episode 017 - when loving him meant losing herself (revisit)

episode 017 - when loving him meant losing herself (revisit)

A woman on the tube. A TikTok. Words filling the screen about paying for a wedding alone, sleeping on the floor with eczema flaring, going 50/50 with a man who gave her a 30-pound Warren James set as a wedding gift. Then watching him remarry in under two years and give his new wife everything she was told she couldn't have. When my friend called her a red flag, I had a different thought: when a woman is a red flag, her biggest victim is herself. This episode is about that. Self-abandonment in relationships, what it actually looks like, why we don't talk about it with the same urgency we give every other red flag, and what discernment over desperation actually requires of you. Listen + subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts and YouTube. -- want to book a girl chat session? all the info is here - https://squ.re/45jq3ue [https://squ.re/45jq3ue] want to partner w/The Sage Sorority Podcast? let’s chat - thesagesorority@gmail.com [thesagesorority@gmail.com] have a question? send in an (anonymous) one for Q&A - https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority [https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority] 💘 SUBSTACK// https://open.substack.com/pub/thesagesorority [https://open.substack.com/pub/thesagesorority] INSTAGRAM// https://www.instagram.com/thesagesorority/ [https://www.instagram.com/thesagesorority/] TIKTOK// https://www.tiktok.com/@thesagesorority [https://www.tiktok.com/@thesagesorority] YOUTUBE// https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSorority [https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSorority] subscribe to The Sage Sorority Podcast + leave a (cheeky) 5* rating 💘 apple: https://bit.ly/41ZNwO2 [https://bit.ly/41ZNwO2] spotify: https://spoti.fi/4iVPAhn [https://open.spotify.com/show/1v0inMDUdtUT1A3jrCxgXi?si=7W_Frt3FQG6OKfxAxriRkA] youtube: http://bit.ly/45ei8wO [https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSorority] 💘 catch up with, our founder + host, Shantel instagram// https://www.instagram.com/shantelrousseau/ [https://www.instagram.com/shantelrousseau/] tiktok// https://www.tiktok.com/@shantelrousseau [https://www.tiktok.com/@shantelrousseau] youtube// https://www.youtube.com/@shantelrousseauonline [https://www.youtube.com/@shantelrousseauonline] OUTFITS - ShopMy// https://shopmy.us/shantelrousseau [https://shopmy.us/shantelrousseau] OUTFITS - LTK// https://www.shopltk.com/explore/shantelrousseau [https://www.shopltk.com/explore/shantelrousseau] 💘

Episode 003 - First Love, Forever Standards (revisit)

I'm at Cannes Lions this week for the first time (!!!) so we're revisiting one of the most listened-to episodes in TSS history. If you're new here, this is a great place to start. And if you've been around since the beginning, I think you'll want to hear this one again. This episode is built around what I call the Relationship Blueprint Theory: the idea that your earliest romantic experiences, more than almost anything else, quietly shape what you expect, what you tolerate, and what feels like love well into your adult life. There are also some genuinely useful frameworks in here for figuring out what you've internalized, where your standards actually come from, and how to start rewriting the blueprint on your own terms. If you've ever said "why do I keep ending up here," this one's for you. Listen on Spotify, Apple Podcasts and YouTube. Subscribe so you never miss an episode! -- want to book a girl chat session? all the info is here - https://squ.re/45jq3ue [https://squ.re/45jq3ue] want to partner w/The Sage Sorority Podcast? let’s chat - thesagesorority@gmail.com [thesagesorority@gmail.com] have a question? send in an (anonymous) one for Q&A - https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority [https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority] 💘 SUBSTACK// https://open.substack.com/pub/thesagesorority [https://open.substack.com/pub/thesagesorority] INSTAGRAM// https://www.instagram.com/thesagesorority/ [https://www.instagram.com/thesagesorority/] TIKTOK// https://www.tiktok.com/@thesagesorority [https://www.tiktok.com/@thesagesorority] YOUTUBE// https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSorority [https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSorority] subscribe to The Sage Sorority Podcast + leave a (cheeky) 5* rating 💘 apple: https://bit.ly/41ZNwO2 [https://bit.ly/41ZNwO2] spotify: https://spoti.fi/4iVPAhn [https://open.spotify.com/show/1v0inMDUdtUT1A3jrCxgXi?si=7W_Frt3FQG6OKfxAxriRkA] youtube: http://bit.ly/45ei8wO [https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSorority] 💘 catch up with, our founder + host, Shantel instagram// https://www.instagram.com/shantelrousseau/ [https://www.instagram.com/shantelrousseau/] tiktok// https://www.tiktok.com/@shantelrousseau [https://www.tiktok.com/@shantelrousseau] snapchat// https://snapchat.com/t/y4JGTR2O [https://snapchat.com/t/y4JGTR2O] youtube// https://www.youtube.com/@shantelrousseauonline [https://www.youtube.com/@shantelrousseauonline] OUTFITS - ShopMy// https://shopmy.us/shantelrousseau [https://shopmy.us/shantelrousseau] OUTFITS - LTK// https://www.shopltk.com/explore/shantelrousseau [https://www.shopltk.com/explore/shantelrousseau] 💘

