Stop Keeping Score: The 90-Day Challenge That Changes How Leaders Build Trust

Stop Keeping Score: The 90-Day Challenge That Changes How Leaders Build Trust

In this episode of The Playbook Podcast, Ken Eslick and Onika Kwatsha unpack a powerful leadership mindset shift: the 90-Day Challenge - a principle inspired by a lesson Ken learned from Tony Robbins. At its core, this episode challenges one of the most common breakdown points in leadership, business, and relationships: scorekeeping. Most relationships don’t fail suddenly. They degrade slowly. Not through one big moment - but through repeated small fractures: unmet expectations, lack of communication, growing resentment, and a shift from contribution to transaction.The same energy people bring in the beginning - high engagement, ownership, and effort - naturally fades over time. And when it does, leaders often slip into a dangerous mindset: “I’ve done my part — now it’s their turn.” That’s where trust starts to erode. The 90-Day Challenge becomes a reset: a commitment to show up fully again, without tracking, without tallying, and without waiting for reciprocity. In this episode, Ken and Onika explore what happens when leaders remove scorekeeping from their teams, relationships, and careers - and what becomes possible when they don’t. In this episode: * The 90-Day Challenge and why it reframes leadership behavior * Why scorekeeping quietly destroys trust and culture * The “honeymoon phase” in teams and relationships * How disengagement actually starts * Early warning signs most leaders ignore * The danger of unspoken expectations * Why some relationships still need to end — but should end with integrity * How to evaluate relationships after your best 90 days, not your worst moment Timestamps 00:00 — Why relationships rarely fail overnight 01:20 — The honeymoon phase in work and life 01:40 — Introducing the 90-Day Challenge 03:20 — Why effort fades over time 05:25 — When relationships become transactional 07:20 — Some relationships should end 09:20 — Early signs of disengagement 10:55 — The danger of unspoken expectations 11:15 — Leadership accountability and communication 12:00 — A leadership failure that reshaped perspective 13:15 — Integrity when relationships end 14:45 — Why waiting for 90 days is often too late 15:50 — Knowing when to move on 16:20 — Why you shouldn’t announce the challenge 17:10 — Evaluating after your best 90 days Connect with Ken & The Leaders Lab LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/keneslick/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/keneslick/]Website: https://theleaderslab.co [https://theleaderslab.co/] Want to strengthen leadership, communication, and team performance? If you’re a founder, executive, or team leader, the 90-Day Challenge mindset is often the difference between breakdown and breakthrough. We help organizations build stronger teams through leadership clarity, accountability, communication, and better hiring decisions. 📅 Book a meeting with The Leaders Lab: https://calendly.com/theleaderslab/meeting [https://calendly.com/theleaderslab/meeting] #Leadership #LeadershipDevelopment #WorkplaceCulture #EmployeeEngagement #Management #TeamBuilding #90DayChallenge #ThePlaybookPodcast

Global Beliefs: The Invisible Stories Shaping Your Life

In this episode of The Playbook Podcast, Ken Eslick and Onika Kwatsha explore how the stories we repeatedly tell ourselves about people, experiences, and the world quietly shape nearly every area of our lives. Most people believe they see reality objectively. But in truth, our minds constantly filter experiences through beliefs formed by past interactions, emotional experiences, and personal assumptions. One difficult boss, bad relationship, failed hire, betrayal, or disappointment can slowly evolve into a “global belief” that begins shaping how we lead, hire, communicate, trust, love, and make decisions. Ken unpacks how these invisible mental frameworks influence everything from workplace culture and leadership to relationships, confidence, personal growth, and self-image. The conversation explores: * Why the brain naturally fixates on negative experiences * How confirmation bias reinforces limiting beliefs * The danger of turning isolated experiences into absolute truths * How global beliefs quietly affect hiring and leadership decisions * Why trust and emotional safety matter in leadership * The hidden damage caused by labels and assumptions * How limiting self-beliefs shape identity and behavior * Why one simple word — “yet” — can completely change your mindset This episode is a powerful reminder that experiences are meant to inform us, not imprison us. Timestamps  00:00 – How experiences become global beliefs 01:20 – Why beliefs shape behavior and decision-making 02:20 – Tony Robbins’ influence on understanding global beliefs 03:40 – Why the brain focuses on negative experiences 04:30 – Safety, certainty, and the psychology of belief formation 05:20 – How global beliefs affect the workplace 06:00 – The hiring bias problem 07:20 – Why division grows when people stop seeking understanding 08:40 – Rebuilding trust after negative experiences 10:25 – Why trust is built slowly over time 11:00 – Confirmation bias and the brain’s need to be right 12:40 – How people unconsciously reinforce their own beliefs 14:00 – The danger of assumptions in hiring and relationships 15:20 – Diversity of thought and perspective in successful teams 16:20 – The limiting stories people repeat to themselves 18:00 – Why the word “yet” is so powerful 19:00 – Ken’s vision board story and subconscious transformation 21:30 – Practical ways to challenge limiting beliefs 23:15 – Why experiences should inform you, not define you Connect with Ken and The Leaders Lab Ken on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/keneslick/?utm_source=chatgpt.comhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/keneslick/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/keneslick/] The Leaders Lab: theleaderslab.co [http://theleaderslab.co] At The Leaders Lab, we help organizations improve hiring, leadership, communication, and team performance by understanding the human behaviors and belief systems that drive success. From behavioral assessments and leadership coaching to hiring strategy and culture development, we help companies make smarter people decisions with greater clarity and confidence. Connect with us here to get started: https://calendly.com/theleaderslab/meeting [https://calendly.com/theleaderslab/meeting] #Leadership #Mindset #LeadershipDevelopment #PersonalGrowth #WorkplaceCulture #EmotionalIntelligence #Communication #SelfAwareness

