Pexels [https://www.pexels.com/photo/male-and-female-signage-on-wall-1722196/?utm_content=attributionCopyText&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=pexels]. ---------------------------------------- For more information on the show and other resources visit https://healingandpeace.com/blog/about/ [https://healingandpeace.com/blog/about/]. To subscribe to the blog/show eNewsletter, visit https://healingandpeace.com/blog/how-to-subscribe-to-the-healing-and-peace-show-with-thomas-schmierer-lmft/ [https://healingandpeace.com/blog/how-to-subscribe-to-the-healing-and-peace-show-with-thomas-schmierer-lmft/].

008: Fear, Longing and Fathers—Maura Preszler

https://youtu.be/2QHfMtbb_Z8 Are you a woman who has been emotionally or physically battered by the important man or men in your life?  Are you, perhaps, a father who knows that he is overly critical of his daughter, but just can’t help himself?  Our guest in this episode [https://healingandpeace.com/blog/media/podcasts-vlogs/the-healing-and-peace-show-with-thomas-schmierer-lmft-catholic-therapist/guests/preszler-maura/] offers direction and encouragement for women who have been mistreated by men and inspiration for fathers who need to do a better job at telling their daughters that they are lovable, just as they are. When the important men in a girl or woman’s life are emotionally abusive, the net result can be an eating disorder.  Maura Preszler [https://healingandpeace.com/blog/media/podcasts-vlogs/the-healing-and-peace-show-with-thomas-schmierer-lmft-catholic-therapist/guests/preszler-maura/], our guest, knows all about eating disorders, having experienced one herself.  Maura [https://healingandpeace.com/blog/media/podcasts-vlogs/the-healing-and-peace-show-with-thomas-schmierer-lmft-catholic-therapist/guests/preszler-maura/] is a graduate of Seton Hall University where she was a Division II runner and soccer player and is the founder of Made in His Image [https://madeinhisimage.org/], a ministry for women recovering from eating disorders and abuse.  In this episode, Maura [https://healingandpeace.com/blog/media/podcasts-vlogs/the-healing-and-peace-show-with-thomas-schmierer-lmft-catholic-therapist/guests/preszler-maura/] tells about how she was diagnosed with Depression, PTSD and Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and was, then advised by professionals to leave her family home in order to get the distance needed to heal through psychotherapy and Catholic spiritual practices.  In addition to sharing her story of healing, in this episode Maura addresses: * What does the Made in His Image [https://madeinhisimage.org/] ministry do on social media? * How does the expectation of how a woman should look compare between New Jersey and California? * How pressures are put on women who do cross country running, gymnastics or ballet that can contribute to developing an eating disorder * How she struggled with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and what the symptoms were * What are the main features of BPD? * How God intervened in her life and her trust in Him comforted her in fearful moments * What Catholic spiritual habits helped her recover from BPD * How she went to India with Varsity Catholic, a FOCUS Ministry, and worked with Mother Theresa and the Missionaries of Charity and the impact this had on the development of her spiritual habits * What the most effective part of the treatment that she received for BPD was * How having a male therapist who can be a father figure can be an essential factor in the successful treatment of BPD and eating disorders like anorexia and binge eating in females * How we need others in order to heal * How God created little girls to need their father’s affection and love * How an abused girl or woman can have a distorted view of God the Father * What is the A.C.T.S. prayer structure? * How talking to God like He is a friend can help one to develop a better relationship with God the Father * How can a girl find a Made in His Image [https://madeinhisimage.org/] support group near her? * How can a woman start her own Made in His Image support group? ---------------------------------------- Made in His Image website: * https://madeinhisimage.org/ [https://madeinhisimage.org/] Book Maura Preszler to speak: * https://madeinhisimage.org/speaking/ [https://madeinhisimage.org/speaking/] ---------------------------------------- Photo by Gustavo Fring [https://www.pexels.com/@gustavo-fring?utm_content=attributionCopyText&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=pexels] from Pexels [https://www.pexels.com/photo/a-lovely-girl-giving-her-father-a-kiss-3875480/?utm_content=attributionCopyText&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=pexels]. ---------------------------------------- For more information on the show and other resources visit https://healingandpeace.com/blog/about/ [https://healingandpeace.com/blog/about/]. To subscribe to the blog and show eNewsletter, visit https://healingandpeace.com/blog/how-to-subscribe-to-the-healing-and-peace-show-with-thomas-schmierer-lmft/ [https://healingandpeace.com/blog/how-to-subscribe-to-the-healing-and-peace-show-with-thomas-schmierer-lmft/].

