episode 064 - relationships aren't graded solely by outcome

episode 064 - relationships aren't graded solely by outcome

There's a question that comes up every time someone mentions an ex at dinner: "Where is he now?" And what that question is really doing is asking you to justify whether the relationship was worth having based on how it ended. If there's no ring, no forever, no clean resolution then the whole thing gets filed under wasted time. This episode is a direct challenge to that framing. Shantel breaks down why measuring a relationship by its outcome is not just unhelpful, it actively strips you of your own power. A relationship that ended is not evidence of failure. Presence, growth, vulnerability, and the version of yourself you became inside that chapter (!!!) none of that disappears because someone left. This one covers the narrative most women inherit without questioning, what it actually means to take sovereignty over your own relationship history, the difference between accountability and self-blame, and why grieving a relationship is not the same as admitting you wasted time. If you've ever described a past relationship as a waste, or felt embarrassed about how long you stayed, or quietly wondered whether your past counts, this episode is for you. -- want to book a girl chat session? all the info is here - https://squ.re/45jq3ue [https://squ.re/45jq3ue] want to partner w/The Sage Sorority Podcast? let’s chat - thesagesorority@gmail.com [thesagesorority@gmail.com] have a question? send in an (anonymous) one for Q&A - https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority [https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority] 💘 SUBSTACK// https://open.substack.com/pub/thesagesorority [https://open.substack.com/pub/thesagesorority] INSTAGRAM// https://www.instagram.com/thesagesorority/ [https://www.instagram.com/thesagesorority/] TIKTOK// https://www.tiktok.com/@thesagesorority [https://www.tiktok.com/@thesagesorority] YOUTUBE// https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSorority [https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSorority] subscribe to The Sage Sorority Podcast + leave a (cheeky) 5* rating 💘 apple: https://bit.ly/41ZNwO2 [https://bit.ly/41ZNwO2] spotify: https://spoti.fi/4iVPAhn [https://open.spotify.com/show/1v0inMDUdtUT1A3jrCxgXi?si=7W_Frt3FQG6OKfxAxriRkA] youtube: http://bit.ly/45ei8wO [https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSorority] THE SAGE SORORITY PODCAST - https://feeds.captivate.fm/thesagesorority/ 💘 catch up with, our founder + host, Shantel instagram// https://www.instagram.com/shantelrousseau/ [https://www.instagram.com/shantelrousseau/] tiktok// https://www.tiktok.com/@shantelrousseau [https://www.tiktok.com/@shantelrousseau] Snapchat// https://snapchat.com/t/fb8LTRCm [https://snapchat.com/t/fb8LTRCm] youtube// https://www.youtube.com/@shantelrousseauonline [https://www.youtube.com/@shantelrousseauonline] OUTFITS - ShopMy// https://shopmy.us/shantelrousseau [https://shopmy.us/shantelrousseau] OUTFITS - LTK// https://www.shopltk.com/explore/shantelrousseau [https://www.shopltk.com/explore/shantelrousseau] 💘

episode 063 - misbehave with integrity

In this episode of The Sage Sorority, Shantel explores what it means for women to “misbehave with integrity,” inspired by Clarissa Pinkola Estés’ The Late Bloomer. This episode is about good girl conditioning, people-pleasing, self-trust, over-functioning, emotional labour, and the quiet resentment that builds when women keep choosing propriety over honesty. Shantel unpacks the difference between being proper and being ethical, why women often delay decisions they’ve already made, and why acting without cruelty, manipulation, or deliberate harm may be the permission you’ve been waiting for. Topics include: Good girl conditioning, People-pleasing and resentment Self-trust and decision-making, Emotional labour in relationships Over-functioning in friendships, family, work, and dating Why “I should” keeps women stuck, Becoming less likeable but more honest Referenced in this episode: The Late Bloomer by Clarissa Pinkola Estés Women Who Run With the Wolves [Women Who Run With the Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Estés] by Clarissa Pinkola Estés [Women Who Run With the Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Estés] Episode 012: Big Energy, No Apology Episode 027: The Rules Are Made Up Episode 038: The Rebrand Era If this episode resonated, share it with a friend and subscribe to The Sage Sorority on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. -- want to book a girl chat session? all the info is here - https://squ.re/45jq3ue [https://squ.re/45jq3ue] want to partner w/The Sage Sorority Podcast? let’s chat - thesagesorority@gmail.com [thesagesorority@gmail.com] have a question? send in an (anonymous) one for Q&A - https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority [https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority] 💘 SUBSTACK// https://open.substack.com/pub/thesagesorority [https://open.substack.com/pub/thesagesorority] INSTAGRAM// https://www.instagram.com/thesagesorority/ [https://www.instagram.com/thesagesorority/] TIKTOK// https://www.tiktok.com/@thesagesorority [https://www.tiktok.com/@thesagesorority] YOUTUBE// https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSorority [https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSorority] subscribe to The Sage Sorority Podcast + leave a (cheeky) 5* rating 💘 apple: https://bit.ly/41ZNwO2 [https://bit.ly/41ZNwO2] spotify: https://spoti.fi/4iVPAhn [https://open.spotify.com/show/1v0inMDUdtUT1A3jrCxgXi?si=7W_Frt3FQG6OKfxAxriRkA] youtube: http://bit.ly/45ei8wO [https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSorority]