The Power of Your Identity: The Invisible Driver of Leadership and Success

In this episode of The Playbook, Ken Eslick and Onika Kwatsha dive into one of the most overlooked drivers of human behavior and performance: identity. Most people believe their success is determined by goals, discipline, motivation, or talent. But Ken argues that over time, people almost always act in alignment with who they believe they are. Whether it’s leadership, business, finances, health, confidence, or relationships, identity quietly shapes the behaviors that ultimately determine our results. The conversation explores: * Why people self-sabotage even after achieving success * How limiting beliefs reinforce underperformance * Why temporary motivation rarely creates lasting change * The connection between identity and leadership performance * How KPI-driven cultures fail without identity alignment * Why people often return to old habits and old results * The danger of labels we place on ourselves and others * How consistent action gradually reshapes identity over time Ken also shares practical ways leaders, employees, and individuals can shift from chasing short-term goals to building identities capable of sustaining long-term success. This episode is a powerful reminder that your life, career, and leadership will eventually move in the direction of the person you believe you are. Timestamps 00:00 – Why identity matters more than goals 01:10 – The connection between self-image and behavior 02:00 – Ken’s personal realization about identity and performance 03:10 – Why people lose success after achieving it 04:10 – Why the brain resists positive change 05:20 – The power of repetitive self-talk 06:00 – Why identity shifts must happen gradually 06:45 – The idea of multiple identities across life and work 07:40 – Leadership, KPIs, and identity-driven performance 09:15 – Why goals alone don’t create lasting transformation 11:15 – Event-based motivation vs identity-based change 13:00 – Why responsibility and purpose create leverage 14:20 – The role of fear, leverage, and compelling futures 15:35 – The labels we assign ourselves and others 17:10 – Practical ways to reshape identity through action 18:20 – Why identity is more powerful than motivation Connect with Ken and The Leaders Lab LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/keneslick/?utm_source=chatgpt.comhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/keneslick/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/keneslick/] The Leaders Lab: https://www.theleaderslab.co/?utm_source=chatgpt.comtheleaderslab.co Ready to Build Stronger Leaders and Higher-Performing Teams? At The Leaders Lab, we help organizations improve performance by focusing on the behaviors, mindset, and leadership identities that drive long-term success. From leadership coaching and hiring strategy to behavioral alignment and culture development, we help companies build teams that consistently perform at a higher level. Connect with us here to get started: 👉 https://calendly.com/theleaderslab/meeting [https://calendly.com/theleaderslab/meeting?utm_source=chatgpt.com] #Leadership #LeadershipDevelopment #Mindset #PersonalDevelopment #LeadershipMindset #BusinessLeadership #GrowthMindset

