Ep. 7 - Johnny Bowman's Conversational Portrait

Ep. 7 - Johnny Bowman's Conversational Portrait

Johnny Bowman shares about.. - Men’s work with formerly incarcerated men and white collar millennial–and the unique medicine the former can gift - Going from feeling like an emotional child in his early 30s, lapped by his peers, to finding and creating beautiful examples of community - The usefulness and uselessness of shame - The missing lessons from Harvard Business School that shaped what he pursued in work - Trying to understand who he was after his dream didn’t pan out, without money as a buffer from facing his emotions - What is missing from a secular justice system that we once had in religious community - Becoming a man who can help create safety for other men - Why he considers early Christian saints to be the biggest punks of their time - Expanding the definition of strength so it works better for more men - How dads are an especially lonely species, especially those who were trained not to be “The Angry Dad” Chapters 00:59 Creating Safety and Community 15:00 "I felt like an emotional child." 18:58 Restaurant owner energy: a male archetype 23:47 The missing lessons from Harvard Business School 27:54 From my core wound to my central focus on behalf of others 35:32 "That was the most energizing feeling I could get." 38:06 "My dream did not pan out, so who am I?" 48:03 From economics and politics to emotional states 54:34 "What am I really avoiding by telling myself I'm not a good leader?" 59:38 With conflict avoidance, there is no safety 01:07:08 "Shame is a paralyzing emotion that doesn't make anyone change." 01:14:49 The Gray Area Between Spirituality, Religion, and Justice 01:29:27 Helping men feel safe 01:37:27 A credible messenger; service over domination 01:52:25 "Every dude responds well to that." 01:54:47 Finding the right words and terms for Men's Work 01:59:29 Expanding the definition of strength 02:02:30 "When people say the truth to each other, things are more interesting." 02:05:41 "Dads are an especially lonely species." 02:11:16 "Anger is the #1 emotion white collar men are afraid to express." 02:17:33 "Everyone is more similar to me than different." 02:24:04 Debrief and Behind-the-Scenes Show Notes 20:45 - Restaurant owner energy https://newsletter.amanswork.com/p/how-to-prescribe-manhood [https://newsletter.amanswork.com/p/how-to-prescribe-manhood] 27:25 - All Kings, a Men’s Group for formerly incarcerated https://www.allkings.org/ 01:07:15 - Atanarjuat: The Fast Runner, an Inuit film https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Atanarjuat:_The_Fast_Runner [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Atanarjuat:_The_Fast_Runner] 01:08:15 - robert wolff’s Original Wisdom https://www.amazon.com/Original-Wisdom-Stories-Ancient-Knowing/dp/0892818662 [https://www.amazon.com/Original-Wisdom-Stories-Ancient-Knowing/dp/0892818662] 01:15:40 - Johnny’s blog post on the Rabbi who visited a prisoner https://newsletter.amanswork.com/p/who-are-your-people [https://newsletter.amanswork.com/p/who-are-your-people] 01:22:30 - ManKind Project https://mankindproject.org/ 01:25:45 - Freedom and getting your balls back https://newsletter.amanswork.com/p/the-primary-question [https://newsletter.amanswork.com/p/the-primary-question] 02:23:40 - The Mark of Cain (Russian prison tattoo documentary): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vj-fccwTjuI [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vj-fccwTjuI] 02:25:45 - All Kings coverage in the NYT https://www.nytimes.com/2024/07/01/style/all-kings-mens-work-retreat-masculinity.html [https://www.nytimes.com/2024/07/01/style/all-kings-mens-work-retreat-masculinity.html] or https://archive.is/fWfXb Find Johnny Bowman everywhereSubstack newsletter: A Man's Work: Hot takes and tools for modern manhood [http://newsletter.amanswork.com/] https://newsletter.amanswork.com/ [https://newsletter.amanswork.com/]  X: https://x.com/johnnyfbowman [https://x.com/johnnyfbowman] Give Feedbackhttps://forms.gle/t7WucZyUKvu12tN8A Music credits:Mozert by John Vallis (https://johnvallis.bandcamp.com)Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 Get full access to The Inner Landscape Travel Agency at tilta.substack.com/subscribe [https://tilta.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

