264. I'm Not There Yet

264. I'm Not There Yet

Episode 264: I'm Not There Yet explores one of the most common thoughts missionaries have: "I thought I'd be farther along by now." Whether it's confidence, spirituality, boldness, or becoming the kind of missionary you hoped to be, it's easy to compare yourself to an idea of who you think you should be. In this episode, I share why those inner expectations often create unnecessary discouragement and how learning to recognize them can completely change your mission experience. We talk about the difference between our outer expectations and our inner expectations, why comparison keeps us chasing someone else's strengths, and how God never intended for you to become someone else. Instead of trying to fit the mold of the "perfect missionary," we explore what it looks like to lean into the unique gifts, personality, and Christlike attributes Heavenly Father has already given you. You'll also learn why personal growth isn't about becoming a different person—it's about becoming the best version of the person God created you to be. If you've ever wondered whether you're growing enough, changing enough, or becoming enough, this episode is for you. You are not behind, you are not falling short, and you don't have to earn your place as a good missionary by becoming someone you're not. I hope Episode 264: I'm Not There Yet reminds you that you're exactly where you need to be, and that God is helping you become who He created you to be all along. As always, if you found this episode helpful, I want to invite you to subscribe if you aren't already, share this episode with your friends and missionaries you know, and write a review. I know this work will help LDS missionaries around the world and it would mean so much to me if you did. Until next week my friends. 00:00 – Intro 00:55 – "I Thought I'd Be Further Along" 04:36 – Outer vs. Inner Expectations 07:36 – The Type A Missionary Idea 10:12 – Infinite Types of Missionaries 14:23 – Chasing a Stereotype 17:08 – Who Do You Want To Become? 20:18 – Trust Your Strengths 21:43 – Outro Website [https://jenniedildine.com/] | Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/jennie.theldsmissioncoach/] | Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/jennie.theldsmissioncoach/] 5 Ways to Process Any Less-Than Happy Mission Memories Article: HERE [https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/ya-weekly/2025/11/5-ways-to-process-less-than-happy-mission-memories?lang=eng] Get the Full Show Notes and Text/PDF Transcripts: HERE [https://jenniedildine.com/podcast/] Free PDF Download: Podcast Roadmap [https://www.subscribepage.com/podcastroadmap] Free PDF Download: Preparing Missionary Cheat Sheet [https://www.subscribepage.com/preparingmissionarycheatsheet] Free Training for Preparing Missionaries: Change Your Mission with this One Tool [https://jenniedildine.com/preparing-missionaries-oi/] RM Transition Free Video Series: 3 Tools to Help RMs in Their Transition Home [https://jenniedildine.com/3-tools-for-rms-opt-in/] Free Guide: 5 Tips to Help Any Returning Missionary [https://jenniedildine.com/landing-page/] Schedule a Free Strategy Call: Click Here [https://jenniedildine.com/work-with-me/]

