The Mental Load Killed My Sex Life

The Mental Load Killed My Sex Life

This week on The Motherhood Sh!tshow, we’re talking about something every parent knows all too well: how the bloody mental load manages to kill your sex life dead. Before we even get into the sexy stuff (or the total lack of it), we kick off with the usual chaos: Lisa’s low-effort BBQ triumph, Hannah’s gastro-ridden week from hell, and the Jewish chicken soup that held the household together. Because of course. Then we dive head-first into the truth: When you’re carrying the emotional, mental, logistical and sensory load of an entire household… the only thing getting lucky is the washing machine. 💥 In this episode we get into: * The invisible mental load that absolutely annihilates desire * Why intimacy dies when you’re the walking brain of the household * Touch fatigue, resentment and the “don’t even breathe near me” phase * Postpartum expectations vs the very unsexy reality * Scheduling sex like dentist appointments (romance is DEAD) * Why choreplay genuinely works (science says so) * How hormonal shifts and identity earthquakes mess with desire * The resentment spiral and how couples fall into it without noticing * The actual reason men misinterpret exhaustion as rejection * Why intimacy needs mental space, not just time or opportunity This episode is basically a permission slip for every mum who’s ever thought: “I love him… but I’m not even close to in the mood.” ❤️ The deeper stuff we unpack: * Why the pattern isn’t “him vs her” - it’s the dynamic you both fell into * How childhood survival roles show up in adult relationships * Why communication collapses after babies arrive * The resentment thorn - and why it keeps getting nudged * What really needs to shift before desire returns * How sharing the load fairly becomes the foundation for intimacy 🔗 ▶️ To watch the MENTAL LOAD RESET masterclass, click here: https://www.lisahodgson.co/mentalreset [https://www.lisahodgson.co/mentalreset] Inside this FREE 60-minute masterclass, Lisa teaches the 6-step framework she’s built over 5 years - grounded in global relationship research, behavioural science, communication skills and her experience inside 500+ family homes. It’s designed for couples (or solo), and shows you exactly how to shift your home dynamic so: * the load feels fairer * resentment drops * communication improves * you feel more connected like a team again.  And if you’re craving connection with other mums who get it, join The Mum Hive on Whatsapp here: https://chat.whatsapp.com/Bn9nTQ5WOx1AQvMvu68wyz?mode=hqrt1 [https://chat.whatsapp.com/Bn9nTQ5WOx1AQvMvu68wyz?mode=hqrt1]

Help! My Kids are Feral!

If your kids seem perfectly behaved for everyone else then turn into tiny gremlins the second they see you… you’re not alone. This week we talk about what’s actually normal, what’s developmentally expected, and why none of this means you’re a bad parent. We cover: • Why kids save their wildest behaviour for you • Meltdowns, bedtime chaos and what’s biologically normal • Phases vs red flags • Mum guilt, judgement, and the “am I the problem?” spiral • Neurodiversity, diagnosis hurdles and the emotional load • How our own childhood shapes how we respond Hannah also shares honestly about navigating her child’s challenges and the shame, fear and confusion so many parents carry but rarely say out loud. A small favour: If you see mums talking about feral kids, meltdowns or burnout, please share this episode so more women feel seen and supported. Free resources: Grab the mum tools linked to make the chaos 5 percent easier. Join The Mum Hive FREE whatsapp group here: https://chat.whatsapp.com/Bn9nTQ5WOx1AQvMvu68wyz?mode=hqrt1 [https://chat.whatsapp.com/Bn9nTQ5WOx1AQvMvu68wyz?mode=hqrt1] The FREE Share The Load Guide - https://www.lisahodgson.co/share-the-load [https://www.lisahodgson.co/share-the-load]  Share The Load Program Waitlist - https://www.lisahodgson.co/share-the-load-waitlist [https://www.lisahodgson.co/share-the-load-waitlist]  Steps to a clutter free life : https://www.lisahodgson.co/clutterfree [https://www.lisahodgson.co/clutterfree] Contact us: lisa@lisahodgson.co [lisa@lisahodgson.co], hannah@themumhive.com [hannah@themumhive.com]

