The Hidden Grief of Not Belonging (And What It's Trying to Tell You)

The Hidden Grief of Not Belonging (And What It's Trying to Tell You)

In this episode of the InspirED Podcast, Andrea De La Cerda explores the hidden grief that comes from feeling like you don't truly belong. Through deeply personal stories from her family, marriage, and corporate leadership journey, she shares how years of adapting to meet other people's expectations led to self-abandonment rather than authentic connection. Andrea explains the difference between fitting in and belonging, why so many women confuse performance with acceptance, and how loneliness often stems from hiding who we really are. This episode is an invitation to stop earning approval, reconnect with yourself, and build a life where belonging begins from within. ... CHAPTERS 00:00 Why We Long to Belong 02:30 When Belonging Feels Conditional 05:15 How Self-Abandonment Begins 08:48 Searching for Acceptance 11:42 Fitting In vs. True Belonging 15:18 The Loneliness of Performance 18:41 What If the Problem Isn't You? 21:30 Learning to Belong to Yourself 25:02 Four Questions to Help You Reconnect 29:12 Choosing Yourself First ... RESOURCES ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Business Audit⁠⁠ [https://andreadelacerda.com/masterclass/work-with-me/business-audit/] The InspirED Rewrite [https://andreadelacerda.com/masterclass/work-with-me/the-inspired-rewrite/] TAG ANDREA ON INSTAGRAM ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@andreadlc_coach⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/andreadlc_coach/] ... CONNECT WITH KANDULA ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Kandula Blogs⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://kandulacommunications.com/resources/] ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@KandulaCommunications] ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/kandulacommunications/] ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.linkedin.com/company/kandula-communications/posts/?feedView=all] . . . ABOUT ANDREA DE LA CERDA Andrea De La Cerda is a highly accomplished communications professional with over 25 years of experience in the fields of advertising, communications and marketing. Throughout her career, Andrea has held key positions in renowned advertising agencies, brand consultancies and in-house marketing departments before creating Kandula. She possesses a deep understanding of consumer behavior and market trends, allowing her to develop innovative communication strategies that resonate with diverse audiences. Andrea received both her B.A. in Advertising and Business Administration and a M.A. in Education from Pepperdine. She is currently pursuing her Accreditation in Public Relations and is a member of PRSA. . . . WORK WITH US Kandula works with nonprofits, entrepreneurs, educational institutions, and established brands dedicated to expanding their influence and amplifying their impact through purpose-driven communication strategies. Reach out to work with us! 👇🏼 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://kandulacommunications.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . . . . . . . . . Relate to Today's Topic: feeling like you don't belong, hidden grief, authentic belonging, self-belonging, loneliness and belonging, women and identity, personal growth, emotional healing, authenticity, self-trust, people pleasing, self-acceptance, finding your authentic self, women in leadership, confidence for women, emotional resilience, healing from self-abandonment, personal transformation, authentic living, belonging

Style Isn’t About Fixing Your Body with Personal Stylist Lizette Hendricks

In this episode of the InspirED Podcast, Andrea De La Cerda sits down with personal stylist Lizette Hendricks to challenge one of the biggest misconceptions women have about fashion: that clothing should fix their bodies. Lisette shares her philosophy of using style to honor a woman's natural features rather than hide or change them. Together, they explore body harmony, seasonal color analysis, style myths, wardrobe overwhelm, and the emotional connection many women have with clothing. Through practical advice and personal insight, this conversation invites women to stop chasing trends and start dressing in a way that reflects their authentic selves with confidence. ... CHAPTERS 00:00 Meet Lizette Hendricks 01:45 How Lizette Became a Personal Stylist 03:23 Why Traditional Fashion Advice Falls Short 05:11 Creating a Safe Space for Style 07:14 Body Harmony, Color, and Personal Style 11:15 Why Style Is About Authenticity 13:00 Stop Dressing to Fix Your Body 17:10 The Freedom of Dressing as Yourself 18:38 Understanding Body Types and Color Seasons 24:40 Common Style Myths Debunked 27:52 Simplifying Your Wardrobe with Confidence ... RESOURCES ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Connect with Lizette [https://loveyourstylebyliz.com/] Andrea De La Cerda ⁠⁠Business Audit⁠⁠ [https://andreadelacerda.com/masterclass/work-with-me/business-audit/] TAG ANDREA ON INSTAGRAM ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@andreadlc_coach⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/andreadlc_coach/] ... CONNECT WITH KANDULA ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Kandula [https://kandulacommunications.com/] ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . . . ABOUT ANDREA DE LA CERDA Andrea De La Cerda is a highly accomplished communications professional with over 25 years of experience in the fields of advertising, communications and marketing. Throughout her career, Andrea has held key positions in renowned advertising agencies, brand consultancies and in-house marketing departments before creating Kandula. She possesses a deep understanding of consumer behavior and market trends, allowing her to develop innovative communication strategies that resonate with diverse audiences. Andrea received both her B.A. in Advertising and Business Administration and a M.A. in Education from Pepperdine. She is currently pursuing her Accreditation in Public Relations and is a member of PRSA. . . . WORK WITH US Kandula works with nonprofits, entrepreneurs, educational institutions, and established brands dedicated to expanding their influence and amplifying their impact through purpose-driven communication strategies. Reach out to work with us! 👇🏼 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://kandulacommunications.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . . . . . . . . . Relate to Today's Topic: authentic personal style, body confidence, personal stylist, color analysis, body types, personal style, confidence through style, women's fashion, style confidence, dressing for your body type, seasonal color analysis, self-confidence for women, authentic confidence, wardrobe styling, personal image, body acceptance, fashion psychology, women and confidence, style consultation, authentic self

