If it is to be, it's up to me with Jay Setchell

How To Handle Negative People Without Losing Yourself

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2523982/fan_mail/new] In this episode of The Self-Help Podcast with Deepali, we’re talking about something many of us experience but struggle to name: the emotional weight of being around consistently negative people. Have you ever walked into a room feeling completely fine, only to leave a conversation feeling drained, anxious, or suddenly unsure of yourself? Whether the negativity comes from family, friends, coworkers, social media, or the critical voices you have absorbed over time, protecting your peace does not mean becoming cold or unkind. Deepali, the heart behind the show-  explores how to recognize the difference between someone having a difficult day and someone repeatedly pulling you into criticism, fear, guilt, or hopelessness. She also shares practical ways to protect your energy, including the energy check-in, the emotional raincoat technique, and simple boundary-setting phrases you can use in everyday situations. This episode is a reminder that you can care without carrying, listen without absorbing, and love people without losing yourself. In this episode, you’ll learn: * Why negative energy can affect you so deeply * How to set boundaries without feeling guilty * How to stop taking the bait in draining conversations * Ways to handle negativity at home, at work, and online * How to stay hopeful without pretending everything is fine Your energy is sacred. Your peace is worth protecting. Meet Deepali-  https://www.deepalinagrani.com/ Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2523982/support] 💛 Thank you for being here. If something in this episode spoke to you, I hope you carry it with you — or share it with someone who might need it too. I'd love to hear your story, your thoughts, or just how you're feeling after listening. Reach out anytime at deepalinagrani23@gmail.com 🌐 For more stories, resources, downloadable freebies please visit:   www.deepalinagrani.com [http://www.deepalinagrani.com] 🕊️ This is just the beginning.  Take care of your body. Be gentle with your heart. And never forget — your story matters.

The Art of Having Difficult Conversations with David Deighton

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2523982/fan_mail/new] What if a single conversation could turn a cliff’s edge into a bridge? That question sits at the center of our conversation with artist and educator David Deighton, who has spent years engaging strangers in public spaces to transform political heat into human connection. Instead of chasing debate wins or feeding algorithmic outrage, David uses playful art installations and three non-confrontational questions to invite a different posture: attention over argument, safety over spectacle, and shared emotion over hardened positions. In this episode, we explore David’s shift from confrontational online activism to gentle, in-person dialogue—and why it works. He shares how listening for a single common feeling—frustration, hope, disillusionment—and reflecting it back can soften defenses without asking anyone to concede their beliefs. You’ll learn his three questions, why he lets opinions rest without rebuttal, and how to read the body’s cues that signal openness or resistance. The result isn’t capitulation—it’s clarity. When someone feels seen, they often reveal more nuance. When you name a shared feeling, guards lower. And when a conversation ends with one word that captures it all—so often hope—both people walk away changed. If you feel anxious about talking with a parent, partner, friend, or colleague, this episode offers a practical roadmap: * Start with strangers to build the muscle * Choose the right time and place * Let the first round be theirs * Let triggers pass like warm rain * When invited, speak from the shared emotion—not the argument We also unpack why playful public art opens doors that formal panels often slam shut, and how small, daily acts of listening can be as civic as a vote—and sometimes more transformative. Come for the method. Stay for the mindset: presence, curiosity, and the courage to meet the person before the position. If this resonates, subscribe, share this episode with someone you’d like to talk to, and leave a review telling us the first question you’ll ask. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2523982/support] 💛 Thank you for being here. If something in this episode spoke to you, I hope you carry it with you — or share it with someone who might need it too. I'd love to hear your story, your thoughts, or just how you're feeling after listening. Reach out anytime at deepalinagrani23@gmail.com 🌐 For more stories, resources, downloadable freebies please visit:   www.deepalinagrani.com [http://www.deepalinagrani.com] 🕊️ This is just the beginning.  Take care of your body. Be gentle with your heart. And never forget — your story matters.