263. Reminders To Live By

Episode 263: Reminders to Live By was inspired by one of my favorite General Conference talks, Elder Dieter F. Uchtdorf's "Forget Me Not." As I revisited this talk, I couldn't stop thinking about how perfectly these five reminders apply to missionaries, returned missionaries, missionary moms, and anyone preparing to serve. In this episode, we talk about being patient with yourself, understanding the difference between a good sacrifice and a foolish sacrifice, finding happiness now instead of waiting for better circumstances, remembering the why behind the gospel, and trusting that God knows you, loves you, and has never forgotten you. I also share why our brains naturally notice what's going wrong and how learning to respond with self-compassion instead of self-judgment changes everything. We explore the 50/50 experience of life, missionary comparison, healthy sacrifice, emotional wellbeing, and why your worth has never depended on your performance. Whether you're serving a mission, preparing to serve, supporting a missionary, or adjusting after your mission, these reminders can help you experience more peace, more confidence, and a stronger relationship with God. More than anything, I hope this episode reminds you that you're not behind, you're not forgotten, and you don't have to earn God's love. He already knows your name, He understands exactly where you are, and He is cheering you on every step of the way. If you're looking for more self-compassion, greater perspective, and practical tools to strengthen your mission and your faith, I hope you'll listen to Episode 263: Reminders to Live By. As always, if you found this episode helpful, I want to invite you to subscribe if you aren't already, share this episode with your friends and missionaries you know, and write a review. I know this work will help LDS missionaries around the world and it would mean so much to me if you did. Until next week my friends. 00:00 – Intro 00:55 – The Conference Talk That Inspired This Episode 03:14 – Why This Talk Matters For Missionaries 06:55 – The Five Forget-Me-Not Reminders 07:35 – 1. Be Patient With Yourself 12:05 – 2. Good Sacrifice vs. Foolish Sacrifice 15:52 – 3. Be Happy Now 18:52 – Stop Waiting To Be Happy 20:08 – 4. Remember the Why 22:16 – 5. The Lord Loves You 24:15 – Your Worth Never Changes 25:50 – You Are Not Forgotten 27:21 – Outro Website [https://jenniedildine.com/] | Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/jennie.theldsmissioncoach/] | Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/jennie.theldsmissioncoach/] 5 Ways to Process Any Less-Than Happy Mission Memories Article: HERE [https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/ya-weekly/2025/11/5-ways-to-process-less-than-happy-mission-memories?lang=eng] Get the Full Show Notes and Text/PDF Transcripts: HERE [https://jenniedildine.com/podcast/] Free PDF Download: Podcast Roadmap [https://www.subscribepage.com/podcastroadmap] Free PDF Download: Preparing Missionary Cheat Sheet [https://www.subscribepage.com/preparingmissionarycheatsheet] Free Training for Preparing Missionaries: Change Your Mission with this One Tool [https://jenniedildine.com/preparing-missionaries-oi/] RM Transition Free Video Series: 3 Tools to Help RMs in Their Transition Home [https://jenniedildine.com/3-tools-for-rms-opt-in/] Free Guide: 5 Tips to Help Any Returning Missionary [https://jenniedildine.com/landing-page/] Schedule a Free Strategy Call: Click Here [https://jenniedildine.com/work-with-me/]

262. Face and Feel Your Fear

Episode 262: Face and Feel Your Fear is a reminder that fear isn't something to eliminate—it's something to understand, experience, and move through. In this episode, I share why fear, anxiety, self doubt, and uncertainty don't mean you're doing something wrong. Whether you're preparing to serve a mission, currently serving, or navigating life after your mission, I want to help you see fear as evidence that you're growing, stretching, and becoming the person God is helping you become. Using the story of David and Goliath, I explore what courage really looks like and why David's greatest strength wasn't the absence of fear but his willingness to face it anyway. We talk about emotional resilience, feeling your emotions instead of avoiding them, allowing anxiety to rise and fall, facing your personal Goliaths, trusting God, and recognizing that the challenges you're facing today may be preparing you for something even greater tomorrow. I also share conversations with missionaries who are learning that confidence isn't never feeling fear—it's knowing you can feel fear and still move forward. If you've been waiting to feel fearless before taking the next step, this episode will encourage you to stop waiting and start trusting yourself. You'll learn how to face your fear, feel your fear, and discover that courage, growth, and confidence are built by moving through discomfort, not avoiding it. Episode 262: Face and Feel Your Fear will help you see your struggles as preparation, your fear as information, and your willingness as one of your greatest strengths. As always, if you found this episode helpful, I want to invite you to subscribe if you aren't already, share this episode with your friends and missionaries you know, and write a review. I know this work will help LDS missionaries around the world and it would mean so much to me if you did. Until next week my friends. 00:00 – Intro 00:55 – A Message From A Future Missionary 04:44 – Face & Feel Your Fear 06:30 – Fear Isn't A Stop Sign 08:32 – David & Goliath 10:05 – Your Lion & Your Bear 11:21 – "I Didn't Expect To Feel This Way" 13:15 – Opposition In All Things 14:47 – Your Goliath Might Surprise You 17:46 – Fear Is Information 18:35 – Feel The Bell Curve 19:40 – Emotional Resilience 20:30 – Your Fear Is Your Education 21:28 – Becoming The Next Version Of You 22:45 – The Opposite Of Fear Isn't Fearlessness 23:50 – What David Really Teaches Us 25:01 – Face It. Feel It. Move Through It. 26:30 – Outro Website [https://jenniedildine.com/] | Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/jennie.theldsmissioncoach/] | Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/jennie.theldsmissioncoach/] 5 Ways to Process Any Less-Than Happy Mission Memories Article: HERE [https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/ya-weekly/2025/11/5-ways-to-process-less-than-happy-mission-memories?lang=eng] Get the Full Show Notes and Text/PDF Transcripts: HERE [https://jenniedildine.com/podcast/] Free PDF Download: Podcast Roadmap [https://www.subscribepage.com/podcastroadmap] Free PDF Download: Preparing Missionary Cheat Sheet [https://www.subscribepage.com/preparingmissionarycheatsheet] Free Training for Preparing Missionaries: Change Your Mission with this One Tool [https://jenniedildine.com/preparing-missionaries-oi/] RM Transition Free Video Series: 3 Tools to Help RMs in Their Transition Home [https://jenniedildine.com/3-tools-for-rms-opt-in/] Free Guide: 5 Tips to Help Any Returning Missionary [https://jenniedildine.com/landing-page/] Schedule a Free Strategy Call: Click Here [https://jenniedildine.com/work-with-me/]

