#49 A Reclamation Story: Escaping the Cult & Healthy Skepticism with Nikko Miyatake

The Intimacy Series: Episode III - Intimacy & Sex + questioning your sex narrative

In this episode, Hilary and I continue the journey through what intimacy means, from safe body, attunement with self, then attunement with others and now into the bedroom where most people place the idea of where intimacy exists.  We talk all about those foundations we’ve built upon in the previous episodes and when they are applied in intimacy through sex, that connection reaches new depths and new heights. We talk through the 4 sex narratives that permeate our culture. Where do you land within those narratives, then get curious, ask questions about why you’re there; have you ever challenged that narrative; is it a narrative you do agree with? We chat about triggering topics y’all.  AS with all the episodes, Hilary and I encourage you to approach the information in this episode with compassion and curiosity.  IF you find yourself in discussion alongside us where you’re defending a position, or in high energy disagreement, ask… -Where are my limiting beliefs? -Where are my judgements, my projections? -Where are my insecurities? Basically, where is my conditioning showing up.  Vs.  how might this be a doorway to something that leads me into a deeper experience with intimacy than I could have ever imagined?  It’s totally okay to disagree, it’s super healthy, and I encourage you to be where you are at.  There is no perfect place to be. AND, there is no ‘right’ place to be.   We simply want you to challenge where you are.  And if you land in the same place, super good.  You have consciously chosen your position.  That I absolutely can get behind!  Within the exploration and questioning of this subject, Hilary and I know there is abuse, it is so real, we do validate that, know its legitimacy. There is so much nuance to relationships, we would have to dissect so much from the individual story before we even approach challenging our narratives within the relationship with ‘who you want to be intimate with.’ I considered this for a while, the place I was brought back to is the start of this series…safe body and attunement.  I really feel when these foundations are present, we can approach the experiences of  ‘disharmony, or un met needs/expectations’ and how our personal narratives/conditionsings contribute to that within a relationship in a much more grounded and clear way.  ✨ If you’re looking for support in reconnecting to your body, you can reach out to Hilary or myself, we both have different styles, but share core foundations of personal intimacy and attunement. You can also start with my free series: Reclaim Your Safe Body, on YouTube. All links below! ______________________________________________ ________________________________________ Hi, it's Malia showing up here in the show notes to (wink, wink,) drop a reminder to ya'll to leave a 5 star review if you haven't already! Okay, thanks so much! ________________________________________ Show Links:   ⁠Join The Reclamation on YouTube! ⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@JoinTheReclamation/featured] For more support on your personal journey, follow my current series on discovering safety within your body and building a trusting relationship with it!  Follow Hillary:  Instagram: ⁠@stark.nkd⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/stark.nkd/] Website: ⁠starknkd.com⁠ [https://www.starknkd.com/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAabhhFKBLKwjzjmS5escx_6IFCh_BoWQTT9CcZDUaHF1wgRSraq_QYG402Y_aem_32toT3-OQiQ19UVCBzhwNA] Follow The Reclamation  Instagram: ⁠@welcome_to_thereclamation [https://www.instagram.com/welcome_to_thereclamation/] https://www.instagram.com/welcome_to_thereclamation/ [https://www.instagram.com/welcome_to_thereclamation/] YouTube: ⁠Join The Reclamation ⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@JoinTheReclamation/featured] ⁠Spotify⁠ [https://open.spotify.com/show/5nQj3kBJ7BQkhPi11unq3v?si=75de5e8e29b642e7] ⁠Apple Podcasts ⁠ [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-reclamation-podcast/id1718475598] _______________________________________________ Work with Malia: Malia is a trauma informed somatic practitioner who also utilizes regression and parts work tools. Her focus is to help her clients find safety and belonging within their bodies so they are empowered to live a life in alignment to their authentic nature.  If you would like to work with Malia, please email her at malia.hoyt@gmail.com with your inquiry.

