“Why You Procrastinate (And Why It’s Not Your Fault)”

Overwhelmed: Too Much, Too Fast, Too Often!

Summary Dr. Tom Kiely explores the nature of overwhelm, its biological and emotional roots, and practical strategies to manage it effectively. Drawing from his expertise as a clinical psychologist, he emphasizes understanding overwhelm as a signal from the nervous system and offers actionable steps to restore balance. Keywords overwhelm, stress management, nervous system, emotional regulation, mental health, self-care, neuropsychology, resilience, modern life stress, psychological tips Subscribe 🔔Subscribe to access bi-weekly podcast episodes:  [PODCAST LINK [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-psych-studio-podcast/id1809230805]] Get In Touch With Dr. Kiely PRIVATE PRACTICE WEBSITE [https://www.tomkielyphd.com/] PSYCHOLOGY TODAY [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/tom-kiely-burlingame-ca/354507] LINKEDIN [https://www.linkedin.com/in/tom-kiely-ph-d-b545b379/] INSTAGRAM [https://www.instagram.com/psychstudiopodcast/] Psychology Today https://www.psychologytoday.com/us [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us] Suicide and Crisis Hotline Dial 988 https://988lifeline.org/ [https://988lifeline.org/] Music Street Cred: Anteros https://uppbeat.io/t/anteros/street-cred License code: W7XEHCU0U6DSGN9Q   Firelight: Hemlock https://uppbeat.io/t/hemlock/firelight License code: RKGF5N0ZRFQADJ9O Summer Pop Lemonade: SonicMood https://audiojungle.net/item/summer-pop-lemonade/53371178 License code: 14a92b7e-e924-4c82-9de5-f8aa3518b752 Ember: The Lakes https://uppbeat.io/t/the-lakes/ember License code: DEW9V7UFVY0KIDGM Rock Your Surfboard: Yeti Music https://uppbeat.io/t/yeti-music/rock-your-surfboard License code: 343U0UCD8ZHJYTR

Grief: You Don’t Move On, You Move Forward...