episode 067 - 8 observations every woman in her 30s needs to hear

8 observations I've been carrying around in my notes app, and honestly, talking about with anyone who will listen. Things I'm watching in real time... in the world, in the women around me, in myself. Luck. Money. Longing. Comparison. Ambition. Meritocracy. Spirituality. Clarity. All of it on the table today. If even one of these lands for you, DM me the number. I read every single one. Books mentioned: Success and Luck by Robert Frank. Happy Money by Elizabeth Dunn and Michael Norton. Act Like a Leader, Think Like a Leader by Herminia Ibarra. Episode referenced: episode 060 — emma grede, start with yourself and the disclaimer economy want to book a girl chat session? all the info is here - https://squ.re/45jq3ue [https://squ.re/45jq3ue] want to partner w/The Sage Sorority Podcast? let’s chat - thesagesorority@gmail.com [thesagesorority@gmail.com] have a question? send in an (anonymous) one for Q&A - https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority [https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority] 💘 SUBSTACK// https://open.substack.com/pub/thesagesorority [https://open.substack.com/pub/thesagesorority] INSTAGRAM// https://www.instagram.com/thesagesorority/ [https://www.instagram.com/thesagesorority/] TIKTOK// https://www.tiktok.com/@thesagesorority [https://www.tiktok.com/@thesagesorority] YOUTUBE// https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSorority [https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSorority] subscribe to The Sage Sorority Podcast + leave a (cheeky) 5* rating 💘 apple: https://bit.ly/41ZNwO2 [https://bit.ly/41ZNwO2] spotify: https://spoti.fi/4iVPAhn [https://open.spotify.com/show/1v0inMDUdtUT1A3jrCxgXi?si=7W_Frt3FQG6OKfxAxriRkA] youtube: http://bit.ly/45ei8wO [https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSorority] THE SAGE SORORITY PODCAST - https://feeds.captivate.fm/thesagesorority/ 💘 catch up with, our founder + host, Shantel instagram// https://www.instagram.com/shantelrousseau/ [https://www.instagram.com/shantelrousseau/] tiktok// https://www.tiktok.com/@shantelrousseau [https://www.tiktok.com/@shantelrousseau] Snapchat// https://snapchat.com/t/fb8LTRCm [https://snapchat.com/t/fb8LTRCm] youtube// https://www.youtube.com/@shantelrousseauonline [https://www.youtube.com/@shantelrousseauonline] OUTFITS - ShopMy// https://shopmy.us/shantelrousseau [https://shopmy.us/shantelrousseau] OUTFITS - LTK// https://www.shopltk.com/explore/shantelrousseau [https://www.shopltk.com/explore/shantelrousseau] 💘