007: Developing a Good Relationship with Food—Emily Boller

https://youtu.be/VW-8kTheh2w Do you have a love/hate relationship with food?  Are you looking for a way to apply Christian principles to help improve your relationship with food?  Whether you binge only on occasion or have a full-blown eating disorder where you binge and/or purge regularly, today’s guest can help you.  Emily Boller [https://healingandpeace.com/blog/media/podcasts-vlogs/the-healing-and-peace-show-with-thomas-schmierer-lmft-catholic-therapist/guests/boller-emily/] has not only recovered from an eating disorder, but has also inspired millions along the way.  She is an author and a speaker with a Bachelor’s in Fine Arts and has received certificates from the Nutritarian Educational Institute.  Most importantly, she is endorsed by our most recent guest [https://healingandpeace.com/blog/media/podcasts-vlogs/the-healing-and-peace-show-with-thomas-schmierer-lmft-catholic-therapist/006-eating-for-mental-physical-health-joel-fuhrman-md/], NY Times Best Seller and creator of the nutritarian diet, Dr. Joel Fuhrman [https://healingandpeace.com/blog/media/podcasts-vlogs/the-healing-and-peace-show-with-thomas-schmierer-lmft-catholic-therapist/guests/fuhrman-joel/]. Emily Boller [https://healingandpeace.com/blog/media/podcasts-vlogs/the-healing-and-peace-show-with-thomas-schmierer-lmft-catholic-therapist/guests/boller-emily/] went from morbidly obese to anorexic to engaging in binging and purging behaviors, but eventually developed a healthy and truly satisfying relationship with food.  When her son committed suicide due, in part, to a junk food-induced psychosis called metabolic encephalopathy, it sent her into a grieving process that involved regressing to old ways of eating.  With the help of the Lord and others who the Lord put into her life, Emily [https://healingandpeace.com/blog/media/podcasts-vlogs/the-healing-and-peace-show-with-thomas-schmierer-lmft-catholic-therapist/guests/boller-emily/] was able to heal from the trauma of her son’s death, regain peace and rekindle her passion for healthy eating.  Besides sharing these stories, in this episode, Emily [https://healingandpeace.com/blog/media/podcasts-vlogs/the-healing-and-peace-show-with-thomas-schmierer-lmft-catholic-therapist/guests/boller-emily/] addresses the following: * What does the title of the book “Starved to Obesity” mean? * What is the connection between micronutrient intake and obesity? * How can a dieting mentality be harmful? * How following the guidance of Dr. Fuhrman [https://healingandpeace.com/blog/media/podcasts-vlogs/the-healing-and-peace-show-with-thomas-schmierer-lmft-catholic-therapist/guests/fuhrman-joel/]’s Eat to Live book helped her to lose 100 lbs. in less than a year * What is the nutrient scoring of food and how can Dr. Fuhrman [https://healingandpeace.com/blog/media/podcasts-vlogs/the-healing-and-peace-show-with-thomas-schmierer-lmft-catholic-therapist/guests/fuhrman-joel/]’s Food Scoring Guide help you to know how nourished your body is? * What size salad should we be eating to optimize our health? * What does the grief process look like after one’s child commits suicide? * Can a person be addicted to low-nutrient foods that are relatively healthy for you? * What is the best way to stop eating so much of a particular food that we overeat? * How do we apply Dr. Fuhrman [https://healingandpeace.com/blog/media/podcasts-vlogs/the-healing-and-peace-show-with-thomas-schmierer-lmft-catholic-therapist/guests/fuhrman-joel/]’s formula “Health = Nutrients / Calories” (H = N/C)? * How long does it take to break a habit of eating too much of a particular food? * What are some Biblical quotes to help guide overeaters? * Is there any connection, however remote, between healthy eating and the pro-life cause? * What are the effects of giving foods like candy and ice cream to our children as rewards for outstanding behavior or to cheer them up? * Do the ministers of the Christian Church have any responsibility to educate the flock on morality as pertains to food choices? * What connection can be made between art, beauty, our bodies and diet? ---------------------------------------- Links to Bible quotes cited by Emily Boller: > “All things are lawful,” but not all things are helpful. “All things are lawful,” but not all things build up. (1 Cor 10:23 RSVCE [https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1+Corinthians+10%3A23&version=RSVCE]) > > > No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your strength, but with the temptation will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it. (1 Cor 10:13 RSVCE [https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1+Corinthians+10%3A13&version=RSVCE]) ---------------------------------------- Emily Boller’s site information (including the Transformation art exhibit): * EmilyBoller.com [http://www.emilyboller.com/] Emily’s book: * Starved to Obesity [https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/starved-to-obesity-emily-boller/1129747997?ean=9781642930511] ---------------------------------------- Joel Fuhrman, MD [https://healingandpeace.com/blog/media/podcasts-vlogs/the-healing-and-peace-show-with-thomas-schmierer-lmft-catholic-therapist/guests/fuhrman-joel/]’s site information: * Main site: https://www.drfuhrman.com/ [https://www.drfuhrman.com/] * Main store: https://shop.drfuhrman.com/ [https://shop.drfuhrman.com/] * Book store: https://shop.drfuhrman.com/books-video/ [https://shop.drfuhrman.com/books-video/] Dr. Fuhrman’s books mentioned by Emily Boller [https://healingandpeace.com/blog/media/podcasts-vlogs/the-healing-and-peace-show-with-thomas-schmierer-lmft-catholic-therapist/guests/boller-emily/] (see “Book store” link above to purchase): * Eat to Live [https://shop.drfuhrman.com/books-video/] * Eating for Health [https://shop.drfuhrman.com/books-video/] * Nutritarian Handbook & ANDI Food Scoring Guide [https://shop.drfuhrman.com/books-video/] ---------------------------------------- Photo of strawberries and tape measure by Lisa Fotios from Pexels [https://www.pexels.com/photo/strawberries-and-measuring-tape-1172019/?utm_content=attributionCopyText&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=pexels]. ---------------------------------------- For more information on the show and other resources visit https://healingandpeace.com/blog/about/ [https://healingandpeace.com/blog/about/]. To subscribe to the blog and show eNewsletter, visit https://healingandpeace.com/blog/how-to-subscribe-to-the-healing-and-peace-show-with-thomas-schmierer-lmft/ [https://healingandpeace.com/blog/how-to-subscribe-to-the-healing-and-peace-show-with-thomas-schmierer-lmft/].