Summary In this episode, Dr. Tom Kiely explores the complex nature of grief, examining how our brains and nervous systems handle loss, and offering a compassionate perspective on navigating it. Whether you're grieving or supporting someone who is, this episode provides valuable insights into the process of healing and the importance of staying connected. Key Topics ·      The neurobiology of grief: how the brainattempts to solve a problem it can't fix ·      Common misconceptions about grief stages and thenon-linear reality ·      The psychological and physiological responses toloss, including physical sensations ·      Models of grief: from stages to dual process,meaning-making, and continuing bonds ·      Practical strategies for processing grief:naming feelings, avoiding avoidance, staying connected ·      The importance of moving forward with love, notforgetting or leaving behind Timestamps 00:00 - Personal story: reflecting on the loss of Dr.Kiely's father 02:36 - How grief fragments memory andimpacts daily life 04:01 - The social and academic fallout ofgrief 05:21 - Recognizing that you're not yourselfduring grief 07:15 - Creating a new self with a newrelationship after loss 09:10 - A pivotal moment in therapy classthat revealed unresolved grief 12:37 - Understanding that grief waits to beprocessed, not forgotten 17:25 - The origins and limitations of thefive stages model 23:47 - The dangers of comparing your griefto a timeline 25:36 - The meaning-making model: rebuildingyour story after loss 28:18 - Continuing bonds theory: stayingconnected in new ways 33:46 - Moving with love rather than awayfrom the lost person 35:01 - The neuropsychology of grief: brainregions involved and why it feels physical 40:49 - Avoidance as a defense mechanism ingrief 43:04 - Reframing the phrase "movingon" to "moving forward" with loved ones 44:33 - Practical ways to live with loss andhonor your relationship 45:54 - How to navigate grief intentionallyand compassionately 46:24 - No right or wrong way to grieve:honoring your unique process 47:18 - Naming feelings to reduce their power 48:26 - The risks of avoidance and the valueof connection 50:19 - Staying connected through memories, traditions,and internal dialogue 52:02 - Giving yourself permission to carrygrief and love forward 52:42 - Recognizing signs that support isneeded 53:19 - The role of therapy in processinggrief 56:17 - Encouragement to approach grief withpatience, compassion, and awareness ·      Thanks For Asking Podcast by Nora McInerney [https://www.noramcinerney.com/podcast] ·      Grief Never Really Goes Away: YouTube episode by Nora McInerney [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oXdT0XrvuRg] ·      On Death and Dying by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross [https://www.amazon.com/On-Death-Dying-Elizabeth-Kubler-Ross/dp/0684832400] ·      Continuing Bonds Theory explanation [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/living-dying/201805/the-continuing-bonds-theory-grief] ·      Neuropsychologicalaspects of grief (general overview) [https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5408774/]   Subscribe 🔔 Subscribe to access bi-weekly podcast episodes:  [PODCASTLINK [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-psych-studio-podcast/id1809230805]]   Get In Touch With Dr. Kiely PRIVATE PRACTICE WEBSITE [https://www.tomkielyphd.com/] PSYCHOLOGY TODAY [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/tom-kiely-burlingame-ca/354507] LINKEDIN [https://www.linkedin.com/in/tom-kiely-ph-d-b545b379/] INSTAGRAM [https://www.instagram.com/psychstudiopodcast/] Psychology Today https://www.psychologytoday.com/us [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us]   Suicide and Crisis Hotline Dial 988 https://988lifeline.org/ [https://988lifeline.org/] Music Street Cred: Anteros https://uppbeat.io/t/anteros/street-cred License code: W7XEHCU0U6DSGN9Q   Firelight: Hemlock https://uppbeat.io/t/hemlock/firelight License code: RKGF5N0ZRFQADJ9O   Summer Pop Lemonade: SonicMood https://audiojungle.net/item/summer-pop-lemonade/53371178 License code: 14a92b7e-e924-4c82-9de5-f8aa3518b752   Poem: Soundroll https://uppbeat.io/t/soundroll/poem License code: IF5E7OHG2FZLQTRN   Ember: The Lakes https://uppbeat.io/t/the-lakes/ember License code: DEW9V7UFVY0KIDGM   Rock Your Surfboard: Yeti Music https://uppbeat.io/t/yeti-music/rock-your-surfboard License code: 343U0UCD8ZHJYTR

“Why You Procrastinate (And Why It’s Not Your Fault)”

Summary This episode explores the true nature of procrastination, emphasizing that it's not laziness but a complex emotional regulation process. Dr. Tom Kiely explains how understanding the emotional roots of procrastination can help us break free from the cycle and develop healthier strategies. Keywords procrastination, emotional regulation, ADHD, self-compassion, productivity, mental health, behavioral change   Takeaways Procrastination is about emotion, not time. Avoidance provides short-term relief but long-term shame. Externalize structure to manage tasks effectively. Practice self-compassion to break the shame cycle. Reframe procrastination as a signal of underlying distress.   Subscribe 🔔Subscribe to access bi-weekly podcast episodes:  [PODCAST LINK [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-psych-studio-podcast/id1809230805]]     Get in touch with Dr. Kiely PRIVATE PRACTICE WEBSITE [https://www.tomkielyphd.com/] PSYCHOLOGY TODAY [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/tom-kiely-burlingame-ca/354507] LINKEDIN [https://www.linkedin.com/in/tom-kiely-ph-d-b545b379/] INSTAGRAM [https://www.instagram.com/psychstudiopodcast/]     Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us] Suicide and Crisis Hotline Dial 988 https://988lifeline.org/ [https://988lifeline.org/]    Resources Solving Procrastination [https://solvingprocrastination.com/resources/] Simon Fraser University: Student Learning Commons [https://www.lib.sfu.ca/about/branches-depts/slc/learning/procrastination] Atomic Habits by James Clear [https://www.amazon.com/Atomic-Habits-Proven-Build-Break/dp/0735211299]   Music: Firelight: Hemlock https://uppbeat.io/t/hemlock/firelight License code: RKGF5N0ZRFQADJ9O   Return: Greenhouse https://uppbeat.io/t/greenhouse/return License code: 9KVZHSIBZRDEOIPT   Summer Pop Lemonade: SonicMood https://audiojungle.net/item/summer-pop-lemonade/53371178 License code: 14a92b7e-e924-4c82-9de5-f8aa3518b752   Rock Your Surfboard: Yeti Music https://uppbeat.io/t/yeti-music/rock-your-surfboard License code: 343U0UCD8ZHJYTR