261. What If I Get Cold Feet

Episode 261: What If I Get Cold Feet? is for anyone who is preparing to serve a mission, nearing a big life transition, or wondering what to do when fear starts getting loud. In this episode, I talk about the very normal experience of getting "cold feet" before something important and why feeling fear, hesitation, uncertainty, homesickness, or anxiety doesn't automatically mean you've made the wrong decision. We explore what cold feet actually are, why your brain reacts this way before growth, and how to stop mistaking fear for revelation. I teach the difference between the "yappy dog" voice and the "wise owl" voice, and how to recognize when your lower brain is simply trying to protect you from discomfort. We talk about fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of leaving family, fear of not measuring up, and how your brain often treats emotional discomfort like a physical threat. I also share a coaching experience with a future missionary who was struggling with cold feet and how learning to understand her fear helped her make an intentional decision that aligned with her values, her relationship with God, and her future. If you've ever wondered whether your fear means you should stop, slow down, or change direction, this episode will help you get curious instead of reactive. You'll learn how to separate fear from revelation, trust yourself, strengthen your partnership with God, and move forward with courage even when uncertainty is present. Episode 261: What If I Get Cold Feet? will help you understand your fear, hear your own wisdom more clearly, and make decisions with confidence and intention. As always, if you found this episode helpful, I want to invite you to subscribe if you aren't already, share this episode with your friends and missionaries you know, and write a review. I know this work will help LDS missionaries around the world and it would mean so much to me if you did. Until next week my friends. 00:00 – Intro 03:31 – What Does "Cold Feet" Mean? 05:10 – Why We Get Cold Feet 07:13 – Big Decisions Trigger Fear 08:40 – Fear Is Not Revelation 09:55 – The Yappy Dog & The Wise Owl 10:56 – Let Fear Have A Vote 12:15 – Emotional Threats vs Physical Threats 13:56 – Fear Can Come Along 15:05 – Is Fear Pointing To Something More? 16:30 – A Missionary's Cold Feet Story 18:54 – Don't Let Fear Drive The Car 20:05 – Questions To Ask Yourself 21:30 – Courage Looks Different For Everyone 22:15 – What If The Fear Never Goes Away? 23:02 – Ready Doesn't Mean Fearless 24:10 – Cold Feet Doesn't Mean Stop 25:05 – Trust Yourself & Trust God 26:00 – Outro Underneath Summary on Libsyn and Website - Website [https://jenniedildine.com/] | Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/jennie.theldsmissioncoach/] | Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/jennie.theldsmissioncoach/] 5 Ways to Process Any Less-Than Happy Mission Memories Article: HERE [https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/ya-weekly/2025/11/5-ways-to-process-less-than-happy-mission-memories?lang=eng] Get the Full Show Notes and Text/PDF Transcripts: HERE [https://jenniedildine.com/podcast/] Free PDF Download: Podcast Roadmap [https://www.subscribepage.com/podcastroadmap] Free PDF Download: Preparing Missionary Cheat Sheet [https://www.subscribepage.com/preparingmissionarycheatsheet] Free Training for Preparing Missionaries: Change Your Mission with this One Tool [https://jenniedildine.com/preparing-missionaries-oi/] RM Transition Free Video Series: 3 Tools to Help RMs in Their Transition Home [https://jenniedildine.com/3-tools-for-rms-opt-in/] Free Guide: 5 Tips to Help Any Returning Missionary [https://jenniedildine.com/landing-page/] Schedule a Free Strategy Call: Click Here [https://jenniedildine.com/work-with-me/]

