Barefoot shoes, the Soul, and the Disconnected Domination Culture

Being Open-Minded

In this episode of The Marion Rose Podcast, I talk about April Fool’s Day, AI, and discernment, in the context of expanding consciousness and understanding reality. I began sharing about my experience with two April Fool’s jokes on social media, and the shock I felt when I thought they were real, particularly now that I'm focusing on discerning what's been written by AI. I describe how jokes are often only funny when they’re clearly not true. From there I reflect on discernment in creating safety, and then I share about major paradigm shifts in my own life (including Aware Parenting, Nonviolent Communication, Buteyko Breathing, barefoot shoes, and The Marion Method). I talk about how we can feel overwhelmed if we expand our consciousness in really big ways, and how to support opening and expansion in ways that create safety as well as clarity. 00:00 Welcome and Context 00:42 April Fools Shock 02:32 AI and Discernment Online 04:23 Jokes and Safety 08:15 Montessori and Seeing Clearly 10:06 Paradigm Shifts and Openness 14:39 NVC and Discombobulation 17:12 Beyond Our Frame of Reference 21:04 DDC Consciousness, Shame and Conditioning 23:39 Rabbit Holes and Not-Knowing 28:45 Life Shows the Next Step 30:47 Integrating Big Experiences 33:21 Closing Reflections Disclaimer: Please note that I am sharing all this information outside my role as an Aware Parenting instructor and a regional coordinator. This podcast is my own independent offering, and the perspectives and information I share here are my own, from my own experiences and understandings. This podcast is NOT affiliated with or endorsed by Aletha Solter, PhD, nor by the Aware Parenting Institute.

