207: The One Thing I Kept Doing That Was Keeping Me Stuck and I Didn't Even Know It

207: The One Thing I Kept Doing That Was Keeping Me Stuck and I Didn't Even Know It

Have you ever done all the personal development work and still felt stuck? Read the books, tried the practices, and wondered why nothing was actually shifting? In this episode I'm sharing the one pattern I kept repeating for years that was quietly undermining everything. I didn't recognize it as the problem because it looked like virtue. It looked like being a good person. It was self abandonment. And it was running underneath everything. In this episode you will learn: * What self abandonment actually looks like in everyday life * The small daily moments where you choose everyone else over yourself without realizing it * Why keeping the peace is one of the most costly things you can do to yourself * How staying silent shows up later as frustration, resentment, and heaviness * Why personal development work doesn't land when this pattern is still running * What finally changed for me Free Resource:Grab the free Honest Check-In Guide — your first honest step back to yourself. HONEST CHECK-IN GUIDE [https://thespiritualshiftworker.com/honest-checkin-275833] Want to join me in Italy in 2027? Join the waitlist here: RENAISSANCE EXPERIENCE [Italy Retreat waitlist] Make sure to follow Lianne on IG @liannemcaughey [https://www.instagram.com/liannemcaughey/]

206: Your Life Looks Perfect on Paper — So Why Do You Want to Escape It?

My husband once told me I was always unhappy. He wasn't wrong. But he wasn't right either. Because I wasn't unhappy. I was unfulfilled. And underneath that was something I hadn't named yet — I had been abandoning myself for years without even realizing it. In this episode I'm talking about the feeling so many women carry but rarely say out loud. The perfect on paper life that somehow doesn't feel like yours. The fantasy of running away. And what that feeling is actually trying to tell you. If something has felt off and you haven't been able to name it — this episode is for you. In this episode: * The difference between unhappy and unfulfilled * What the escape fantasy is actually telling you * Why changing your circumstances won't solve the problem * What self abandonment actually looks like in everyday life * Why coming home to yourself starts with one honest question Free Resource: Grab the free Honest Check-In Guide — the first honest step back to yourself. *INSTANT DOWNLOAD ON THE THANKYOU PAGE*HONEST CHECK-IN GUIDE [https://thespiritualshiftworker.com/honest-checkin-360384]

205: What Grief Doesn't Tell You: Loss, Motherhood & Moving Forward with Elaine Alexander

⚠️ Content note: This episode discusses grief, including suicide loss. Listener discretion is advised. If you or someone you know is struggling, the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (call or text 988) is available 24/7 in Canada and the US. In this episode, Lianne sits down with registered psychotherapist Elaine Turcotte Alexander (Gracious Living) to talk about the messy, non-linear, deeply human experience of grief. From suicide loss to pet loss to grieving versions of yourself you never got to become, this conversation reframes what grief actually looks like — and gives you language for feelings you may not have known how to name. About Elaine: Elaine Alexander is a Registered Psychotherapist (Qualifying) in Ontario, working under supervision with adults navigating grief — including suicide loss — as well as relationship and dating challenges. She also works at the intersection of AI and mental health. Before stepping into this work, Elaine spent two decades in entrepreneurship, where she navigated burnout, financial pressure, personal loss, and becoming a wife and mother in her forties. In this episode: * Why the "5 stages of grief" framework can create shame instead of healing * The difference between "moving on" and "moving forward" * How suicide loss carries unique guilt, anger, and unanswerable questions * Why sadness feels harder to sit with than anger (and what that says about our brains) * Grieving things beyond death: divorce, motherhood expectations, past selves, missed decades * Small, concrete ways to support a grieving friend long after the funeral * Elaine's personal story of loss, burnout, and finding her purpose in grief work Connect with Elaine:Website: Courageousliving.me [https://grieftherapyontario.com/]Instagram: @ElaineTAlexander [https://www.instagram.com/elainetalexander/]Seeing clients in-person in Gloucester, ON, and online across Ontario Follow Lianne on IG @liannemcaughey [https://www.instagram.com/liannemcaughey/]

204: The Second Half of the Year Isn't Asking You to Hurry. It's asking you to slow down.

THE RETURN. A 21 day live program for the woman who is done living on autopilot, who has a great life and who is also longing for more. Add you name to the waitlist. We start in August 2026. Exact date TBA. THE RETURN [https://www.thespiritualshiftworker.com/renaissance-waitlist-772139] Can you believe the year is already half over? If hearing those words immediately sends you into panic mode—thinking about everything you haven't accomplished yet—this episode is for you. So many of us reach the middle of the year feeling like we're behind. Behind on our goals. Behind in life. Behind on becoming the person we thought we'd be by now. But what if the second half of the year isn't asking you to do more? What if it's asking you to notice more? In this episode of The Spiritual Shiftworker Podcast, we're exploring why so many women in midlife feel like life is passing them by—and why the answer isn't another productivity hack or a bigger goal. Instead, it's learning to reconnect with yourself through presence, awareness, and the ordinary moments that make up a meaningful life. If you've been feeling disconnected, restless, or quietly wondering, "Is this all there is?" this conversation will invite you to slow down and return to what matters most. * Why the middle of the year often creates unnecessary pressure * The hidden cost of always focusing on "what's next" * How autopilot steals the moments that make life meaningful * Why presence is more powerful than productivity * A simple question that can change how you experience the rest of this year What have I been rushing past that deserves my attention? Sit with that today. You don't need to catch up. You simply need to come back.

203: Unbound: Healing Immigrant Guilt, Generational Trauma & the Power of the Pause with Serena Arora

Serena Arora shares her journey from Calgary to building a wellness retreat center in Costa Rica, where she works as an Ayurvedic health practitioner and yoga therapist of over 25 years. She opens up about the concept she calls "Imma Guilt" — the generational guilt and inherited weight of obligation and self-sacrifice passed down through immigrant families — and how it kept her stuck in a life of obligation over alignment. Serena talks candidly about reinventing herself again and again while still repeating the same burnout cycle, the inner child healing that came through her stepdaughter, and the deeper differences between masculine and feminine energy. The conversation also moves into Serena's current season of caregiving for aging parents, where she reframes discomfort as "dis-ease" — an early signal worth listening to through nervous system regulation and embodiment before it becomes something more. She shares the pause practice as a tool for self-abandonment recovery and reclaiming inner wisdom, the one question to ask before a big decision rooted in guilt versus alignment, and details on her upcoming women's wellness retreat, Living Unbound, plus where to find her book, Unbound. Follow Serena on IG @serena_arora [https://www.instagram.com/serena_arora/] Get the book here UNBOUND [https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0FQ381KK1?ref_=pe_93986420_775043100] Make sure to follow Lianne on IG @liannemcaughey [https://www.instagram.com/liannemcaughey/] And a 5 STAR review helps to get the podcast out to those that need the most.