260. About the Mission Bubble

Episode 260: The Mission Bubble explores something I see all the time with missionaries, returned missionaries, and missionary moms: the tendency to get so immersed in the mission experience that we lose perspective. In this episode, I talk about the "mission bubble," the unique environment that helps us focus, grow spiritually, develop confidence, learn discipline, and deepen our relationship with God. But sometimes that same mission bubble can magnify challenges, distort our perspective, and cause us to be much harder on ourselves than we would be outside of the mission. I share the story of a missionary who felt guilty for taking a day off while she was sick and use that experience to explore perfectionism, overgiving, self worth, comparison, burnout, obedience, mission culture, emotional wellbeing, and learning to trust your own revelation. We talk about why everything can feel so urgent, permanent, and high stakes on the mission, how mission pressure can amplify anxiety and self criticism, and why it's important to occasionally step outside the bubble and see things through a more compassionate and realistic lens. Throughout this episode, I offer practical "mission bubble reality check" questions to help missionaries create perspective, develop self compassion, strengthen emotional resilience, trust God, and navigate the mission experience with more wisdom and grace. If you've ever found yourself questioning your worth, overanalyzing your performance, struggling with perfectionism, or feeling like you're never doing enough, Episode 260: The Mission Bubble will help you step outside the bubble and see yourself more clearly. As always, if you found this episode helpful, I want to invite you to subscribe if you aren't already, share this episode with your friends and missionaries you know, and write a review. I know this work will help LDS missionaries around the world and it would mean so much to me if you did. Until next week my friends. 00:00 – Intro 02:00 – What Is The Mission Bubble? 04:30 – The Benefits Of The Bubble 08:20 – When Perspective Gets Distorted 10:45 – Making Meaning Of Everything 13:10 – Mission Pressure & Anxiety 15:00 – Overgiving & Self Sacrifice 17:35 – Trusting Your Own Revelation 19:10 – Blinders & Self Awareness 20:15 – Perfectionism & Self Worth 22:25 – Reality Check Questions 23:45 – Compassion Questions 25:05 – Human Needs Matter 26:00 – Revelation Questions 27:15 – The Bubble Will Pop 28:15 – Mission Is Part Of Life 29:30 – Peek Outside The Bubble 30:58 – Outro Website [https://jenniedildine.com/] | Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/jennie.theldsmissioncoach/] | Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/jennie.theldsmissioncoach/] 5 Ways to Process Any Less-Than Happy Mission Memories Article: HERE [https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/ya-weekly/2025/11/5-ways-to-process-less-than-happy-mission-memories?lang=eng] Get the Full Show Notes and Text/PDF Transcripts: HERE [https://jenniedildine.com/podcast/] Free PDF Download: Podcast Roadmap [https://www.subscribepage.com/podcastroadmap] Free PDF Download: Preparing Missionary Cheat Sheet [https://www.subscribepage.com/preparingmissionarycheatsheet] Free Training for Preparing Missionaries: Change Your Mission with this One Tool [https://jenniedildine.com/preparing-missionaries-oi/] RM Transition Free Video Series: 3 Tools to Help RMs in Their Transition Home [https://jenniedildine.com/3-tools-for-rms-opt-in/] Free Guide: 5 Tips to Help Any Returning Missionary [https://jenniedildine.com/landing-page/] Schedule a Free Strategy Call: Click Here [https://jenniedildine.com/work-with-me/]