#50 Intentional Initiation: Why Rites, Rituals, and Ceremony Matter

This episode is all about  rituals and ceremonies as initiations across life's biggest thresholds.  My guest, Johannah, is an educator and ceremonialists trained in soul-centric human development, Rites of Passage, wilderness education.  She is also trained as a Waldorf teacher,  working with children of all ages for over 20 years She holds a particular passion for tweens/teens, where she strives to meet their developmental needs for mentorship and initiation in a culture that has forgotten how to do so.  In this episode, you'll hear Johanna's story of how she came to recognize the void of initiation, and why she seeks to weave in the remembrance of the olds ways with the modern world.  We chat about why these moments of crossing need to be witnessed, and the disconnect to earth and cycles that exists because we are largely void of and unaware of these points of passage.  If this episode, and Johanna's work speak to you, please share this episode and check out her online resources. Johannah has offerings in free education on instagram and webinars, as well as Girls Group facilitator training. You can find links to those below! If you or someone you know has a story of Reclamation they would love to share, I would love to know! Email your submission to: Thereclamation.malia@gmail.com  ________________________________________ Hi, it's Malia showing up here in the show notes to (wink, wink,) drop a reminder to ya'll to leave a 5 star review if you haven't already! Okay, thanks so much! ________________________________________ Show Links:   ⁠Join The Reclamation on YouTube! ⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@JoinTheReclamation/featured] For more support on your personal journey, follow my current series on discovering safety within your body and building a trusting relationship with it!  Follow The Reclamation  Instagram: ⁠@welcome_to_thereclamation [https://www.instagram.com/welcome_to_thereclamation/] YouTube: ⁠Join The Reclamation ⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@JoinTheReclamation/featured] ⁠Spotify⁠ [https://open.spotify.com/show/5nQj3kBJ7BQkhPi11unq3v?si=75de5e8e29b642e7] ⁠Apple Podcasts ⁠ [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-reclamation-podcast/id1718475598] Find Johannah Here: Instagram: @wakeful.nature [https://www.instagram.com/wakeful.nature/] wakefulnature.com [https://wakefulnature.com] Johanna's Forgotten Rite Webinar [ https://wakefulnature.com/rop] Menstrual Mini Course [https://wakefulnature.com/sacredbloodsignup] Work with Malia: Malia is a trauma informed somatic practitioner who also utilizes regression and parts work tools. Her focus is to help her clients find safety and belonging within their bodies so they are empowered to work through their child-hood and adult traumas.  If you would like to work with Malia, please email her at malia.hoyt@gmail.com with your inquiry.

The Intimacy Series, Ep. II - How Childhood Shame Shapes Adult Intimacy + How To Work With It

This episode builds on themes from Part 1 of our intimacy series, exploring how our early experiences shape what intimacy, safety, and sexual empowerment feel like in our adult lives. Hillary and I dive into our personal stories of body and sexual conditioning, and how shame often tags along. We’re not sex ed experts, but we’ve done the deep inner work—and what we’ve found is that true empowerment starts in childhood. We talk about the root chakra, the power of safe touch, and how attuned parenting can change everything. By modeling a shameless relationship to our own bodies, we help children grow into adults who deeply know the language of their own bodies and boundaries. This is about healing intimacy—for ourselves, our relationships, and our future generations. _____________________________________________ If you or someone you know has a story of Reclamation they would love to share, I would love to know! Email your submission to: Thereclamation.malia@gmail.com  Hi, it's Malia showing up here in the show notes to (wink, wink,) drop a reminder to ya'll to leave a 5 star review if you haven't already! Okay, thanks so much! ________________________________________ Show Links:   ⁠Join The Reclamation on YouTube! ⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@JoinTheReclamation/featured] For more support on your personal journey, follow my current series on discovering safety within your body and building a trusting relationship with it!  Follow The Reclamation  Instagram: ⁠@welcome_to_thereclamation [https://www.instagram.com/welcome_to_thereclamation/] https://www.instagram.com/welcome_to_thereclamation/ [https://www.instagram.com/welcome_to_thereclamation/] YouTube: ⁠Join The Reclamation ⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@JoinTheReclamation/featured] ⁠Spotify⁠ [https://open.spotify.com/show/5nQj3kBJ7BQkhPi11unq3v?si=75de5e8e29b642e7] ⁠Apple Podcasts ⁠ [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-reclamation-podcast/id1718475598] Find Hillary Here:  Instagram: ⁠@stark.nkd⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/stark.nkd/] Website: ⁠starknkd.com⁠ [https://www.starknkd.com/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAabhhFKBLKwjzjmS5escx_6IFCh_BoWQTT9CcZDUaHF1wgRSraq_QYG402Y_aem_32toT3-OQiQ19UVCBzhwNA] Work with Malia: Malia is a trauma informed somatic practitioner who also utilizes regression and parts work tools. Her focus is to help her clients find safety and belonging within their bodies so they are empowered to work through their child-hood and adult traumas.  If you would like to work with Malia, please email her at thereclamation.malia@gmail.com with your inquiry.

#49 A Reclamation Story: Escaping the Cult & Healthy Skepticism with Nikko Miyatake