Reconsidering Regulation Part 2: Innate Wisdom, with Katie Fusco

In this second episode of Reconsidering Regulation, I’m joined by my dear friend and colleague Katie Fusco. We share that we are both Aware Parenting instructors, while speaking only for ourselves (not for Aware Parenting, the Aware Parenting Institute (and for Katie, not the NHS, or Katie’s NHS trust). We explore why the terms regulation, dysregulation, and co-regulation can lack clarity and how that can in be potentially harmful; particularly because different paradigms use the same words to mean very different things. Katie describes her initial visceral “no” to the term regulation, shares its roots and meanings (including control, restriction, conformity, and governance), and explains how the concept is often used without nuance in professional spaces. We discuss how these terms can be used to shame people (including children) for feeling and expressing big feelings, and Katie gives examples of how regulation frameworks can be applied in unhelpful ways in many systems. I share my ideas about how regulation language can echo long cultural histories of believing that there is something inherently 'wrong' with human beings, especially our bodies and feelings, including moral and behavioural frameworks. We talk about the popularity of regulation in parenting and other contexts, and I reference James J. Gross’s coining of the term, and share about how it has spread into many fields and social media. Throughout, we emphasise welcoming feelings: especially crying, as an innate biological healing process, as well as the importance of precision, clarity, and honesty about what practices actually do (for example, Katie talks about the potential of naming diversion, distraction, dissociation, or suppression when that’s what’s happening, alongside plenty of compassion). Katie talks about the difference between teaching about emotions versus offering listening and presence, and how the concept of “appropriate” emotional expression can function as shaming. I connect this to my Marion Method map of the Disconnected Domination Culture (DDC), where disconnection is required before domination can occur, and we talk about the wider implications for empathy, community, and power. Katie shares lived experience as a parent and in perinatal mental health work, including how being listened to without agenda supported her capacity to welcome feelings even more. We end by welcoming responses from viewers, emphasising curiosity and compassion, and Katie shares that she can be reached on Instagram at @thecryingclinic. 00:00 Welcome + What This Conversation Is (and Isn’t) About 00:46 Why “Regulation” Isn’t an Aware Parenting Term 02:27 Katie’s Background (NHS) + Speaking Only for Ourselves 04:38 Truth-Telling Without Judgment: The Meaning Behind This Series 07:03 Words Affect Power: How “Regulation” Can Shame and Disconnect 11:05 Katie’s Visceral “No” + The Etymology of Regulation 22:37 Ambiguity and Regulation 33:07 Marion’s Big Picture Lens: History, Culture, and the “New Scientific Cloak” 47:16 More Nuance, More Feeling-Language: Beyond Regulated vs Dysregulated 50:38 Babies Know How to Heal: Crying, Connection, and the Cost of Suppression 01:02:13 DDC Critique: “Appropriate for Whom?” and Regulation as Control-in-Disguise 01:08:06 Big Feelings Are an Apt Response (and the DDC Would Collapse) 01:11:09 Supporting Children to Feel the Full Range of Their Feelings 01:25:03 Generational Change: Embodied Listening to Crying (A Family Story) 01:28:09 Culture, Conditioning & Colonisation: How Disconnection Gets Passed Down 01:37:46 Empathy Can’t Be Taught: It's experienced and Internalised (A Shared Moment between Katie and Her Son) 01:44:28 Unconditional Love Through Feelings: Re-Parenting and Repair 01:48:57 A Call to Action: “Reconsidering Regulation” as a Movement 02:06:12 Closing Invitation: Curiosity, Connection, and Sending Love Disclaimer: This podcast is my own independent offering, and the perspectives and information I share here are my own, from my own experiences and understandings. The podcast is not affiliated with or endorsed by Aletha Solter, PhD, or the Aware Parenting Institute. ~~~~~~ 💖 Thank you for listening! I’m so willing for this episode to support you in finding more freedom and connection. #psychospiritual #themarionmethod #consciousness #language #regulation 📚 Here's the link to the PDF about the history of feelings that I talked about on the episode: https://marion-rose.myflodesk.com/tantrums-and-tears-a-history [https://marion-rose.myflodesk.com/tantrums-and-tears-a-history] 📚 Here's the link to my free PDF on Reconsidering Regulation: https://marion-rose.myflodesk.com/reconsidering-regulation-pdf 🌐 My Website: https://marionrose.net/ [https://marionrose.net/] 📬 Newsletter: Sign up here for updates and free resources: https://marion-rose.myflodesk.com/marion-rose-main-list [https://marion-rose.myflodesk.com/marion-rose-main-list] 📚 Books: https://marionrose.net/books/ [https://marionrose.net/books/] 🌿 Courses & Mentoring - Free PDFs & Online Courses (Marion Method): https://marionrose.net/marion-method-courses [https://marionrose.net/marion-method-courses] - 1:1 Mentoring: https://marionrose.net/mentoring/ [https://marionrose.net/mentoring/] 🌸 Social Media Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ [https://www.instagram.com/marion_rose/]marion_rose [https://www.instagram.com/marion_rose/]/ [https://www.instagram.com/marion_rose/] Facebook Personal Page: https://www.facebook.com/marion.badenoch/ [https://www.facebook.com/marion.badenoch/] Facebook Business Page: https://www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD [https://www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD] 🌸 Living Aware Parenting Podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@livingawareparentingpodcast [https://www.youtube.com/@livingawareparentingpodcast] 🌹❤️ Big love, Marion xoxo