Ep. 6 - Anita Tatlow's Conversational Portrait

Anita Tatlow shares about.. * How 432hz can send a fussy 18-month-old to sleep * Naming a song-in-progress to convey its essence with collaborators * Writing music from darker places, joyous ones, and also the okay ones in between * How an international community of friends can come together for each other during preterm births and other hard times * Releasing music under a moniker vs under one’s own name * Pioneering with the ambient Christian music space * The inspiration of a geographical region through its little known sides * The musical identity of a cosmopolitan church in Sweden with congregants from 70+ countries Chapters 00:00 "When you're creating, everything else is silence." 10:53 Collaborating on a song through the essence of its title 14:27 432hz: The frequency of the universe..and restless toddlers? 19:43 Sounds of the night: Aurora Borealis in Sweden and gritty city lights of Hong Kong 21:41 Finding silence with children and, despite distance, international friends 30:39 The Value of Chosen Family and Close Relationships 36:25 Exploring emotions poetically and spiritually 43:11 Writing music in the dark spaces, the light ones, and the moments in between 47:44 Creating behind a moniker and under my own name 57:30 Realizing the reciprocal nature of the human experience 01:03:14 2008: Meeting over music and bonding over faith 01:06:36 Pioneering a niche with ambient Christian music 01:14:31 The space ambient music can give us 01:23:27 Art should be adding to the human experience 01:30:51 Inspiration and amazement through London, Sweden, Hong Kong, and the world 01:40:35 A cosmopolitan church in Sweden with 70+ nationalities 01:49:56 Faith through questions, doubt, and challenges Show Notes 13:24 - Anita Tatlow’s Nocturnae [https://youtu.be/9yj_DIotJdM] https://youtu.be/9yj_DIotJdM [https://youtu.be/9yj_DIotJdM] 14:24 - 432hz https://www.calm.com/blog/432-hertz 18:05 - Organist Jameson Nathan Jones https://www.youtube.com/c/JamesonNathanJones 36:58 - Brene Brown’s Atlas of the Heart https://www.amazon.com/Atlas-Heart-Meaningful-Connection-Experience/dp/0593207246/ 48:50 - Anita’s Lights EP https://open.spotify.com/album/2XpmTqJLaXDu9CGLs7P0Xz#login [https://open.spotify.com/album/2XpmTqJLaXDu9CGLs7P0Xz#login] 49:15 - Anita and Ben’s Salt of the Sound https://www.youtube.com/saltofthesound 49:16 - Anita and Ben’s Narrow Skies https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-BypgjGf27pwbsvO-owbTA 01:11:14 17 minute co-created journey, the In Prayer EP https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kd18QH97LpQ [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kd18QH97LpQ] 01:18:10 - Kyrie Eleison https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O05FVWIuavc [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O05FVWIuavc] 01:29:14 - Sarah Groves’s Add to the Beauty https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FqoxH2J1pLg [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FqoxH2J1pLg] Find Anita Tatlow everywhere Instagram: https://instagram.com/anita_tatlow Facebook: https://facebook.com/anitatatlowmusic Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/4hjXUEgdALesVBGGDx1hKB?si=jxPZikydQB672POslweA1A [https://open.spotify.com/artist/4hjXUEgdALesVBGGDx1hKB?si=jxPZikydQB672POslweA1A] Salt of the SoundInstagram: https://instagram.com/saltofthesound Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/0S3L6vtzNN4ArFWH2709SB?si=fKpbjWyPRB2Y5WTUdRWJ8w [https://open.spotify.com/artist/0S3L6vtzNN4ArFWH2709SB?si=fKpbjWyPRB2Y5WTUdRWJ8w] Give Feedback https://forms.gle/t7WucZyUKvu12tN8A Music credits: Mozert by John Vallis (https://johnvallis.bandcamp.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 Get full access to The Inner Landscape Travel Agency at tilta.substack.com/subscribe [https://tilta.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