Beyond the Resume: Using Behavioral Science to Hire Smarter

Tired of the "guessing game" that comes with traditional hiring?. We’ve all been there - you meet a candidate who looks perfect on paper, nails the interview with a sharp suit and a great smile (hello, Halo Effect!), but then struggles to perform two months in. In this episode, Ken Eslick and Onika Kwatsha dive deep into how to move past surface-level impressions by using advanced behavioral assessments - like DISC, Motivators, and Cognitive insights - to map a candidate's natural "wiring" directly to your job description. Learn how to use AI to digest massive 80-page reports into actionable blueprints that reveal exactly where a candidate will thrive and where they’ll need to stretch. In this episode, we discuss: * Why "gut feel" isn't enough and how to combat hiring biases. * The difference between a developed skillset and a natural behavioral trait (and why it matters for long-term happiness). * How to turn assessment "gaps" into surgical, targeted interview questions. * Why a 91% match is often the highest score you'll ever see. * Ken’s personal "radical self-awareness" moment regarding his own DISC profile. Timestamps * [00:00:29] – Building on Team Compass: Moving from team mapping to individual job fit. * [00:03:00] – The "Halo Effect": How biases regarding appearance and resumes lead to bad hires. * [00:04:57] – Using AI as a Tool: How to digest 80-page reports without losing the "human connection". * [00:06:40] – The Hunter Profile: Why your best salesperson might be terrible at paperwork (and how to interview for it). * [00:09:50] – Scoring Job Fit: What a score in the 70s vs. the 50s actually tells you. * [00:17:35] – The Risk of Mismatch: Why a "skillful" candidate might still go "crazy" in the wrong role. * [00:20:30] – The Win-Win-Win: Why recruitment should be about more than just sending a CV. Connect with Ken and The Leaders Lab: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/keneslick/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/keneslick/] The Leaders Lab by Ken Eslick: https://www.theleaderslab.co/ [https://www.theleaderslab.co/] Ready to Level Up Your Hiring Process? We’re passionate about helping leaders take the guesswork out of building their teams. Whether you want to learn how to build these AI tools yourself or you'd rather have us handle the heavy lifting to ensure your next hire is a perfect behavioral fit, let's talk. Connect with us here to get started: 👉 https://calendly.com/theleaderslab/meeting [https://calendly.com/theleaderslab/meeting] #Hiring #BehavioralAssessments #DISC #Leadership #Recruitment #AIinHiring #TheLeadersLab #SelfAwareness

The CEO Blueprint: Master Executive Presence and Influence with Don Weber

Is your leadership style built to scale, or is it a bottleneck? In this powerhouse episode of The Playbook Podcast, Ken Eslick sits down with Don Weber, a global communication strategist and former international intelligence operative who spent years working in high-stakes environments across Europe, Africa, and South America. Don doesn't just coach leaders; he teaches them how to build trust, command a room, and read people using elite skills forged in the "shadow world" of intelligence collection. If you’ve ever felt the pressure of rapid growth straining your culture - or your own mental clarity - this conversation is your roadmap. Don breaks down the psychological traps that catch even the most confident CEOs, the "strategic empathy" needed to handle difficult counterparts, and how he leverages AI to personalize leadership development. Inside the Lab with Don Weber: Don has supported organizations connected to the US Treasury, Homeland Security, and the State Department. He has worked alongside world-renowned figures like Tony Robbins and contributes to Entrepreneur Magazine. Today, he helps founders and high performers master executive presence and create influence that actually moves people. In this episode, we dive into: * [00:03:00] – The CEO Ego Trap: Why overly confident leaders misread "good manners" for actual buy-in. * [00:04:18] – The Power of Listening Last: Why the most controlled person in the room is often the one collecting the most data. * [00:06:59] – Reading Non-Verbal Cues: How to spot "contempt" and lack of engagement through micro-expressions. * [00:13:06] – Strategic Empathy: Why empathy isn't about being a "doormat"—it's a tool for effective communication. * [00:27:03] – AI & Leadership: How Ken and Don use AI models to analyze personality assessments and formulate better team communication. * [00:42:33] – The Intelligence Operative Identity: Don’s journey from living under assumed names to finding spiritual balance through meditation. Connect with Don: * LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/don-weber/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/don-weber/] * Website: https://drwebercoaching.com/ [https://drwebercoaching.com/] Connect with Ken: * LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/keneslick/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/keneslick/] * The Leaders Lab by Ken Eslick: https://www.theleaderslab.co/ [https://www.theleaderslab.co/] Ready to Transform Your Leadership? Discover how we help founders and executives unlock clarity and lasting impact: 👉 https://calendly.com/theleaderslab/meeting [https://calendly.com/theleaderslab/meeting] #Leadership #ExecutiveCoaching #DrDonWeber #TheLeadersLab #KenEslick #IntelligenceOperative #ExecutivePresence #HighPerformance #CommunicationSkills #StrategicEmpathy #BusinessGrowth