Why Women Don't Negotiate (And How to Start)

In this episode of the InspirED Podcast, Andrea De La Cerda explores why so many women struggle with negotiation and why the challenge has less to do with confidence than with lifelong conditioning. She explains how women are often taught to prioritize likability over self-advocacy, making it difficult to negotiate compensation, pricing, boundaries, and opportunities. Andrea reframes negotiation as a conversation about alignment rather than confrontation and shares practical strategies to communicate value with greater clarity, confidence, and authority. Whether you're negotiating your salary, setting business rates, or advocating for your role, this episode offers actionable insights to help you stop shrinking and start leading. ... CHAPTERS 00:00 Why Women Hesitate to Negotiate 02:12 The Conditioning Behind Self-Advocacy 05:04 Why Likability Feels Safer Than Respect 07:46 The Hidden Cost of Staying Quiet 10:18 Negotiation Is About Alignment, Not Conflict 12:30 Four Practical Ways to Start Negotiating 16:42 Building Confidence Through Self-Advocacy 19:03 The Long-Term Impact of Speaking Up ... RESOURCES ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Business Audit⁠ [https://andreadelacerda.com/masterclass/work-with-me/business-audit/] TAG ANDREA ON INSTAGRAM ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@andreadlc_coach⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/andreadlc_coach/] ... CONNECT WITH KANDULA ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Kandula Blogs⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://kandulacommunications.com/resources/] ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@KandulaCommunications] ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/kandulacommunications/] ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.linkedin.com/company/kandula-communications/posts/?feedView=all] . . . ABOUT ANDREA DE LA CERDA Andrea De La Cerda is a highly accomplished communications professional with over 25 years of experience in the fields of advertising, communications and marketing. Throughout her career, Andrea has held key positions in renowned advertising agencies, brand consultancies and in-house marketing departments before creating Kandula. She possesses a deep understanding of consumer behavior and market trends, allowing her to develop innovative communication strategies that resonate with diverse audiences. Andrea received both her B.A. in Advertising and Business Administration and a M.A. in Education from Pepperdine. She is currently pursuing her Accreditation in Public Relations and is a member of PRSA. . . . WORK WITH US Kandula works with nonprofits, entrepreneurs, educational institutions, and established brands dedicated to expanding their influence and amplifying their impact through purpose-driven communication strategies. Reach out to work with us! 👇🏼 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://kandulacommunications.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . . . . . . . . . Relate to Today's Topic: women and negotiation, negotiation skills for women, women in leadership, salary negotiation, women entrepreneurs, self-advocacy, leadership confidence, women and confidence, pricing your services, business negotiation, communication skills, women in business, leadership development, women and money, negotiation strategies, executive presence, women founders, value-based pricing, authentic leadership, confidence in business