episode 062 - how to choose your core values and actually live by them

In this episode of The Sage Sorority, Shantel breaks down how to choose your core values and actually live by them, drawing on the values clarification work used in therapy and coaching. You'll learn the difference between values, goals, preferences, and aesthetics, why your real values are revealed by your trade-offs, and how to use a six-to-eight value framework as a practical filter for decisions in friendship, dating, work, money, and creativity. If you've ever felt the gap between who you say you are and what your choices keep revealing, this is the episode that helps you name what matters and build from there. LIST OF VALUES 1 - https://brenebrown.com/resources/dare-to-lead-list-of-values/ LIST OF VALUES 2 (also some great exercises in this one!) - https://taproot.com/live-your-core-values-exercise-to-increase-your-success/ want to book a girl chat session? all the info is here - https://squ.re/45jq3ue [https://squ.re/45jq3ue] want to partner w/The Sage Sorority Podcast? let’s chat - thesagesorority@gmail.com [thesagesorority@gmail.com] have a question? send in an (anonymous) one for Q&A - https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority [https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority] 💘 SUBSTACK// https://open.substack.com/pub/thesagesorority [https://open.substack.com/pub/thesagesorority] INSTAGRAM// https://www.instagram.com/thesagesorority/ [https://www.instagram.com/thesagesorority/] TIKTOK// https://www.tiktok.com/@thesagesorority [https://www.tiktok.com/@thesagesorority] YOUTUBE// https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSorority [https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSorority] subscribe to The Sage Sorority Podcast + leave a (cheeky) 5* rating 💘 apple: https://bit.ly/41ZNwO2 [https://bit.ly/41ZNwO2] spotify: https://spoti.fi/4iVPAhn [https://open.spotify.com/show/1v0inMDUdtUT1A3jrCxgXi?si=7W_Frt3FQG6OKfxAxriRkA] youtube: http://bit.ly/45ei8wO [https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSorority] 💘 catch up with, our founder + host, Shantel instagram// https://www.instagram.com/shantelrousseau/ [https://www.instagram.com/shantelrousseau/] tiktok// https://www.tiktok.com/@shantelrousseau [https://www.tiktok.com/@shantelrousseau] Snapchat// https://snapchat.com/t/fb8LTRCm [https://snapchat.com/t/fb8LTRCm] youtube// https://www.youtube.com/@shantelrousseauonline [https://www.youtube.com/@shantelrousseauonline] OUTFITS - ShopMy// https://shopmy.us/shantelrousseau [https://shopmy.us/shantelrousseau] OUTFITS - LTK// https://www.shopltk.com/explore/shantelrousseau [https://www.shopltk.com/explore/shantelrousseau] 💘