Reconsidering Regulation Part 1: Words as Spells, with Jana Kingsford

Welcome to this new series, called Reconsidering Regulation. In part 1, I'm so delighted to welcome Jana Kingsford, who I first met in 2014, and who helped me change my life. She taught me step-by-step how to build and launch my first online course, which supported me to keep homeschooling as a single mum. Jana and I connect this full-circle moment to the start of a new horse year (this time fire, last time wood), and talk about how we trust timing and “felt sense” over linear timelines. We then dive into our shared concern about popularised language, especially “nervous system regulation/dysregulation” and how it can lose nuance, become a box, and turn into judgment about feeling painful feelings. We discuss how words function like spells that shape lived reality, why Jana shifted from saying “triggered” to the word “activated,” and how AI and social media amplify shorthand that replaces storytelling and specificity. I share etymology research linking “reg/regulate” to “king/right/correct,” and frame how the Disconnected Domination Culture can co-opt helpful concepts into those more related to control, conformity, and suppression. Jana explains how she first received the word “regulation” as a demand to be calm and monotone, stripping personality and creativity, and contrasts that with her approach to big dreams: feeling everything, moving through what she calls "resistance", and her invented framework “Retriculate,” which she created after thinking that was what Twilight’s “matriculate" was saying. I outline The Marion Method distinction between thoughts-feelings (like guilt/shame from DDC conditioning), needs-feelings (like fear signalling unmet needs for safety), and healing-feelings (past pain surfacing in the present), and we agree that blanket “regulate” talk can obscure what’s actually happening for any unique individual. Jana also talked about her sabbatical experiment with slow living, and the practical body-based changes she made (sleep, protein, coffee timing, walking, heavy lifting) to support her body: while still prioritising aliveness and creation. We end by affirming choice, long-form conversation as an antidote to buzzwords, and the value of finding language that reflects lived experience: like Jana’s distilled insight that “regulation blunts big dreams.” I enjoyed the insight that after a conversation like this, we've both come away with a short distilled description of why we value reconsidering the term regulation, and that these short forms act as holographs of the whole, in contrast to terms that cut off deeper meaning and nuance. 00:00 Welcome & Reconnecting After Years 00:56 How an Online Course Changed Marion’s Life (2014 Origin Story) 02:14 OG Online Course Tech + Showing Up Unscripted 04:46 From $7K a Year to $7K in Two Weeks: Building a Values-Led Work LIfe 07:02 Full-Circle Timing: Year of the Horse & Trusting the Invisible Timeline 08:51 Why We’re Talking ‘Regulation’: Trending Words, Lost Nuance & ‘Activated’ vs ‘Triggered’ 15:29 Words Are Spells: Etymology, Word-of-the-Year Power & Consciousness with Language 24:55 When ‘Regulation’ Becomes a Judgment: DDC, Feelings as Gifts & The Need for Specificity 39:16 The History Behind ‘Regulate’: Kings, ‘Right/Correct,’ and ‘Might Is Right’ 42:14 Retriculate and 'Resistance': A Process for Feeling Everything Through Big Dreams 46:48 Jana's Retriculate: feeling one's feelings to release energy related to money 47:35 Authenticity over polish: creating new language for new experiences 49:14 The wealth myth: ‘less emotion = more money’ (and why it’s backwards) 50:58 Why ‘nervous system regulation’ became a buzzword (and how it can backfire) 53:51 Psyche vs nervous system: words that shape one'ss inner state 55:31 The AI era advantage: going viral by being ourselves 56:21 A nuanced map: Marion's 3 types of feelings (thoughts, needs, healing) 01:01:48 When regulation becomes dissociation: why ‘calm’ isn’t always most helpful 01:03:36 Big dreams unleash big emotions: not ‘regulating’ our way out of growth 01:06:07 Goals vs callings: devotion, connection, and healing on the way 01:17:25 The ‘slow living’ trend: when slowing down stifles creativity 01:22:52 Needs-based body support: sleep, protein, cortisol, and individual needs 01:27:21 Storytelling vs. 'Nervous System' Labels: Naming Real Experience 01:29:03 Indigenous Rhythms & Why Stopping Can Stop Momentum for Some 01:34:49 Universal Words, Machine Culture & Staying Human 01:36:58 Feeling to Create: Emotionalising the Big Dream 01:42:20 Trends, Virality & Reclaiming Power of Choice Online 01:44:47 Free Spirits vs. 'Strategy': Survival Mode, AI, & Creativity 01:52:41 Trust, Psychospiritual Clarity & Long-Form as the Antidote 02:00:01 Distillation, Having an Edge & Closing Reflections Disclaimer: This podcast is my own independent offering, and the perspectives and information I share here are my own, from my own experiences and understandings. The podcast is not affiliated with or endorsed by Aletha Solter, PhD, or the Aware Parenting Institute. You can find out more about Jana Kingsford and her work at: 💜 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/janakingsford/ 💜 Facebook Personal Page: https://www.facebook.com/janakingsfordbigdreamer 💜 Website: https://janakingsford.com/ ~~~~~~ 💖 Thank you for listening! I’m so willing for this episode to support you in finding more freedom and connection. #psychospiritual #themarionmethod #consciousness #language #regulation 📚 Here's the link to the PDF about the history of feelings that I talked about on the episode: https://marion-rose.myflodesk.com/tantrums-and-tears-a-history [https://marion-rose.myflodesk.com/tantrums-and-tears-a-history] 📚 Here's my PDF on Reconsidering Regulation: https://marion-rose.myflodesk.com/reconsidering-regulation-pdf 🌐 My Website: https://marionrose.net/ [https://marionrose.net/] 📬 Newsletter: Sign up here for updates and free resources: https://marion-rose.myflodesk.com/marion-rose-main-list [https://marion-rose.myflodesk.com/marion-rose-main-list] 📚 Books: https://marionrose.net/books/ [https://marionrose.net/books/] 🌿 Courses & Mentoring - Free PDFs & Online Courses (Marion Method): https://marionrose.net/marion-method-courses [https://marionrose.net/marion-method-courses] - 1:1 Mentoring: https://marionrose.net/mentoring/ [https://marionrose.net/mentoring/] 🌸 Social Media Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ [https://www.instagram.com/marion_rose/]marion_rose [https://www.instagram.com/marion_rose/]/ [https://www.instagram.com/marion_rose/] Facebook Personal Page: https://www.facebook.com/marion.badenoch/ [https://www.facebook.com/marion.badenoch/] Facebook Business Page: https://www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD [https://www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD] 🌹❤️ Big love, Marion xoxo