From Pain to Purpose with Ashley Crossan

In this episode of the InspirED Podcast, Andrea De La Cerda sits down with Ashley Crossan to discuss her remarkable journey from chronic illness to holistic healing practitioner. After years of battling serious health challenges, including chronic illness, long-haul COVID, and Lyme disease, Ashley began exploring holistic health, emotional healing, and energy work in search of answers beyond symptom management. Together, they explore the connection between emotional well-being and physical health, the role of unresolved stress and trauma in the body, and how healing can become a catalyst for personal growth and purpose. This conversation offers an inspiring perspective on resilience, wellness, and finding meaning through life's most difficult experiences. ... CHAPTERS 00:00 Meet Ashley Crossan 01:37 Ashley's Journey Through Chronic Illness 04:48 Long-Haul COVID, Lyme Disease, and Healing 06:15 Discovering Holistic Health and Energy Work 08:05 Understanding Energy and Emotional Healing 10:41 The Connection Between Pain and Unresolved Emotions 13:48 Why More People Are Exploring Alternative Healing 16:10 Stories of Transformation and Recovery 19:59 From Skeptic to Believer 23:51 The Science Behind the Mind-Body Connection 26:03 Healing Beyond Symptom Management 27:20 How to Connect with Ashley ... RESOURCES ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Connect with Ashley [Website ➜ https://ashleysholisticsolutions.com] Andrea De La Cerda ⁠⁠Business Audit⁠⁠ TAG ANDREA ON INSTAGRAM ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@andreadlc_coach⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ... CONNECT WITH KANDULA ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Kandula Blogs⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . . . ABOUT ANDREA DE LA CERDA Andrea De La Cerda is a highly accomplished communications professional with over 25 years of experience in the fields of advertising, communications and marketing. Throughout her career, Andrea has held key positions in renowned advertising agencies, brand consultancies and in-house marketing departments before creating Kandula. She possesses a deep understanding of consumer behavior and market trends, allowing her to develop innovative communication strategies that resonate with diverse audiences. Andrea received both her B.A. in Advertising and Business Administration and a M.A. in Education from Pepperdine. She is currently pursuing her Accreditation in Public Relations and is a member of PRSA. . . . WORK WITH US Kandula works with nonprofits, entrepreneurs, educational institutions, and established brands dedicated to expanding their influence and amplifying their impact through purpose-driven communication strategies. Reach out to work with us! 👇🏼 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://kandulacommunications.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . . . . . . . . . Relate to Today's Topic: healing from chronic illness, chronic illness recovery, emotional healing, holistic health, mind body connection, chronic pain, energy healing, personal transformation, purpose after adversity, holistic wellness, nervous system regulation, emotional well-being, healing journey, Lyme disease recovery, overcoming health challenges, stress and illness, mind body spirit, wellness transformation, self-healing, resilience and healing

The Intersection of Identity and Leadership with Gina Fedeli

In this episode of the InspirED Podcast, Andrea De La Cerda sits down with Gina Fedeli, founder of P3 Transformation, to explore the powerful connection between identity and leadership. Drawing from her experience leading large teams in male-dominated industries and advising founders and CEOs, Gina shares how self-awareness, values alignment, emotional intelligence, and communication shape the way leaders show up and influence others. Together, they discuss the CEO-COO partnership, intuition in leadership, understanding the whole person, and why meaningful leadership starts with knowing yourself first. This conversation offers valuable insight for entrepreneurs, executives, and emerging leaders who want to lead with greater authenticity, clarity, and impact. ... CHAPTERS 00:00 Meet Gina Fedeli 02:20 Leading in Male-Dominated Industries 04:05 Learning to Meet People Where They Are 05:58 Why Great Leaders Understand the Whole Person 09:16 Intuition, Self-Awareness, and Leadership 13:36 Emotional Intelligence in Business 16:44 The CEO and COO Partnership 18:33 Leadership, Identity, and Founder Growth 22:21 Values Alignment and Organizational Culture 26:59 What Meaningful Leadership Looks Like 29:45 Advice for Women Leaders ... RESOURCES ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ P3 Transformation [https://p3transformation.com/] Gina Fedeli [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ginafedeli/] Andrea De La Cerda ⁠Business Audit⁠ [https://andreadelacerda.com/masterclass/work-with-me/business-audit/] TAG ANDREA ON INSTAGRAM ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@andreadlc_coach⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/andreadlc_coach/] ... CONNECT WITH KANDULA ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Kandula Blogs⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://kandulacommunications.com/resources/] ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@KandulaCommunications] ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/kandulacommunications/] ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.linkedin.com/company/kandula-communications/posts/?feedView=all] . . . ABOUT ANDREA DE LA CERDA Andrea De La Cerda is a highly accomplished communications professional with over 25 years of experience in the fields of advertising, communications and marketing. Throughout her career, Andrea has held key positions in renowned advertising agencies, brand consultancies and in-house marketing departments before creating Kandula. She possesses a deep understanding of consumer behavior and market trends, allowing her to develop innovative communication strategies that resonate with diverse audiences. Andrea received both her B.A. in Advertising and Business Administration and a M.A. in Education from Pepperdine. She is currently pursuing her Accreditation in Public Relations and is a member of PRSA. . . . WORK WITH US Kandula works with nonprofits, entrepreneurs, educational institutions, and established brands dedicated to expanding their influence and amplifying their impact through purpose-driven communication strategies. Reach out to work with us! 👇🏼 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://kandulacommunications.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . . . . . . . . . Relate to Today's Topic: identity and leadership, leadership development, women in leadership, authentic leadership, emotional intelligence, values-based leadership, leadership communication, women entrepreneurs, business leadership, founder mindset, personal growth and leadership, CEO and COO partnership, leadership and self-awareness, leadership skills, organizational culture, women business owners, leadership effectiveness, values alignment, leadership mindset, executive leadership