My guest on the pod today is Nikko Miyatake. He is the owner of Nikoko Cacao and Maya Superfoods. His deep immersion in the world of cacao includes six months of intensive training with a shaman in Guatemala, amplifying his understanding of cacao's spiritual and healing properties.  IN this episode, you’ll hear How Nikko got into cacao, what it means to work with the plant, One hour 22 min he talks about his cacao.  As an embodiment coach, cacao has been an excellent ally for me.  It is important for me to have high quality, well sourced products, especially if I’m using them in personally transformative ways. Nikko’s definitely makes the cut. But, this episode isn’t all about cacao. Nikko shares his reclamation story, taking this podcast back to its roots. We chat about his experience within a cult, how he got out and how that experience led him to discover a sense of worth within himself rather than deriving it externally. Nikko's message is centered on healthy skepticism, responsibility for self, and the importance of fundamentals. __________________________________________________ If you or someone you know has a story of Reclamation they would love to share, I would love to know! Email your submission to: Thereclamation.malia@gmail.com  ________________________________________ Hi, it's Malia showing up here in the show notes to (wink, wink,) drop a reminder to ya'll to leave a 5 star review if you haven't already! Okay, thanks so much! ________________________________________ Show Links:   ⁠Join The Reclamation on YouTube! ⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@JoinTheReclamation/featured] For more support on your personal journey, follow my current series on discovering safety within your body and building a trusting relationship with it!  Instagram: ⁠@welcome_to_thereclamation [https://www.instagram.com/welcome_to_thereclamation/] YouTube: ⁠Join The Reclamation ⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@JoinTheReclamation/featured] ⁠Spotify⁠ [https://open.spotify.com/show/5nQj3kBJ7BQkhPi11unq3v?si=75de5e8e29b642e7] ⁠Apple Podcasts ⁠ [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-reclamation-podcast/id1718475598] FIND NIKKO HERE: Instagram: @nikoko.cacao [https://www.instagram.com/nikoko.cacao/] Purchase Nikko's Cacao here: nikokocacao.com [https://nikokocacao.com/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaePufqMZcZHxe6kOorOfl7p9yoeYjWoQL11rnYun3gYxgaS7Dh7ohvong9tjQ_aem_SxCgIfnV919tg3URb5Olxw] Find Nikko's Maya Super Foods Here: mayasuperfoods.com [https://www.mayasuperfoods.com/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAadS0CLgRYXWl4Di9L-skJpKEGVmvsGtdaby4gpaZcGfU4wzSoA3WWXwQZ1e9w_aem_vDSxcUAHXLoAsVGtYuWhrQ] Work with Malia: Malia is a trauma informed somatic practitioner who also utilizes regression and parts work tools. Her focus is to help her clients find safety and belonging within their bodies so they are empowered to work through their child-hood and adult traumas.  If you would like to work with Malia, please email her at thereclamation.malia@gmail.com with your inquiry.

#48 Do It Your Way: A Mother's Day Panel

Hey, hey Reclamation Fam!  This episode is the first Panel episode on The Reclamation.  I welcome in 3 Mothers, Carly, Kelly and Gervase.  Together, these 3 mothers span 25+ years of unique AND similar Mothering journeys, bringing in insightful anecdotes, experience and inspired wisdom to this episode. This episode gleans it's goodness from questions gathered from communities, my own experiences and the internet, some of which I've been dying to ask like: 'Do you ever want to quit?' Carly, Kelly and Gervase really deliver in this episode, validating the individual challenges we experience, the MASSIVE importance of caring for yourself and doing things your way, and allowing the good, the bad and the ugly to all be a PART of the experience. Wishing you and yours' a blessed Mother's Day. If Mother's Day presents challenging emotions for you, I encourage you to turn your heart toward celebrating the great care taker of us all, Mother Earth! Enjoy the episode! _______________________________________________________ Show Links:   ⁠Join The Reclamation on YouTube! ⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@JoinTheReclamation/featured] For more support on your personal journey, follow my current series on discovering safety within your body and building a trusting relationship with it!  Follow The Reclamation  Instagram: ⁠@welcome_to_thereclamation [https://www.instagram.com/welcome_to_thereclamation/] https://www.instagram.com/welcome_to_thereclamation/ [https://www.instagram.com/welcome_to_thereclamation/] YouTube: ⁠Join The Reclamation ⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@JoinTheReclamation/featured] ⁠Spotify⁠ [https://open.spotify.com/show/5nQj3kBJ7BQkhPi11unq3v?si=75de5e8e29b642e7] ⁠Apple Podcasts ⁠ [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-reclamation-podcast/id1718475598] Find my guests here: Kelly: Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/kellyanniejewelry/] , Kelly Annie Jewelry [https://kellyannie.com/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAac2TSofdFNj-62-rSkKCXZpWCRukZJIDm2zBc3NtBDWzhv_o-21pZxzp3R94w_aem_lMy1i3LRyGWYqbgM0zWXvQ] Carly: Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/carly.sears.the.magnificent/] , Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/carly.sears.33] Gervase: Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos/] Work with Gervase @ Gervasekolmos.com [https://www.gervasekolmos.com/social-links?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAactqzTZ_UrF_okM42A-MGwnPxTKeLURZu-6-wSQ4zgSInd_ZFWKNd8MTpdV4Q_aem_sgzfGol6cBeunLiS3kYxiw] _______________________________________________ Work with Malia: Malia is a trauma informed somatic practitioner who also utilizes regression and parts work tools. Her focus is to help her clients find safety and belonging within their bodies so they are empowered to work through their child-hood and adult traumas.  If you would like to work with Malia, please email her at thereclamation.malia@gmail.com with your inquiry.