006: Eating for Mental & Physical Health—Joel Fuhrman, MD

https://youtu.be/a1JliV9KNmI Do you suffer from brain fog, attention-deficit disorder, anxiety, or depression? Or have you been diagnosed with hypertension, cardiovascular disease, or Type II Diabetes? Do you want relief from one or more of these problems, but don’t want to take drugs or have surgery? Our guest in this episode, Joel Fuhrman, MD [https://healingandpeace.com/blog/media/podcasts-vlogs/the-healing-and-peace-show-with-thomas-schmierer-lmft-catholic-therapist/guests/fuhrman-joel/], will explain how you can get better without going to the hospital. He is a NY Times best-selling author and the creator of the nutritarian diet. In this episode, Dr. Fuhrman [https://healingandpeace.com/blog/media/podcasts-vlogs/the-healing-and-peace-show-with-thomas-schmierer-lmft-catholic-therapist/guests/fuhrman-joel/] addresses the following: * What is the most evidence-based diet for optimizing mental and physical health? * Which types of studies on nutritional science are the most credible? * What is the nutritarian diet? * What is a good first step for those who want to improve their mental and physical health? * What is the best diet for treating fertility problems like polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS)? * How does a plant-based, whole food diet compare to one that includes lots of animal products? * What does the evidence say about the ketogenic (“keto”) diet and health/longevity? * Where can a food-addicted client go to learn and practice better lifestyle choices? * Can a person do a medically-supervised fast at the Eat to Live Retreat Center in San Diego? ---------------------------------------- Joel Fuhrman, MD’s site information: * Main site: https://www.drfuhrman.com/ [https://www.drfuhrman.com/] * Main store: https://shop.drfuhrman.com/ [https://shop.drfuhrman.com/] * Book store: https://shop.drfuhrman.com/books-video/ [https://shop.drfuhrman.com/books-video/] ---------------------------------------- Books mentioned by Dr. Fuhrman : * The End of Dieting [https://shop.drfuhrman.com/books-video/] * Eat to Live [https://shop.drfuhrman.com/books-video/] * Fast Food Genocide [https://shop.drfuhrman.com/books-video/] * Fasting and Eating for Health [https://shop.drfuhrman.com/books-video/] ---------------------------------------- For more information on the show and other resources visit https://healingandpeace.com/blog/ [https://healingandpeace.com/blog/]. To subscribe to the blog and show eNewsletter, visit https://healingandpeace.com/blog/about/ [https://healingandpeace.com/blog/about/].