episode 061 - belle burden, emma grede and the one thing nobody is talking about

Three episodes. Three completely different topics. And the whole time I kept thinking: why does this all feel like the same conversation? Belle Burden knew before she signed that prenup. Most of us know long before we end a friendship. And Emma Grede? She's getting dragged online for simply trusting herself out loud. Today I'm naming the one thing that connects all three, and why it matters more than any of us want to admit. We're talking about what happens in the gap between knowing something and actually trusting it. Why that gap is costing women more than they realise. And why a woman who has closed that gap completely, like Emma, makes so many people deeply uncomfortable. If you've been listening all month, this is where it all lands. If you're new here, welcome. You found a good one. -- want to book a coaching session? all the info is here - https://squ.re/45jq3ue [https://squ.re/45jq3ue] want to partner w/The Sage Sorority Podcast? let’s chat - thesagesorority@gmail.com [thesagesorority@gmail.com] have a question? send in an (anonymous) one for Q&A - https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority [https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority] 💘 SUBSTACK// https://open.substack.com/pub/thesagesorority [https://open.substack.com/pub/thesagesorority] INSTAGRAM// https://www.instagram.com/thesagesorority/ [https://www.instagram.com/thesagesorority/] TIKTOK// https://www.tiktok.com/@thesagesorority [https://www.tiktok.com/@thesagesorority] YOUTUBE// https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSorority [https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSorority] subscribe to The Sage Sorority Podcast + leave a (cheeky) 5* rating 💘 apple: https://bit.ly/41ZNwO2 [https://bit.ly/41ZNwO2] spotify: https://spoti.fi/4iVPAhn [https://open.spotify.com/show/1v0inMDUdtUT1A3jrCxgXi?si=7W_Frt3FQG6OKfxAxriRkA] youtube: http://bit.ly/45ei8wO [https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSorority] 💘 catch up with, our founder + host, Shantel instagram// https://www.instagram.com/shantelrousseau/ [https://www.instagram.com/shantelrousseau/] tiktok// https://www.tiktok.com/@shantelrousseau [https://www.tiktok.com/@shantelrousseau] Snapchat// https://snapchat.com/t/fb8LTRCm [https://snapchat.com/t/fb8LTRCm] youtube// https://www.youtube.com/@shantelrousseauonline [https://www.youtube.com/@shantelrousseauonline] OUTFITS - ShopMy// https://shopmy.us/shantelrousseau [https://shopmy.us/shantelrousseau] OUTFITS - LTK// https://www.shopltk.com/explore/shantelrousseau [https://www.shopltk.com/explore/shantelrousseau] 💘

episode 060 - emma grede, start with yourself and the disclaimer economy

The internet has had a lot to say about Emma Greed's new book Start With Yourself this week, and most of it is from people who haven't read it. In this episode, Shantel breaks down what the discourse is actually about, why it keeps happening, and what we're all missing when we rush to poke holes instead of engage. Shantel introduces the concept of the disclaimer economy — what happens when women are expected to pre-account for every possible objection before anyone will engage with their actual idea — and maps it across three areas where it shows up most loudly: motherhood, careers, and major life decisions. This episode covers the three-hour mom discourse, the work from home debate, what the contrast between Emma Greed and Belle Burden's Strangers actually tells us about how women approach partnership, and why clarity is not a hostile act. If you've been online this week, you've seen the takes. This is the longer, more honest conversation. -- want to book a coaching session? all the info is here - https://squ.re/45jq3ue [https://squ.re/45jq3ue] want to partner w/The Sage Sorority Podcast? let’s chat - thesagesorority@gmail.com [thesagesorority@gmail.com] have a question? send in an (anonymous) one for Q&A - https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority [https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority] 💘 SUBSTACK// https://open.substack.com/pub/thesagesorority [https://open.substack.com/pub/thesagesorority] INSTAGRAM// https://www.instagram.com/thesagesorority/ [https://www.instagram.com/thesagesorority/] TIKTOK// https://www.tiktok.com/@thesagesorority [https://www.tiktok.com/@thesagesorority] YOUTUBE// https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSorority [https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSorority] subscribe to The Sage Sorority Podcast + leave a (cheeky) 5* rating 💘 apple: https://bit.ly/41ZNwO2 [https://bit.ly/41ZNwO2] spotify: https://spoti.fi/4iVPAhn [https://open.spotify.com/show/1v0inMDUdtUT1A3jrCxgXi?si=7W_Frt3FQG6OKfxAxriRkA] youtube: http://bit.ly/45ei8wO [https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSorority] THE SAGE SORORITY PODCAST - https://feeds.captivate.fm/thesagesorority/ 💘 catch up with, our founder + host, Shantel instagram// https://www.instagram.com/shantelrousseau/ [https://www.instagram.com/shantelrousseau/] tiktok// https://www.tiktok.com/@shantelrousseau [https://www.tiktok.com/@shantelrousseau] Snapchat// https://snapchat.com/t/fb8LTRCm [https://snapchat.com/t/fb8LTRCm] youtube// https://www.youtube.com/@shantelrousseauonline [https://www.youtube.com/@shantelrousseauonline] OUTFITS - ShopMy// https://shopmy.us/shantelrousseau [https://shopmy.us/shantelrousseau] OUTFITS - LTK// https://www.shopltk.com/explore/shantelrousseau [https://www.shopltk.com/explore/shantelrousseau] 💘 ———