Ep. 30: Their Emotional Immaturity Became Your Blueprint

Ep. 30: Their Emotional Immaturity Became Your Blueprint

Your parents didn’t just raise you. They handed you a blueprint. For what love looks like. What safety feels like. What you have to be to belong. And most of us have been building from that blueprint for decades without ever looking at the architecture. Today we look. Specifically at the editing process — how a child learns which version of herself is safe — this episode names the specific parenting styles that drove that editing.  Here’s an opportunity to look at the map: here is the parent, here is the pattern it produced in you, here is why. The nine archetypes are introduced briefly and without judgment, then the conversation lands on the adult impact — the behaviors, the nervous system patterns, the relationship dynamics that grew directly from a parent’s emotional limits.  The reparenting framework provides the neuroscience underneath: these patterns are not personality, they are adaptive code. And adaptive code can be updated.  You are not your parents’ emotional ceiling.  You are the person who can see the ceiling — and choose to build higher. We hope today after listening you feel like the patterns you’ve been ashamed of finally have an origin story — and like that origin story is not your life sentence. Follow along, tune in, and let’s get into your next mindset shift! It means the world to us if you would rate, like, save, share, and most importantly hit that subscribe button! And if something you heard today hit home for you, share it with your world. There is plenty of room at our table. She looks like she has it together. But inside, she’s tired of being the strong one. Peace. Play. Love. is for her. A retreat where the armor comes off, the nervous system softens, and self-trust becomes the loudest voice in the room. June 2026. This is your pause and your pivot. Check out our Women’s Retreat we are hosting —The Peace.Play.Love Retreat  Deets: https://offers.thatgirlmagic.co/ppl-retreat [https://offers.thatgirlmagic.co/ppl-retreat] Request A Remix! If you’re stuck or in a situation you want a new lens on, submit your dilemma anonymously below for a mindset remix from us on a future podcast episode! [https://links.ivorey.io/widget/form/Wv3Q0a53AuzjoNDgLvxV] Follow us on IG: @thatgirlmagic.co - @i.am.crystal.clear - @coachlaken www.thatgirlmagic.co [http://www.thatgirlmagic.co/]  Ways to work with us: Book With Crystal [https://links.ivorey.io/widget/bookings/crystal-connectioncall] - Book With Laken  [https://links.ivorey.io/widget/bookings/laken-connectioncall]

Ep. 29: Finding The Girl You Learned To Hide

You didn’t lose yourself. You learned to hide yourself. And there’s a version of you that went underground so early, so quietly, that you’ve almost forgotten she was ever there. Today’s episode is about finding her. This episode does something most personal development conversations are afraid to do: it names the editing process.  The way a child learns, piece by piece, which version of herself is safe to show — and quietly buries the rest.  The central argument is not that your parents were monsters or that your childhood was a disaster. It’s that the most ordinary, well-meaning homes still produce an edited self. Because all parents are human. All humans have limits.  And children are exquisitely wired to read what’s welcome and what isn’t — and adapt accordingly. Follow along, tune in, and let’s get into your next mindset shift! It means the world to us if you would rate, like, save, share, and most importantly hit that subscribe button! And if something you heard today hit home for you, share it with your world. There is plenty of room at our table. She looks like she has it together. But inside, she’s tired of being the strong one. Peace. Play. Love. is for her. A retreat where the armor comes off, the nervous system softens, and self-trust becomes the loudest voice in the room. June 2026. This is your pause and your pivot. Check out our Women’s Retreat we are hosting —The Peace.Play.Love Retreat  Deets: https://offers.thatgirlmagic.co/ppl-retreat [https://offers.thatgirlmagic.co/ppl-retreat] Request A Remix! If you’re stuck or in a situation you want a new lens on, submit your dilemma anonymously below for a mindset remix from us on a future podcast episode! [https://links.ivorey.io/widget/form/Wv3Q0a53AuzjoNDgLvxV] Follow us on IG: @thatgirlmagic.co - @i.am.crystal.clear - @coachlaken www.thatgirlmagic.co [http://www.thatgirlmagic.co/]  Ways to work with us: Book With Crystal [https://links.ivorey.io/widget/bookings/crystal-connectioncall] - Book With Laken  [https://links.ivorey.io/widget/bookings/laken-connectioncall]

Ep. 28: Learning to Feel Safe Without Overfunctioning

You don’t overfunction because you want to. You overfunction because it feels safe. Being the one who: Handles everything  Figures it out  Holds it together …became your normal. And now that you’re trying to slow down, soften, or receive support… your body resists it. Because safety, for you, has always been tied to control. In this episode of The Low & Slow Podcast, Crystal and Laken explore what it actually looks like to feel safe without overfunctioning. They break down how overfunctioning becomes a nervous system pattern, why slowing down can feel destabilizing, and how to begin building safety in a new way — without abandoning yourself or forcing change. Because healing isn’t about becoming a different person overnight. It’s about teaching your body, slowly: “I don’t have to hold everything anymore.” Follow along, tune in, and let’s get into your next mindset shift! It means the world to us if you would rate, like, save, share, and most importantly hit that subscribe button! And if something you heard today hit home for you, share it with your world. There is plenty of room at our table. She looks like she has it together. But inside, she’s tired of being the strong one. Peace. Play. Love. is for her. A retreat where the armor comes off, the nervous system softens, and self-trust becomes the loudest voice in the room. June 2026. This is your pause and your pivot. Check out our Women’s Retreat we are hosting —The Peace.Play.Love Retreat  Deets: https://offers.thatgirlmagic.co/ppl-retreat [https://offers.thatgirlmagic.co/ppl-retreat] Request A Remix! If you’re stuck or in a situation you want a new lens on, submit your dilemma anonymously below for a mindset remix from us on a future podcast episode! [https://links.ivorey.io/widget/form/Wv3Q0a53AuzjoNDgLvxV] Follow us on IG: @thatgirlmagic.co - @i.am.crystal.clear - @coachlaken www.thatgirlmagic.co [http://www.thatgirlmagic.co/]  Ways to work with us: Book With Crystal [https://links.ivorey.io/widget/bookings/crystal-connectioncall] - Book With Laken  [https://links.ivorey.io/widget/bookings/laken-connectioncall]