If it is to be, it's up to me with Jay Setchell

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2523982/fan_mail/new] A boy raised on a working farm learns to rise before dawn, help his neighbors, and earn every inch of progress. Decades later, that same boy—now a Marine veteran named Jay—faces three near-deaths, a wrecked body, and a quiet fourth battle most never see: choosing to live when moving even a finger feels impossible. Jay shows how faith and grit can stand in the same room. He unpacks the framework that rebuilt his days: inch by inch it’s a cinch, yard by yard is very hard. Over time, extra effort compounded into movement, and movement into momentum. We connect his hard-won lessons to everyday crises—burnout, divorce, diagnosis, dream fatigue—so you can turn “never quit” from a poster into a plan.  Expect clear practices: choose the smallest next action, do a little more than required, and let consistency outrun motivation. We also share his ten two-letter words—“If it is to be, it is up to me”—and why ownership does not mean going it alone. Community still saves lives; ownership decides to engage it.  Jay’s new book, The Strength Within You: It’s Always Too Soon to Quit, distills these tools for anyone who needs a way back from the edge. If this story sparks something in you, tap follow, share it with someone who needs hope, and leave a review with the inch-by-inch step you’ll take today. Your words might be the extra rep someone else needs. Meet Jay-https://neverquittrying.com/ Jay's Book-The Strength Within You: It’s Always Too Soon to Quit! https://amzn.asia/d/0nMGRrE Meet Deepali-  https://www.deepalinagrani.com/ Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2523982/support] 💛 Thank you for being here. If something in this episode spoke to you, I hope you carry it with you — or share it with someone who might need it too. I'd love to hear your story, your thoughts, or just how you're feeling after listening. Reach out anytime at deepalinagrani23@gmail.com 🌐 For more stories, resources, downloadable freebies please visit:   www.deepalinagrani.com [http://www.deepalinagrani.com] 🕊️ This is just the beginning.  Take care of your body. Be gentle with your heart. And never forget — your story matters.

Stop Fitting In: Start Flying Out with Arnold Beekes

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2523982/fan_mail/new] We trace the arc from conditional belonging and conformity to brain fitness and unconditioning, challenging labels that keep people small. We share tools to shift from comparison and fear to inside-out thinking, so you can reclaim your uniqueness and make real change. • childhood conformity and conditional belonging  • conformity across school, work and culture  • innovation paradox and the cost of compliance  • burnout reframed as self-betrayal  • hidden conditioning and unhealthy escapes  • brain fitness defined and why it matters  • social media fear loops and control  • problems with mental illness labels and overmedication  • three starting points for change  • identity beyond comparison and using uniqueness  • inner change linked to outer impact  • practical steps and programs to uncondition For our listening audience, if today stirred something uncomfortable, or if this episode was a reminder of something that you've been trying to avoid, that restlessness, that quiet knowing, maybe that's not fear, maybe it is your free one working on. Remember that you'll never, never meant to fit into a world that profits from your side. Until next time, keep questioning, keep choosing, and stop fitting in and please start flying out. Meet Arnold Beekes- https://braingym.fitness/ Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2523982/support] 💛 Thank you for being here. If something in this episode spoke to you, I hope you carry it with you — or share it with someone who might need it too. I'd love to hear your story, your thoughts, or just how you're feeling after listening. Reach out anytime at deepalinagrani23@gmail.com 🌐 For more stories, resources, downloadable freebies please visit:   www.deepalinagrani.com [http://www.deepalinagrani.com] 🕊️ This is just the beginning.  Take care of your body. Be gentle with your heart. And never forget — your story matters.

Unblock Your Becoming with Tara Wiskow

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2523982/fan_mail/new] Ever feel like you’ve tried all the “right” things—new habits, new goals, even a new look—yet keep ending up in the same loop? In this episode, intuitive leader and reinvention expert Tara Wisco shares how a life-or-death wake-up call revealed the real work: clearing your energy, shifting identity, and stopping self-abandonment to keep others comfortable. We explore why external change doesn’t last when your inner identity stays the same, the masks women wear across work, family, and fitness, and how they fracture authenticity. Tara introduces practical energy hygiene—grounding, clearing, and protection—plus everyday resets to release energetic clutter and break self-sabotage. We also get real about people-pleasing and boundaries, with compassionate tools for saying no, trusting your body’s yes/no cues, and choosing yourself without guilt. We spotlight Tara’s BITCHIN movement (Be The Change You Need)—a rallying call for women ready to drop the masks and lead their lives fully. If you’re craving a fresh start that actually sticks, this conversation will meet you where you are and give you grounded tools to move forward. Say a hi to Tara- https://tara-wiskow.com/ https://calendly.com/tarawiskow/rising-into-mypower Meet your host-Deepali https://www.deepalinagrani.com/ Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2523982/support] 💛 Thank you for being here. If something in this episode spoke to you, I hope you carry it with you — or share it with someone who might need it too. I'd love to hear your story, your thoughts, or just how you're feeling after listening. Reach out anytime at deepalinagrani23@gmail.com 🌐 For more stories, resources, downloadable freebies please visit:   www.deepalinagrani.com [http://www.deepalinagrani.com] 🕊️ This is just the beginning.  Take care of your body. Be gentle with your heart. And never forget — your story matters.