episode 066 - what a weekend alone with kids, really taught me about motherhood

I had my niece (5) and nephew (almost 3) for a full weekend. School runs, cooking, activities, baths, the lot. And by Sunday evening, I had more clarity about myself than I'd had in a while. This episode isn't a hot take on motherhood. It's not a debate about whether you should or shouldn't want children. It's an honest account of what happens when you pay close attention to how you feel — not what you think you should feel — in the middle of an experience that's very far from your normal life. We get into the relentlessness of early parenting that's genuinely hard to understand from the outside. The part nobody warns you about around autonomy and what losing it, even briefly, actually does to you. The social script around this conversation and why it keeps so many women from being honest. And what two US studies — from the University of New Hampshire and Michigan State — actually say about childless women and the threat of regret. There's no clean answer at the end of this one. That's kind of the point. UNH study (the 5.7 million figure): https://www.unh.edu/unhtoday/news/release/2025/09/15/study-shows-number-childless-women-us-continues-rise [https://www.unh.edu/unhtoday/news/release/2025/09/15/study-shows-number-childless-women-us-continues-rise] MSU study (the regret finding): https://msutoday.msu.edu/news/2023/04/childfree-study-confirmed-april2023 [https://msutoday.msu.edu/news/2023/04/childfree-study-confirmed-april2023] -- want to book a girl chat session? all the info is here - https://squ.re/45jq3ue [https://squ.re/45jq3ue] want to partner w/The Sage Sorority Podcast? let’s chat - thesagesorority@gmail.com [thesagesorority@gmail.com] have a question? send in an (anonymous) one for Q&A - https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority [https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority] 💘 SUBSTACK// https://open.substack.com/pub/thesagesorority [https://open.substack.com/pub/thesagesorority] INSTAGRAM// https://www.instagram.com/thesagesorority/ [https://www.instagram.com/thesagesorority/] TIKTOK// https://www.tiktok.com/@thesagesorority [https://www.tiktok.com/@thesagesorority] YOUTUBE// https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSorority [https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSorority] subscribe to The Sage Sorority Podcast + leave a (cheeky) 5* rating 💘 apple: https://bit.ly/41ZNwO2 [https://bit.ly/41ZNwO2] spotify: https://spoti.fi/4iVPAhn [https://open.spotify.com/show/1v0inMDUdtUT1A3jrCxgXi?si=7W_Frt3FQG6OKfxAxriRkA] youtube: http://bit.ly/45ei8wO [https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSorority] 💘 catch up with, our founder + host, Shantel instagram// https://www.instagram.com/shantelrousseau/ [https://www.instagram.com/shantelrousseau/] tiktok// https://www.tiktok.com/@shantelrousseau [https://www.tiktok.com/@shantelrousseau] Snapchat// https://snapchat.com/t/fb8LTRCm [https://snapchat.com/t/fb8LTRCm] youtube// https://www.youtube.com/@shantelrousseauonline [https://www.youtube.com/@shantelrousseauonline] OUTFITS - ShopMy// https://shopmy.us/shantelrousseau [https://shopmy.us/shantelrousseau] OUTFITS - LTK// https://www.shopltk.com/explore/shantelrousseau [https://www.shopltk.com/explore/shantelrousseau] 💘

episode 065 - ask a sage vol. 4: networking, career emptiness and a dating spiral

Ask a Sage is back. Three questions, three honest answers. We cover why networking feels gross and how to fix it, what to do when you've achieved everything you wanted and still feel empty (and yes, I mention Stefanie Sword-Williams' Career Comedown — read it), and the "fine but I feel nothing" dating pattern that more of you are experiencing than you'd think. I also open up about where I'm at with the pod right now — the slow build, the burnout, the inputs not matching the outputs. If you're building something and it's taking longer than you planned for, this one's for you too. Anonymous question link in the show notes. Send yours through. -- want to book a girl chat session? all the info is here - https://squ.re/45jq3ue [https://squ.re/45jq3ue] want to partner w/The Sage Sorority Podcast? let’s chat - thesagesorority@gmail.com [thesagesorority@gmail.com] have a question? send in an (anonymous) one for Q&A - https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority [https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority] 💘 SUBSTACK// https://open.substack.com/pub/thesagesorority [https://open.substack.com/pub/thesagesorority] INSTAGRAM// https://www.instagram.com/thesagesorority/ [https://www.instagram.com/thesagesorority/] TIKTOK// https://www.tiktok.com/@thesagesorority [https://www.tiktok.com/@thesagesorority] YOUTUBE// https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSorority [https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSorority] subscribe to The Sage Sorority Podcast + leave a (cheeky) 5* rating 💘 apple: https://bit.ly/41ZNwO2 [https://bit.ly/41ZNwO2] spotify: https://spoti.fi/4iVPAhn [https://open.spotify.com/show/1v0inMDUdtUT1A3jrCxgXi?si=7W_Frt3FQG6OKfxAxriRkA] youtube: http://bit.ly/45ei8wO [https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSorority] THE SAGE SORORITY PODCAST - https://feeds.captivate.fm/thesagesorority/ 💘 catch up with, our founder + host, Shantel instagram// https://www.instagram.com/shantelrousseau/ [https://www.instagram.com/shantelrousseau/] tiktok// https://www.tiktok.com/@shantelrousseau [https://www.tiktok.com/@shantelrousseau] Snapchat// https://snapchat.com/t/fb8LTRCm [https://snapchat.com/t/fb8LTRCm] youtube// https://www.youtube.com/@shantelrousseauonline [https://www.youtube.com/@shantelrousseauonline] OUTFITS - ShopMy// https://shopmy.us/shantelrousseau [https://shopmy.us/shantelrousseau] OUTFITS - LTK// https://www.shopltk.com/explore/shantelrousseau [https://www.shopltk.com/explore/shantelrousseau] 💘