Wired but Lonely: The Psychology of Loneliness in a Connected World

KEYWORDS loneliness, connection, technology, mental health, social skills, relationships, emotional well-being, neuropsychology, therapy, modern life SUMMARY In this episode, Dr. Tom Kiely explores the complex nature of loneliness in the modern world, drawing on personal experiences and clinical insights. He discusses how technology has transformed human relationships, often leading to emotional disconnection despite increased access to social networks. The conversation delves into the psychological and neurological impacts of loneliness, highlighting its association with mental health issues such as depression and anxiety. Dr. Kiely emphasizes the importance of social skills and therapeutic approaches in overcoming feelings of isolation, ultimately offering hope for reconnection and meaningful relationships. SUBSCRIBE: 🔔 Subscribe to access bi-weekly podcast episodes:  [PODCAST LINK [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-psych-studio-podcast/id1809230805]]  GET IN TOUCH WITH DR. KIELY: PRIVATE PRACTICE WEBSITE [https://www.tomkielyphd.com/] PSYCHOLOGY TODAY [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/tom-kiely-burlingame-ca/354507] LINKEDIN [https://www.linkedin.com/in/tom-kiely-ph-d-b545b379/] INSTAGRAM [https://www.instagram.com/psychstudiopodcast/] PSYCHOLOGY TODAY: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us] SUICIDE AND CRISIS HOTLINE:  Dial 988 https://988lifeline.org/ [https://988lifeline.org/] MUSIC: Firelight: Hemlock https://uppbeat.io/t/hemlock/firelight License code: RKGF5N0ZRFQADJ9O Return: Greenhouse https://uppbeat.io/t/greenhouse/return License code: 9KVZHSIBZRDEOIPT From the Soul: Dope Cat https://uppbeat.io/t/dope-cat/from-the-soul License code: WQTPYD1X2ZGEWQP4 New Chapter: Jeffrey Kaale https://uppbeat.io/t/jeff-kaale/new-chapter License code: PDH53KC9G10HLCGS Rust: Monument Music https://uppbeat.io/t/monument-music/rust License code: UOGVCO8TIXB5KSJU Early Hours: Justin Lee https://uppbeat.io/t/justin-lee/early-hours License code: SKLF5PNEBQJKEJUC Summer Pop Lemonade: SonicMood https://audiojungle.net/item/summer-pop-lemonade/53371178 License code: 14a92b7e-e924-4c82-9de5-f8aa3518b752 Rock Your Surfboard: Yeti Music https://uppbeat.io/t/yeti-music/rock-your-surfboard License code: 343U0UCD8ZHJYTR