Willingness (and why I don't say "procrastination" and "I manifested it").

In this episode of the Marion Rose Podcast, I introduce you to the Marion Method, which is distinct from Aware Parenting. I share about the evolution of my work and practice, and how I've been called to show up on this podcast and everywhere else completely as myself. The focus in this episode is the willingness work, which is one part of The Marion Method. The willingness work is related to what we want to receive, be, and take action with. I share about why the willingness work is different to concepts of "procrastination" when we're wanting to take action, and why I also don't use the term "I manifested it" and why that's important in being willing to receive what we really want. I share about the Soul's journey through life in a personality, and why the willingness work is so central to becoming more who we really are. 00:00 Welcome to the Marion Rose Podcast 00:27 My Own Experiences of The Willingness Work 01:43 Introduction to the Marion Method 05:31 Our Essence as Love and Will 08:06 The Effects of The Disconnected Domination Culture 12:30 The Journey of The Souls 21:22 Understanding Will and Power 22:06 My Four Learning Lineages 23:47 The Concept of Willingness 30:24 Procrastination and Manifestation 48:42 Understanding The Willingness Practice 50:27 The Full Body Yes 52:46 My Writing Process with Willingnesss 54:11 Transformation and Psychosynthesis 55:20 Showing Up Authentically 56:01 Trusting Timing and Willingness 01:04:06 Language and Powerw 01:16:43 Spiritual Experiences and Integration 01:22:21 Final Thoughts and Gratitude Disclaimer: This podcast is my own independent offering, and the perspectives and information I share here are my own, from my own experiences and understandings. The podcast is not affiliated with or endorsed by Aletha Solter, PhD, or the Aware Parenting Institute. Thank you for listening! I’m so willing for this episode to support you in finding more freedom and connection. #psychospiritual #themarionmethod #consciousness #procrastination #manifestation My Website: https://marionrose.net/ [https://marionrose.net/] Newsletter: Sign up here for updates and free resources: https://marion-rose.myflodesk.com/marion-rose-main-list [https://marion-rose.myflodesk.com/marion-rose-main-list] Books: https://marionrose.net/books/ [https://marionrose.net/books/] Courses & Mentoring - Free PDFs & Online Courses (Marion Method): https://marionrose.net/marion-method-courses [https://marionrose.net/marion-method-courses] - 1:1 Mentoring: https://marionrose.net/mentoring/ [https://marionrose.net/mentoring/] Social Media Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ [https://www.instagram.com/marion_rose/]marion_rose [https://www.instagram.com/marion_rose/]/ [https://www.instagram.com/marion_rose/] Facebook Personal Page: https://www.facebook.com/marion.badenoch/ [https://www.facebook.com/marion.badenoch/] Facebook Business Page: https://www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD [https://www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD] Living Aware Parenting Podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@livingawareparentingpodcast [https://www.youtube.com/@livingawareparentingpodcast] Big love, Marion xoxo