Ep. 5 - Neseret Bemient's Conversational Portrait

Neseret Bemient shares about.. - Fearing the conscription of her brothers as child soldiers while in Ethiopia, navigating a Kenyan refugee camp, and emigrating to Canada  - Becoming a mental health practitioner—and patient - Recovering from antidepressant-induced bipolar disorder across ten different medications over 13 years (now zero) - Living too quietly most of her and life and now opening up to speaking and being seen- Not knowing what it meant to be a mother at 22 and finding new hope through instinct - Racing to raise her wounded inner child and intergenerational trauma to raise her daughter - How sorting yourself out is the best gift you can give your child and being of service—and hope—to so many globally Chapters 00:00 "How can I overcome--and help others do the same?" 13:37 Unlearning an Ethiopian bond with animals 18:07 A compassion for others from my experience 34:40 Finding hope and instinct at 22 with my daughter 42:12 "The first patient on the operating table is yourself" 46:39 Growing up in a different tradition of mutual care 53:15 Healing and wholeness is an an inner journey, not a "next pill" one 58:11 Narrative Psychiatry 01:08:54 A person who is sick has just one dream 01:13:57 Becoming a psych nurse chose me 01:21:57 Becoming the mother I wanted to be 01:37:09 The thousand dreams I've dreamt since recovery 01:49:07 Tracing the generations of women in my family 01:54:33 Living through a civil war 02:01:35 Away from mass graves and into a Kenyan refugee camp 02:16:11 Finding a new family in Canada 02:27:52 Shifting from thinking in Amharic to English; refuge through my ESL teacher 02:34:41 Finding unconditional love and commonality with a former hockey player from Alberta 02:41:01 The questions I hope to ask and the ones I hope to answer 02:47:14 Communing with my inner need to create 02:52:04 Creativity and mental illness: pathology and the normal range of human experiences 03:12:44 Debrief and Behind the Scenes Show Notes - Neville Goddard https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Neville_Goddard - Og Mandino’s The Greatest Miracle in the World https://www.amazon.com/Greatest-Miracle-World-Og-Mandino/dp/0553279726 - 59:04 - Lewis Mehl-Madrona’s Narrative Medicine: The Use of History and Story in the Healing Process https://www.amazon.com/Narrative-Medicine-History-Healing-Process/dp/1591430658 1:14:04 - Viktor Frankl’s Man’s Search for Meaning https://www.amazon.com/Mans-Search-Meaning-Viktor-Frankl/dp/0807014273 2:35:15 - David Hawkins https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/David_Hawkins_(philosopher) Find Neseret Bemient everywhere X: https://twitter.com/JourneyofHope4U YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@NeseretBemient Website: https://www.mentalhealthreset.org/ Give Feedbackhttps://forms.gle/t7WucZyUKvu12tN8A Music credits:Mozert by John Vallis (https://johnvallis.bandcamp.com)Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 Get full access to The Inner Landscape Travel Agency at tilta.substack.com/subscribe [https://tilta.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

Ep. 4 - Anya Ruvinskaya's Conversational Portrait

Anya Ruvinskaya shares about.. - The lifelong search for home within the overlap of many communities - Connecting connect to the spiritual in any culture - Finding creativity after living through communism and atheism - When the answers aren’t the answers and won’t give you what you think you want - Generational values of living for oneself and living for others, and how financial freedom can obscure community ties - The development of the individual (and AI) within different cultural values Chapters 00:00 The Power of Curiosity 00:52 Numbing Silence, Reflective Silence, and Going inward 09:02 Curiosity in Namibia 14:51 Assimilating and Finding the Culturally Universal 24:25 Searching for Home and Feeling Estranged 45:48 Exploring From a Wound 56:36 Giving Myself Permission to Explore Making Art (While Navigating Death) 01:02:31 The Questions I'm Still Holding 01:08:44 Material Success and Letting Myself Feel Free 01:10:44 Do I Want the Answers to My Questions? 01:14:47 Running Away From My Intuition 01:22:40 The (Im)possibility of Belonging 01:30:43 Finding Creativity After Communism and Atheism 01:41:11 Alone, Not Lonely 01:46:44 Encountering the Sacred in Any Religion 01:56:18 Feeling Understood by AI (and People) 02:04:52 Personal Sabbaticals and Communal Roles 02:10:09 Unsuccessfully Filling Social Needs With TV (and AI) 02:21:52 The Development of the Individual (and AI) Within Cultural Values 02:38:43 Fostering Understanding and Connection through Conversation Show Notes Gentle high pitch sounds that’s pleasant from Tiesto’s Walking on Clouds, especially around 5:42): https://youtu.be/K2CeXZlSZak [https://youtu.be/K2CeXZlSZak] 47:34 Laurie Santos’ Coursera offering The Science of Wellbeing https://www.coursera.org/learn/the-science-of-well-being 48:40 The Artist’s Way https://www.amazon.com/Artists-Way-25th-Anniversary/dp/0143129252/ 59:25 The Five Whys https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Five_whys 01:25:15 - The How of Happiness by Sonja Lyubomirsky https://www.amazon.com/How-Happiness-Approach-Getting-Life/dp/0143114956 01:29:01 - Thich Nhat Hanh’s book on anger https://www.amazon.com/Anger-Cooling-Thich-Nhat-Hanh/dp/1573229377 01:56:01 - Pi, the emotionally intelligent AI https://pi.ai/onboarding 02:43:15 - James Finley on a Meditation for Two https://youtu.be/E17l20-j8hk [https://youtu.be/E17l20-j8hk] Find Anya Ruvinskaya everywhere LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/anya-ruvinskaya/ Give Feedback https://forms.gle/t7WucZyUKvu12tN8A Music credits: Mozert by John Vallis (https://johnvallis.bandcamp.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 Get full access to The Inner Landscape Travel Agency at tilta.substack.com/subscribe [https://tilta.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