From Fatal Attraction to DBT: A Deep Dive into Borderline Personality Disorder

“From Fatal Attraction to DBT: A Deep Dive into Borderline Personality Disorder” Hosted by: Tom Kiely, PhD KEYWORDS Borderline Personality Disorder, BPD, emotional dysregulation, attachment styles, neuropsychological assessment, therapy, mental health, psychological disorders, treatment, emotional regulation   SUMMARY In this episode, Dr. Tom Kiely delves into the complexities of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), exploring its portrayal in popular culture, particularly through the film 'Fatal Attraction.' He discusses the historical context of BPD, its symptoms, triggers, and the emotional dysregulation experienced by individuals with the disorder. The conversation also highlights the developmental origins of BPD, the impact of attachment styles, and the importance of neuropsychological assessment. Finally, Dr. Kiely emphasizes evidence-based therapeutic approaches to effectively treat BPD, challenging the stigma surrounding the disorder. SUBSCRIBE: 🔔 Subscribe to access bi-weekly podcast episodes:  [PODCAST LINK [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-psych-studio-podcast/id1809230805]] GET IN TOUCH WITH DR. KIELY: PRIVATEPRACTICE WEBSITE [https://www.tomkielyphd.com/] PSYCHOLOGY TODAY [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/tom-kiely-burlingame-ca/354507] LINKEDIN [https://www.linkedin.com/in/tom-kiely-ph-d-b545b379/] INSTAGRAM [https://www.instagram.com/psychstudiopodcast/] PSYCHOLOGY TODAY: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us] SUICIDE AND CRISIS HOTLINE: Dial 988 https://988lifeline.org/ [https://988lifeline.org/] RESOURCES: National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH): https://www.nimh.nih.gov [https://www.nimh.nih.gov/] American Psychiatric Association (APA): https://www.psychiatry.org/patients-families/borderline-personality-disorder [https://www.psychiatry.org/patients-families/borderline-personality-disorder] Mayo Clinic – BPD Overview: https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/borderline-personality-disorder [https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/borderline-personality-disorder] National Education Alliance for Borderline PersonalityDisorder (NEA-BPD): https://www.borderlinepersonalitydisorder.org [https://www.borderlinepersonalitydisorder.org/] International Society for the Study of PersonalityDisorders (ISSPD): https://www.isspd.org [https://www.isspd.org/] National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI): https://www.nami.org/learn-more/mental-health-conditions/borderline-personality-disorder [https://www.nami.org/learn-more/mental-health-conditions/borderline-personality-disorder] Behavioral Tech (Marsha Linehan / DBT Training): https://behavioraltech.org [https://behavioraltech.org/] DBT Self Help: https://www.dbtselfhelp.com [https://www.dbtselfhelp.com/] Psychology Tools: https://www.psychologytools.com [https://www.psychologytools.com/]   MUSIC: Reflection: Luke Moseley https://uppbeat.io/t/luke-moseley/reflection License code: U2XR0X0A3M9RUFCZ   Sketchbook: Prigida https://uppbeat.io/t/prigida/sketch-book License code: XQEICUBN8C43SY4Q   Poem: Soundroll https://uppbeat.io/t/soundroll/poem [https://uppbeat.io/t/soundroll/poem] License code: IF5E7OHG2FZLQTRN   Street Cred: Anteros https://uppbeat.io/t/anteros/street-cred [https://uppbeat.io/t/anteros/street-cred] License code: W7XEHCU0U6DSGN9Q   From the Soul: Dope Cat https://uppbeat.io/t/dope-cat/from-the-soul License code: WQTPYD1X2ZGEWQP4   High School: Infraction https://uppbeat.io/t/infraction/high-school License code: BYSZKNIUFPWAEXLO   New Chapter: Jeffrey Kaale https://uppbeat.io/t/jeff-kaale/new-chapter License code: PDH53KC9G10HLCGS   Slow Down: HLFMN https://uppbeat.io/t/hlfmn/slow-down License code: 7YIWAJNANVVYNGC5   Summer Pop Lemonade: SonicMood https://audiojungle.net/item/summer-pop-lemonade/53371178 License code: 14a92b7e-e924-4c82-9de5-f8aa3518b752   Rock Your Surfboard: Yeti Music https://uppbeat.io/t/yeti-music/rock-your-surfboard License code: 343U0UCD8ZHJYTR