Facilitating the Hardest Moments of Being Human. A Conversation with Gareth Vaughan

Sensing the Room - When Your Body Knows Before You Do

Intuition? Reading the room? Picking up on cues? What’s that ‘thing’… when you just know something is happening in the room, before you can explain it. Before anyone has said anything. Before there’s any obvious signal. Your body somehow got there first. That’s something I’ve been looking into a lot lately, and working with my clients on… with new group leaders and trainers developing their own sense of this, to helping very experienced ones use it when they are supporting their own training teams. It’s something I will be continuing to explore, so please as always do reach out if you have thoughts, experiences, questions on this that we can look at in future episodes. You can email me at tom@tom-cleary.co.uk [tom@tom-cleary.co.uk] | Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify | Read and comment on Substack: https://substack.com/@tomclearyuk [https://substack.com/@tomclearyuk] | Find out more about Thoughtful Facilitation: https://www.tom-cleary.co.uk/thoughtful-facilitation [https://www.tom-cleary.co.uk/thoughtful-facilitation] | Connect on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tom-cleary-coaching/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/tom-cleary-coaching/] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit tomclearyuk.substack.com [https://tomclearyuk.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

Strengths, Flames and Feedback... A Conversation with Matthew Morris (Part 2)

Here is part 2 of the conversation I had with Matthew Morris, course creator for Emotional First Aid. We carry on where the last episode left off (obviously!), with Matthew’s take on the ‘layers of humanity that exist within groups’, stories and meaning making, and how we take our own strengths for granted (I love this, I’ve used almost word for word what Matthew says in so many of my own courses, and I find it fascinating that that’s happened, two people who have never coordinated this can be using such similar phrases). And many more topics. Matthew also asks several questions of experienced trainers and facilitators - I’m collecting these to ask future guests, but please also write in and contact myself or Matthew about your own answers to his questions! We’d absolutely love to hear from you! You can connect with Matthew here: * www.emotional-firstaid.co.uk [http://www.emotional-firstaid.co.uk] * https://www.linkedin.com/in/matthew-morris-48181b72/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/matthew-morris-48181b72/] And with me, here: * You can email me at tom@tom-cleary.co.uk [tom@tom-cleary.co.uk] * LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tom-cleary-coaching/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/tom-cleary-coaching/] * Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify * Read and comment on Substack: https://substack.com/@tomclearyuk [https://substack.com/@tomclearyuk] * Find out more about Thoughtful Facilitation: https://www.tom-cleary.co.uk/thoughtful-facilitation [https://www.tom-cleary.co.uk/thoughtful-facilitation] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit tomclearyuk.substack.com [https://tomclearyuk.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

Authenticity, Marbles and Emotional First Aid... A Conversation with Matthew Morris (Part 1)

I’ve only worked with today’s guest a few times, but I had been thinking for a while that a combination of things would make a conversation with him interesting for many listeners. Partly his own experience of becoming a trainer (something that wasn’t really in his plan as a course and content writer!) and how he’s been navigating himself in that new world, and then also the course he wrote (Emotional First Aid, EFA) as there are many elements of it which I think link with multiple threads we talk about on the podcast. As I was editing, I decided to split the episode into 2 parts as it was a slightly longer one than usual, and because we were covering so many themes. As always, please do let me know if that works for you/doesn’t work for you! And any thoughts you have about the topics in this episode. You can connect with Matthew here: * www.emotional-firstaid.co.uk [http://www.emotional-firstaid.co.uk] * https://www.linkedin.com/in/matthew-morris-48181b72/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/matthew-morris-48181b72/] And with me, here: * You can email me at tom@tom-cleary.co.uk [tom@tom-cleary.co.uk] * LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tom-cleary-coaching/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/tom-cleary-coaching/] * Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify * Read and comment on Substack: https://substack.com/@tomclearyuk [https://substack.com/@tomclearyuk] * Find out more about Thoughtful Facilitation: https://www.tom-cleary.co.uk/thoughtful-facilitation [https://www.tom-cleary.co.uk/thoughtful-facilitation] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit tomclearyuk.substack.com [https://tomclearyuk.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

Spilled Water, Monkeys and Introversion… A conversation with Susan Baird

What skills do introverted trainers bring to the room? In this episode I’m joined by Susan Baird, Executive Career Coach, Facilitator and founder of Advantage Coaching and Training Ltd. Susan has spent 25 years working in HR across multiple sectors and countries, and brings a lot of hard-won experience to how she thinks about working with groups. We talk about why discussion and debate can do things that just ‘telling’ simply doesn’t, and how Susan reads a room and what she’s actually looking for when she does. We also get into the introvert in the room, spilled water at the worst times(!), and… monkeys on shoulders? Susan is warm, honest and very genuine, and I think a lot of people who work with groups will recognise themselves in this conversation. I’d love to hear from you. How do you create the conditions for real discussion in the groups you work with? You can email me at tom@tom-cleary.co.uk [tom@tom-cleary.co.uk] | Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify | Read and comment on Substack: https://substack.com/@tomclearyuk [https://substack.com/@tomclearyuk] | Find out more about Thoughtful Facilitation: https://www.tom-cleary.co.uk/thoughtful-facilitation [https://www.tom-cleary.co.uk/thoughtful-facilitation] You can find Susan at www.advantagecoaching.co.uk [http://www.advantagecoaching.co.uk] and on LinkedIn at https://www.linkedin.com/in/susan-baird-advantage-coaching/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/susan-baird-advantage-coaching/] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit tomclearyuk.substack.com [https://tomclearyuk.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

Facilitating the Hardest Moments of Being Human. A Conversation with Gareth Vaughan

Being human contains moments of immense joy… and moments of profound sadness and challenge. This episode sits in that second space. I’m joined by Gareth Vaughan, a counsellor, psychotherapist and clinical supervisor who I’ve known since attending some training together as learners, many, many years ago. Gareth has spent his career working alongside people navigating some of life’s biggest moments (bereavement, cancer, trauma, loss) in settings ranging from hospices to the NHS to his own private practice. We talk about what therapy skills bring to group work, the particular challenge of reading a room when you can see almost too much, and what to do when someone in a group needs more space than the session can give them. We also explore the idea that many facilitators working on heavy topics rarely have anything equivalent to clinical supervision, and why that matters. Gareth’s closing thought about going with the flow sounds simple, but there’s more to it than that, and I hope it lands the way it deserves to. As always, please keep your own wellbeing in mind. If today isn’t the right day for these topics, please skip this episode or come back another time. You can email me at tom@tom-cleary.co.uk [tom@tom-cleary.co.uk] | Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify | Read and comment on Substack: https://substack.com/@tomclearyuk [https://substack.com/@tomclearyuk] | Find out more about Thoughtful Facilitation: https://www.tom-cleary.co.uk/thoughtful-facilitation [https://www.tom-cleary.co.uk/thoughtful-facilitation] Find Gareth at www.gareth-vaughan.co.uk [http://www.gareth-vaughan.co.uk] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit tomclearyuk.substack.com [https://tomclearyuk.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]