Ep. 3 - Bethany Ranes' Conversational Portrait

Bethany Ranes shares about.. - Becoming maternal as a stepmother, letting failure guide development - How growing up in an era of shame helped her become a more attuned neuroscientist - A quirky neuroscientist's intuition, interoception, and instinct - Appalachian Granny Magick - Rolling into a police station with derby gear and a mohawk–-for professional reason s - Seeing the soul as the energy between the neurons Chapters 00:00 "Sensations of the Past With the Thoughts of the Present" 07:48 Aha Moments and a Continuous State of Awe 12:46 Parenting and Learning from Mistakes 18:53 Rebelling In Favor of Boredom 21:15 Becoming Step-Maternal and Nurturing the Ability to Fail 26:29 Taking Things Apart But Not Putting Them Back Together 32:28 Growing Up in an Era of Shame..While Helping Those In Need 35:30 Depression as a Condition of Being 38:51 Your Body is Working as it Should 42:35 Being a Perennial Misunderstood 49:45 A Neuroscientist's Intuition, Interoception, and Instinct 01:15:56 Living in a Place, As What the Place Is 01:22:06 The Quirky People Who Let Me Embrace My Quirk 01:33:14 Being Loved Because I'm Like This 01:39:45 Continuity With My Family's Culture: From Other-ness to Us-ness 01:52:01 Exploring Abnormal Psychology (Because It's All Abnormal) 01:55:47 The Soul as the Energy Between the Neurons 02:05:10 The Symbols Only Available to Us Through Other Religions--Including Appalachian Granny Magic 02:11:20 Making Rules That Aren't "'Cuz I Said So" 02:20:00 Imagination, Creativity, and Solving SQL Challenges in a Dream 02:41:37 Embracing Curiosity and Self-Discovery 02:48:15 Debrief and Behind the Scenes Show Notes ~14:40 Nobel Prize-winning Hungarian biochemist Albert Szent-Gyorgyi https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Albert_Szent-Gy%C3%B6rgyi John Wheeler’s Participatory Universe image (the J that is actually a U) https://www.organism.earth/library/docs/john-archibald-wheeler/participatory-universe.jpg 02:04:00 - Lisa Feldman Barrett and untranslatable foreign words: https://how-emotions-are-made.com/notes/Emotion_concepts_from_non-English_languages 02:08:41 - Appalachian Granny Magick https://folklife.si.edu/magazine/appalachian-folk-magic More on it here: https://youtu.be/ex_4tgyzWZ8 [https://youtu.be/ex_4tgyzWZ8] Find Bethany Ranes everywhere Blog:  https://medium.com/firing-and-wiring [https://medium.com/firing-and-wiring] LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-bethany-ranes/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-bethany-ranes/] IG: https://www.instagram.com/firingandwiring Give Feedback https://forms.gle/t7WucZyUKvu12tN8A Music credits: Mozert by John Vallis (https://johnvallis.bandcamp.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 Get full access to The Inner Landscape Travel Agency at tilta.substack.com/subscribe [https://tilta.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]