The Strong One: What It Costs to Always Be the Capable One — And What It Looks Like to Let That Identity Evolve

Why “No” Might Be the Most Powerful Word in Your Vocabulary

What if the secret to actually thriving — not just surviving — starts with a word you’ve been taught to avoid your whole life? This week on Raising Hope, I sit down with Dr. Wendy O’Connor, a Stanford-trained positive psychologist and life strategist for women. Wendy had the career, the marriage, the kids — everything she thought she wanted. Then she woke up one day with three daughters under 15 months old, two thriving private practices, and a quiet, unshakeable feeling that something was missing. We talk about: • Why high-achieving women are wired to say yes — and what it costs us • The real connection between chronic people-pleasing and your self-confidence • What “living a life by design” actually means (hint: it starts with knowing your values, strengths, and desires) • How to say no without blowing up your life or your relationships • Why your kids are watching how you handle boundaries, whether you realize it or not If you’ve been quietly drowning under everyone else’s expectations and you’re ready to reconnect with what you actually want, this conversation is your permission slip. Connect with Dr. Wendy on Instagram @drwendyoconnor, and grab her free resources HERE [https://www.drwendyoconnor.com/free-life-planner]. If you’re a high-achieving woman who’s checked every box and still feels like something’s missing — you’re in the right place. I help women like you figure out who they are underneath the exhaustion, using astrology, Human Design, and real talk (no toxic positivity allowed). Curious what’s actually misaligned in your life? Book a free Next Move Blueprint™ Session [www.kristygiarratano.com/next-move], or learn more about 1:1 coaching and Becoming Her [www.kristygiarratano.com/work-with-me], my 12-week group program, at kristygiarratano.com [www.kristygiarratano.com].

The Strong One: What It Costs to Always Be the Capable One — And What It Looks Like to Let That Identity Evolve

You have been the strong one your whole life. The one who handles it. The one everyone leans on. The onewho shows up — always, without fail — regardless of what it costs you. In this episode Kristy gets real aboutwhat that identity actually costs, what it looks like when it starts to crack, and what it means to let it evolveinto something that finally serves you instead of everyone else. Including her own story of being passed overfor a role she had already been doing for a year — and what her body did when she kept going anyway. What we cover:• Who the strong one actually is and how she got that way• The real physical and emotional cost of carrying too much for too long• Kristy's story: the senior director role, the betrayal, Covid, and the decision that changed everything• Julie's story: VP of HR, two kids under five, laid off overnight — and what she found on the other side• Four practices for letting the strong one identity evolve without losing yourself Links: * Becoming Here Waitlist → HERE [www.kristygiarratano.com/work-with-me] * Comment BLUEPRINT on @raisinghopepodcast [www.instgram.com/raisinghopepodcast] latest post to enter the giveaway * Book your Next Move Blueprint Session → HERE [https://www.kristygiarratano.com/buy/p/buynextmove] * Follow on Instagram → ⁠@raisinghopepodcast [www.instgram.com/raisinghopepodcast]

Surviving Isn’t Thriving: A Therapist’s Take on Over-Functioning, Burnout, and Breaking the Cycle with Renee Calhoun, LMFT

If you’ve ever been praised for holding everything together — and you’re exhausted from it — this episode is for you. Renee Calhoun is a licensed marriage and family therapist with over a decade of experience in trauma, family systems, and human trafficking prevention. In this conversation, we dig into the real roots of over-functioning: where it starts in childhood, why it gets praised, and what it’s quietly doing to your body, your relationships, and your kids. We cover: • The family roles that shape how you show up as an adult • Why over-functioning isn’t controlling — it’s hypervigilant • The generational patterns Xennials and Gen X are finally breaking • What the breaking point usually looks like — and what comes after • Practical tools to interrupt the cycle without burning everything down Free resource: Renee is offering a free journaling guide for over-functioning women on her new site, Therapy Snacks [www.therapysnacks.com] — use code word HOPE to download it for free. Find Renee at TherapySnacks.com [www.TherapySnacks.com] or  ReneeCalhounLMFT.com [www.ReneeCalhounLMFT.com].  Book directly with her if you’re in Pennsylvania or New York.  Enjoying the show? Here are two ways to go deeper: 🔗 Download the free “Who the F*ck Am I Now?” workbook — the starting point for women who are ready to stop surviving and start figuring out what’s next. [link] 📩 Ready for your next move? DM me NEXT on Instagram @kristygiarratano

SPECIAL EPISODE: Threads of Me and You: How to Reweave Your Life Without Tearing It All Down - with Laura Nespoli

What if the life you’ve been living isn’t wrong — it just needs to be rewoven? This week I’m sitting down with Laura Nespoli, strategic storyteller, founder of Meshin Movement, and author of the newly released memoir-meets-workbook Threads of Me and You. Laura spent 20 years helping brands like Google, Meta, and Southwest Airlines shape their stories — and from the outside, her life looked exactly like it was supposed to. Until it didn’t. At 38, something cracked open. And what followed was a two-year journey through emotional breakdown, childhood trauma, identity crisis, and ultimately — a complete reweaving of who she was and what she was here to do. In this episode we talk about: • What it actually means to be a highly sensitive person and empath — and why so many high-achieving women don’t know they are one • How your body keeps score long before your brain catches up • The cycle of beliefs, thoughts, feelings, and actions — and how to hack it when you have zero self-worth to start with • Why growth in one partner can feel threatening to the other (and what Laura and her husband actually did about it) • The concept of wonderlust — and why curiosity about your inner world is the fuel for everything • What self-awareness looks like in practice (hint: it’s not a vibe, it’s a skill) And her most powerful mic-drop of the episode: “You don’t need to tear it all down. Your life doesn’t need to be rebuilt. It needs to be rewoven.” If you’ve ever felt like something was missing but couldn’t name it — this one’s for you. Connect with Laura: meshinmovement.com [meshinmovement.com] Threads of Me and You — [Grab it on Amazon HERE [https://amzn.to/4e4gO5b]] Ready to figure out your next move? DM me NEXT on Instagram [www.instagram.com/raisinghopepodcast] or grab your Next Move Blueprint™ Session [HERE [www.kristygiarratano.com/buy]] Don't forget to subscribe wherever you're listening so you can get updated whenever an episode is available.

Highlight of Season 2 Episode 2: The In-Between: What to Do When You Don't Know Who You Are Anymore

The in-between isn’t a crisis. It’s a portal. 🌀 That low hum that never quite goes away. The grief that makes no sense because nothing has died — except something has. The old version of you is being released. The self you built piece by piece through every achievement, every title, every role — she’s in the process of letting go. And that’s a loss, even when it’s the right one. You can be grateful for your life AND feel like something important is missing. Those two things are not in conflict. This is not depression. This is disorientation. And disorientation is a sign that you’re growing — that the next version of you is trying to emerge. Website [www.kristygiarratano.com]- you can get my free workbook and book your Next Move Blueprint Session™