Finding Friendships Fraught? It's Not Just You

This week on The Motherhood Sh!t Show, we dive headfirst into the wild, wonderful, awkward, butt-clenching world of female friendships - as mums, as expats, as women with weird childhood hangovers, and as humans who are absolutely winging it. Before we even get to the deep stuff, Lisa relives her spiritual awakening at the Oasis gig (Manchester pride, accidental Liam Gallagher evangelism and all), and Hannah tells the now-iconic story of the cat poo mistaken for a protein bar - because of course. This show is not called a Sh!t Show for nothing. 💬 In this episode we chat about: * Why making friends as grown-ass women is weirder and harder than anyone admits * The pressure to have a big circle of mum friends (spoiler: bollocks) * How drinking-based friendships change when you get sober * What it’s like trying to form connections as new mums, expats, or both * When friendships last forever — and when they really, really don’t * The grief of friendship breakups (yes, it’s a thing) * Being a “shit friend” in the past — and forgiving yourself * The difference between performing friendship vs real connection * Why we need friends who can handle our weirdness * Why mums STILL say “sorry the house is a mess” even when everyone knows it looks exactly like a house with kids should * Why vulnerability is the secret sauce in friendship… unless someone weaponises it (yikes) * How teen behaviour affects mum friendships (because teenagers… are teens) * Rediscovering who the hell you are, and finding people who actually see you This episode is basically a cosy, chaotic, truth-telling hug for anyone who’s ever felt lonely, awkward, or completely unsure how to “adult” at friendship. ❤️ Loved this episode? Send it to the friend who lets you be your complete feral, flawed, fabulous self. And don’t forget to grab our FREE mum resources below - designed to make this circus we call motherhood slightly easier. The FREE Share The Load Guide - https://www.lisahodgson.co/share-the-load [https://www.lisahodgson.co/share-the-load]  Share The Load Program Waitlist - https://www.lisahodgson.co/share-the-load-waitlist [https://www.lisahodgson.co/share-the-load-waitlist]  The Mum Hive Whatsapp group: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1rErsKo5LeZ9jleWJbK0I2vOgVL0uJkAd3aLfLFwe3_k/edit [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1rErsKo5LeZ9jleWJbK0I2vOgVL0uJkAd3aLfLFwe3_k/edit] 6 Steps to a clutter free life : https://www.lisahodgson.co/clutterfree [https://www.lisahodgson.co/clutterfree] Contact us: lisa@lisahodgson.co [lisa@lisahodgson.co], hannah@themumhive.com [hannah@themumhive.com] Lisa’s Christmas resources: https://www.lisahodgson.co/free-home-organising-resources [https://www.lisahodgson.co/free-home-organising-resources]

Sober Mumming - We Called Time on Mummy Wine

In this juicy (and very real) episode, Lis and Hannah dive deep into their personal journeys with sobriety - from white cider in the park as teens to wine o’clock as exhausted mums. With eight and six years of sober life under their belts, they reflect on the sneaky grip alcohol had on them, and how breaking free has completely reshaped their motherhood experience. We chat about: * The emotional loop of craving → drinking → regretting * Why “just one glass” never really is just one glass * What it means to be a grey-area drinker * How sobriety helped us become more present, emotionally available mums * And of course, the books that cracked it all open... 📚 Books/Podcasts that supported our journey: * This Naked Mind – Annie Grace * Beyond Booze – Sarah Rusbatch * The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober – Catherine Gray * The Sober Diaries – Clare Pooley * The Sober Awkward Podcast [https://open.spotify.com/show/4qXlSc9lDGStYLeYIjrWPH]  * A Thousand Wasted Sundays – Victoria Vanstone Whether you’re sober-curious, stuck in a wine-at-5 loop, or just here for the honesty - this episode might be the sign you didn’t know you needed. We promise, you’re not alone. Other Mum Resources to Make Life Easier The FREE Share The Load Guide - https://www.lisahodgson.co/share-the-load [https://www.lisahodgson.co/share-the-load]  Share The Load Program Waitlist - https://www.lisahodgson.co/share-the-load-waitlist [https://www.lisahodgson.co/share-the-load-waitlist]  The Mum Hive : https://the-mum-hive.mn.co/landing?from=https%3A%2F%2Fthe-mum-hive.mn.co%2Fadmin%2Flanding-page%2Feditor%2Flive%2F3784 [https://the-mum-hive.mn.co/landing?from=https%3A%2F%2Fthe-mum-hive.mn.co%2Fadmin%2Flanding-page%2Feditor%2Flive%2F3784]  6 Steps to a clutter free life : https://www.lisahodgson.co/clutterfree [https://www.lisahodgson.co/clutterfree] Contact us: lisa@lisahodgson.co [lisa@lisahodgson.co], hannah@themumhive.com [hannah@themumhive.com]

Back to Work, Not The Same

Returning to work after babies isn’t the empowering “hot coffee and adult conversations” moment we were promised. It’s more like an emotional triathlon - guilt, logistics, identity shifts and a workplace that still thinks you’re the same person you were before birth… cute. In this episode, we get honest about the messy, lonely, hilarious and sometimes heartbreaking reality of going back to work as a mum. We share our own return-to-work stories, the data behind the motherhood penalty, why confidence takes such a hit, how matrescence changes everything, and what workplaces actually need to do so mothers stop walking out. Plus our Shit Tip of the Week, a camping mishap, manifested Oasis tickets, and why snacks might just save your career. If you’re returning, thinking about returning, or still crying in the bathroom at work... this one’s for you. Join us, and come feel less alone. The FREE Share The Load Guide - https://www.lisahodgson.co/share-the-load [https://www.lisahodgson.co/share-the-load]  Share The Load Program Waitlist - https://www.lisahodgson.co/share-the-load-waitlist [https://www.lisahodgson.co/share-the-load-waitlist]  The Mum Hive : https://the-mum-hive.mn.co/landing?from=https%3A%2F%2Fthe-mum-hive.mn.co%2Fadmin%2Flanding-page%2Feditor%2Flive%2F3784 [https://the-mum-hive.mn.co/landing?from=https%3A%2F%2Fthe-mum-hive.mn.co%2Fadmin%2Flanding-page%2Feditor%2Flive%2F3784]  6 Steps to a clutter free life : https://www.lisahodgson.co/clutterfree [https://www.lisahodgson.co/clutterfree] Contact Hannah to be part of the 50 coffees with 50 mums project: hannah@themumhive.com [hannah@themumhive.com] Contact Lisa: lisa@lisahodgson.co [lisa@lisahodgson.co]