Barefoot shoes, the Soul, and the Disconnected Domination Culture

LET’S TALK BAREFOOT SHOES, CULTURAL CONDITIONING, AND TRUE FREEDOM! 🎙️ Discover barefoot shoes, body connection, and freedom from cultural conditioning * Explore the impact of footwear on body function and psychospiritual development * Learn about the history of heels, shoe design, and the metaphorical connection between sole and soul * Hear personal experiences and insights about reparenting, cultural conditioning, and conscious living * Tune in for tips on foot health, barefoot shoe benefits, and freeing yourself from Disconnected Domination Culture conditioning (DDC) ✨ Where to watch: * YouTube: The Marion Rose Podcast [https://www.youtube.com/@TheMarionRosePodcast] EPISODE DESCRIPTION In this episode of The Marion Rose Podcast, I delve into the world of barefoot shoes and their significance in maintaining body connection, while getting free from Disconnected Domination Culture conditioning (DDC). I share personal experiences and insights about psychospiritual development, reparenting, and cultural conditioning. The journey also encompasses an exploration of the history of heels, the impact of shoe design on body function, and the metaphorical connection between sole and soul. I explore the health benefits of barefoot shoes, my extensive footwear journey, and how such choices can free us from cultural conditioning. EPISODE TIMESTAMPS * 00:00 Introduction to The Marion Rose Podcast * 00:24 Disclaimer and Independent Offering * 01:16 Exploring Consciousness and Personal Interests * 02:14 The Journey with Barefoot Shoes * 05:20 Personal History with Footwear * 08:14 Children's Influence on Footwear Choices * 13:32 Cultural Conditioning and Footwear * 23:56 The Evolution and Impact of Footwear * 25:21 Understanding Barefoot Shoes * 51:16 Foot Anatomy and Health * 01:00:12 Exploring the Concept of The DDC * 01:01:53 Understanding Foot Differences * 01:03:18 The Importance of Barefoot Shoes * 01:05:21 Foot Volume and Shoe Fit * 01:07:52 Narrow vs. Wide Feet * 01:11:02 Natural Movement and Furniture * 01:17:18 Correct Toes and Foot Health * 01:20:29 Foot Exercises and Equipment * 01:24:03 Personal Recommendations and Journey * 01:28:55 Conclusion and Final Thoughts THANK YOU FOR LISTENING! I’m so willing for you to have found this episode helpful. RESOURCES & LINKS Newsletters * Sign up here: marion-rose.myflodesk.com/marion-rose-main-list [https://marion-rose.myflodesk.com/marion-rose-main-list] Books * Aletha Solter, PhD: awareparenting.com/books.htm [https://www.awareparenting.com/books.htm] * Marion Rose, PhD: marionrose.net/books [https://marionrose.net/books] Courses & Mentoring * Marion Method Free PDFs and online courses: marionrose.net/marion-method-courses [https://marionrose.net/marion-method-courses] * 1:1 Mentoring Social Media * Podcast Instagram: @marion_rose [https://www.instagram.com/marion_rose/] * Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD * https://www.facebook.com/marion.badenoch * YouTube: The Marion Rose Podcast [https://www.youtube.com/@TheMarionRosePodcast] MY WEBSITE * Website: marionrose.net [https://marionrose.net/] NEWSLETTERS * Sign up here: marion-rose.myflodesk.com/marion-rose-main-list [https://marion-rose.myflodesk.com/marion-rose-main-list] MENTORING * Mentoring with me: marionrose.net/mentoring [https://marionrose.net/mentoring/] 🌹❤️ Big love, Marion xoxo Disclaimer: This podcast is my own independent offering, and the perspectives and information I share here are my own, from my own experiences and understandings. The podcast is not affiliated with or endorsed by Aletha Solter, PhD, or the Aware Parenting Institute. IF YOU DO WANT TO LISTEN TO MY LIVING AWARE PARENTING PODCAST, YOU CAN DO THAT HERE: * Available on all usual podcast platforms and on YouTube: youtube.com/@livingawareparentingpodcast [https://www.youtube.com/@livingawareparentingpodcast]