005: Dating Standards and the Four Loves — Rev. Thomas G. Morrow, STD

https://youtu.be/D8cRQDdJllY Looking for advice on Catholic dating? Our guest in this episode is Fr. Thomas Morrow [https://healingandpeace.com/blog/media/podcasts-vlogs/the-healing-and-peace-show-with-thomas-schmierer-lmft-catholic-therapist/guests/morrow-thomas/], leading expert on Christian dating & marriage preparation and author of several books, including Christian Courtship in An Oversexed World (now titled Christian Dating in A Godless World [https://cfalive.com/collections/books/products/christian-dating-in-a-godless-world]). In this episode, Fr. Morrow [https://healingandpeace.com/blog/media/podcasts-vlogs/the-healing-and-peace-show-with-thomas-schmierer-lmft-catholic-therapist/guests/morrow-thomas/] addresses the following: * Why was the title of his book Christian Courtship in an Oversexed World changed to Christian Dating in a Godless World [https://cfalive.com/collections/books/products/christian-dating-in-a-godless-world]? * What are the four loves in the Greek language? * How do these four loves relate to dating and marital relationships? * How important is affection in marriage? * What ways of being affectionate are appropriate for dating relationships? * How much intimacy is good in a dating relationship, i.e. courtship? * What is the difference between mere sexual intimacy vs. personal intimacy? * What is the best way to run a young adult or singles ministry? * What is the difference between the world’s path to finding a spouse and the Catholic path? * Where can single women find single men who are faithful Catholics? * Should a faithful Catholic date a marginal or non-Catholic and why? * How can a Catholic single find Mr. or Mrs. Right? * What is a tangible benefit of fostering and maintaining chastity during courtship? * Should anyone try to convert their romantic interest to the Catholic faith? * How important is it to go to daily Mass when single? * How does the Mass compare to the other sacraments? * What role does oxytocin and testosterone play in pre-marital sexual relations? * What do you do if your boyfriend or girlfriend asks about past sins? * How long should I date someone before getting married? * Is it good to get rid of pre-conversion friends and find new faithful Catholic friends when you have a seriously sinful past? * How important is it if your boyfriend or girlfriend treats certain others poorly as long as he or she treats you well? * Is it good to have high standards when dating? * What standards should you set when choosing whom to date? * How do the principles of Sexaholics Anonymous [https://www.sa.org/] line up with Catholic moral teachings on sexuality? * Can attending Sexaholics Anonymous [https://www.sa.org/] meetings really help those with an addiction to pornography overcome their addicition? ---------------------------------------- Rev. Thomas G. Morrow, STD’s site information: * Catholic Faith Alive!, Inc.: https://cfalive.com/ [https://cfalive.com/] * Achieving Chastity in a Pornographic World: https://cfalive.com/pages/achieving-chastity-in-a-pornographic-world [https://cfalive.com/pages/achieving-chastity-in-a-pornographic-world] ---------------------------------------- Resources referenced by Rev. Thomas G. Morrow, STD: * Hephzibah Anderson, Chastened: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/307053/chastened-by-hephzibah-anderson/ [https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/307053/chastened-by-hephzibah-anderson/] * John van Epp, How to Avoid Marrying a Jerk: https://www.mhprofessional.com/9780071548427-usa-how-to-avoid-falling-in-love-with-a-jerk-group [https://www.mhprofessional.com/9780071548427-usa-how-to-avoid-falling-in-love-with-a-jerk-group] * Film, Fireproof: http://www.affirmfilms.com/movie/fireproof/ [http://www.affirmfilms.com/movie/fireproof/] ---------------------------------------- Featured image photo credit: Jeswin Thomas [https://www.pexels.com/@jeswin?utm_content=attributionCopyText&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=pexels] from Pexels [https://www.pexels.com/photo/man-giving-jacket-to-woman-1405739/?utm_content=attributionCopyText&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=pexels]. ---------------------------------------- For more information on the show and other resources visit https://healingandpeace.com/blog/ [https://healingandpeace.com/blog/]. To subscribe to the blog and show eNewsletter, visit https://healingandpeace.com/blog/about/ [https://healingandpeace.com/blog/about/].