Why we overconsume

Why do different people bring out different sides of us?

Why do we seem to become different versions of ourselves around different people? Why do some people make us feel confident, relaxed, and authentic, while others leave us guarded, self-conscious, or unlike who we know ourselves to be? In this episode, we explore the psychology behind our shifting inner selves and varying social personalities. Drawing on concepts such as mirror neurons, self-monitoring, impression management, approval-seeking, and emotional conditioning, we examine why our personalities can appear to change depending on who we're with - and how some people can make us feel like our best, most powerful and liberated selves, while some bring out the bad sides of us or just make us feel like lesser versions of ourselves. We also consider questions of authenticity, people-pleasing, and social performance. After all, as we curate ourselves, we must ask ourselves if we are being fake when we adapt to different social situations. Or is human personality simply more fluid than we often assume? And lastly, we explore how the search for those rare individuals around whom we feel most at ease pans out, given the complexity of human relations. After all, the whole idea of understanding how others make us feel, is to find them and keep them close! So let us explore some ideas in identity, connection, and how the people around us shape the versions of ourselves that emerge.

Why we overconsume

Why do we keep buying things we don’t really need, even when we know they won’t make us happier for long? In this episode of The Meaning of Everyday Things, we explore overconsumption not as hedonistic tendencies but as a compulsiveness that reflects modern life itself. From dopamine and emotional regulation to capitalism, identity, and social media culture, this episode asks why “enough” feels so hard to find in a world of endless desires. Here is an introspective deep dive into the psychology and sociology of needs/wants, and what our consumption habits might really be trying to tell us.

5. Why we hide our loneliness

Loneliness is a universal human experience, but admitting it feels uncomfortable and shameful. We dread the question, "Do you feel lonely?", because we don't know and can't really say. We wear an armour of self-sufficiency and try to deny or minimise it as much as possible. Maybe we don't even know the answer, or we lie to ourselves. But this defensive nonchalance and pretentious indifference that is so common now is very telling. And the numbers tell the real story: The WHO has reported that 871,000 people die of loneliness every year. In this episode, we unpack why loneliness is equated with weakness, failure, and social inadequacy, especially in modern urban life. The "mood of the age" seems to be one of self-love and independence. On top of this, they say, be "unbothered". But all this creates detachment and emotional distancing. From the psychology and neuroscience of loneliness to its portrayal in films, literature, and popular culture, this episode looks at how loneliness affects the brain, distorts social perception, and quietly shapes our relationships. We also examine how today’s culture of hyper-independence, online intimacy, and the “loneliness economy” normalises isolation while making genuine connection harder. This episode does not offer fixes nor is it an emotional appeal to "go out there' or 'get out more'. We all know that's easier said than done. Rather, this conversation explores loneliness as a deeply human condition which cannot simply be solved by staying busy, being productive, or learning to enjoy solitude.

4. Why living in moment feels so hard: a 2025 wrap up

People often say they feel fully here while doing just three things: travel, exercise, and sex. In these moments, presence seems effortless. But why does it become so laboured in everyday life? This episode asks why being in the moment feels hard outside heightened or novel experiences. I explore 'being in the moment' not as a maxim, but as a psychological skill and a philosophical stance. Drawing from cognitive psychology, neuroscience, and everyday observation, we will discuss how much of our lives are spent replaying the past or rehearsing the future, and what has slipped away from us. Get ready for a reflective episode about noticing, grounding yourself, and about learning to return, again and again, to what is already there, without being haunted by the phantoms in our heads.

3. Why hobbies make us feel alive

Why do the things we do “just for fun” feel so essential to who we are? Whether we’re making small talk with strangers or trying to truly understand someone we love, we almost always end up asking the same question: What do you do in your free time? Hobbies seem trivial, but they quietly reveal our desires, identities, and inner lives. In this episode of we explore the surprising depth beneath our passions, from childhood curiosities to teenage self-definition, to the hobbies that rescue us in adulthood. We’ll look at why certain activities put us in a “flow state,” how hobbies offer emotional release, and why they can feel like tools of survival, not just leisure. Because sometimes, the smallest acts like baking muffins, roller skating, or simply watching birds, are not escapes from life, but a way back into it.