Ep. 27: When You Become the Mother While Healing the Wound

In this follow-up to Shake Off What Your Mama Gave You, Crystal and Laken explore the complex emotional terrain of becoming the nurturer while still healing maternal wounds. Because sometimes the mother wound doesn’t fully reveal itself until life asks you to become what you once needed. Whether you are raising children, building a business, leading clients, or mothering your own inner child — this episode is about the tension between caregiving and grief. Crystal and Laken unpack: * why maternal wounds often intensify when women begin caregiving, * the grief of realizing what you didn’t receive, * how resentment can surface in unexpected ways, * and how to mother yourself while becoming a safe place for others. This is a conversation about breaking cycles without perfection, grieving without shame, and learning how to nurture from overflow instead of depletion. Because healing the mother wound isn’t about becoming flawless. It’s about becoming conscious. Follow along, tune in, and let’s get into your next mindset shift! It means the world to us if you would rate, like, save, share, and most importantly hit that subscribe button! And if something you heard today hit home for you, share it with your world. There is plenty of room at our table. She looks like she has it together. But inside, she’s tired of being the strong one. Peace. Play. Love. is for her. A retreat where the armor comes off, the nervous system softens, and self-trust becomes the loudest voice in the room. June 2026. This is your pause and your pivot. Check out our Women’s Retreat we are hosting —The Peace.Play.Love Retreat  Deets: https://offers.thatgirlmagic.co/ppl-retreat [https://offers.thatgirlmagic.co/ppl-retreat] Request A Remix! If you’re stuck or in a situation you want a new lens on, submit your dilemma anonymously below for a mindset remix from us on a future podcast episode! [https://links.ivorey.io/widget/form/Wv3Q0a53AuzjoNDgLvxV] Follow us on IG: @thatgirlmagic.co - @i.am.crystal.clear - @coachlaken www.thatgirlmagic.co [http://www.thatgirlmagic.co/]  Ways to work with us: Book With Crystal [https://links.ivorey.io/widget/bookings/crystal-connectioncall] - Book With Laken  [https://links.ivorey.io/widget/bookings/laken-connectioncall]

Ep. 26: What 'The In-Between’ Actually Looks Like

Here’s a moment no one really prepares you for— When you stop doing what you’ve always done…and suddenly, nothing feels normal anymore. You don’t jump in.You don’t fix it.You don’t over-explain.You don’t take over. And instead of feeling free…you feel uncomfortable. Restless. Questioning everything. In this episode of The Low & Slow Podcast, Crystal and Laken explore the real experience of change—not the highlight reel, but the raw moments that happen when you interrupt your patterns in real time. Because the “in-between” isn’t peaceful at first.It’s disorienting. It’s the space where your old identity no longer fits…but your new way of being hasn’t fully landed yet. This episode asks: What actually happens when you stop overfunctioning—in real life? Not in theory.Not in journaling prompts.But in the moment your body tells you to step in…and you choose not to. We explore: •Why not stepping in feels physically loud •The inner dialogue when you break patterns •Why discomfort comes from interrupting the pattern •What it looks like to witness life without inserting yourself •The identity shift of no longer being “the one who fixes everything” •How others may react when you change •Why your nervous system feels activated •How safety is built through small, quiet reps You’ll recognize this if you’ve ever: •Felt the urge to fix everything •Over-explained to avoid being misunderstood •Struggled to sit still instead of taking control •Questioned who you are without being “the responsible one” Because the in-between looks like: Not answering right away.Letting someone misunderstand you.Sitting in discomfort without fixing it.Letting things unfold without controlling the outcome. The truth: The discomfort isn’t a sign something is wrong.It’s a sign something is changing. You’re no longer reacting the same way.You’re no longer reinforcing the identity you’ve outgrown. Your nervous system is learning:“I don’t have to jump in anymore.” Follow along, tune in, and let’s get into your next mindset shift! It means the world to us if you would rate, like, save, share, and most importantly hit that subscribe button! And if something you heard today hit home for you, share it with your world. There is plenty of room at our table. She looks like she has it together. But inside, she’s tired of being the strong one. Peace. Play. Love. is for her. A retreat where the armor comes off, the nervous system softens, and self-trust becomes the loudest voice in the room. June 2026. This is your pause and your pivot. Check out our Women’s Retreat we are hosting —The Peace.Play.Love Retreat  Deets: https://offers.thatgirlmagic.co/ppl-retreat [https://offers.thatgirlmagic.co/ppl-retreat] Request A Remix! If you’re stuck or in a situation you want a new lens on, submit your dilemma anonymously below for a mindset remix from us on a future podcast episode! [https://links.ivorey.io/widget/form/Wv3Q0a53AuzjoNDgLvxV] Follow us on IG: @thatgirlmagic.co - @i.am.crystal.clear - @coachlaken www.thatgirlmagic.co [http://www.thatgirlmagic.co/]  Ways to work with us: Book With Crystal [https://links.ivorey.io/widget/bookings/crystal-connectioncall] - Book With Laken  [https://links.ivorey.io/widget/bookings/laken-connectioncall]