Chapter 7- Self Abandonment in Love

Chapter 7- Self Abandonment in Love

In this episode, I speak directly to the women who are strong and put-together on the outside but secretly crave safety, protection, and emotional security in love. We explore the pattern of self-abandonment in relationships—what it is, how it forms in childhood, how it subtly shows up in romantic dynamics, and most importantly, how to heal it.Key Takeaways: * Self-abandonment is ignoring your needs and boundaries to keep someone else happy. * Childhood experiences with emotional unavailability or unstable caregivers often create these patterns. * Common signs include overgiving, overthinking, letting go of hobbies, and letting chemistry override your values. * Healing starts by prioritizing yourself, practicing small honesty moments, validating your own feelings, and choosing partners who can meet you halfway. Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/nick-petrov/sunshine-dreamer [https://uppbeat.io/t/nick-petrov/sunshine-dreamer]

Chapter 6- Supporting the People You Love: Why It's Hard & What Helps

Welcome back to The Soul Manual with Cindy Guerrero — Shaman, Licensed Clinical Therapist, and Yoga Teacher. In this chapter, Cindy explores the complexities of supporting the people you love when they’re struggling. She unpacks why it feels so draining, what common mistakes we fall into, and how to create healthier ways of holding space without losing yourself in the process. Main Points in this Episode: * Why supporting close loved ones is harder than supporting acquaintances. * The “fix-it mode” trap — how trying to solve someone’s problems can create disconnection and drain. * The impact of projecting your own emotions onto loved ones. * The problem with unsolicited advice and why it rarely lands. * How worry and constant mental preoccupation make their problem feel like your problem. * Patterns that lead to burnout: over-functioning, doing more than the other person, or carrying their burden. * A new approach: becoming a passive observer rather than an emotional sponge. * How to set clear energetic and emotional boundaries while still caring deeply. * The importance of only offering advice if asked (waiting for the “open door”). * Why honoring another person’s path — even if you disagree — is an act of respect. * Making space for your own emotions so they don’t bleed into the relationship. * The role of boundaries in deciding how much energy you’re willing to give if your loved one doesn’t make changes. This chapter is about shifting from rescuing and fixing toward holding space with compassion, clarity, and boundaries — so you can support others without drowning alongside them.

Chapter 5- Difficult Emotions: Why we hold on & How to let them go

In this episode, Cindy Guerrero—Shaman, Licensed Therapist, and Yoga Teacher—explores the nature of emotions: what they are, why they get stuck, and how to release them. Learn the difference between emotions and feelings, the cost of suppressing emotions, and a simple practice to let them move through for healing.Main Points * Difference between emotions (raw energy) and feelings (mental story). * Why we suppress emotions: childhood conditioning and comfort zones. * Signs you may have suppressed emotions * How labeling emotions “good” or “bad” keeps them trapped. * A step-by-step practice to sit with emotions and let them flow.

Chapter 4- Why People Ignore Your Boundaries (And How to Change That)

Setting boundaries isn't about controlling others — it's about honoring yourself. In this episode, Cindy Guerrero- Shaman, Licensed Clinical Therapist, and Yoga teacher, breaks down the real reason boundaries often backfire and how to shift into a healthier, more empowered way of setting them. Learn how to release control, take radical responsibility, and create boundaries that actually work — without guilt, resentment, or power struggles. In this episode: * The difference between setting a boundary with love vs from fear * How control and unspoken expectations sabotage your boundaries * Why “enforcing” boundaries often creates resistance * A new framework: Set the boundary, release the outcome, and choose how you respond * How healthy boundaries create freedom, not division

Chapter 3- Inner Child Healing: Little You Still Needs You

In this episode of The Soul Manual, we dive deep into the transformative practice of inner child healing. If you’ve ever wondered why certain patterns keep showing up in your adult life—or felt like you’re still carrying pain from the past—this episode is for you. You’ll learn what inner child healing really means, why it matters, and how to start building a relationship with your “little you” using practical, heart-opening techniques. In this episode, we cover: * What “inner child healing” actually is * Common childhood wounds we often minimize * How unprocessed trauma shows up in adult relationships * 4 powerful techniques to connect with your inner child: * Visualization & guided meditation * Writing letters to your younger self * Creating soothing rituals based on unmet childhood needs * Using childhood photos to build connection * Why it’s essential to build trust with your inner child before diving into deep healing Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/nick-petrov/sunshine-dreamer License code: DVT2XWF4BOUSLDNR