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The comparison trap: why you haven't started yet

11 min · 14 de abr de 2026
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EPISODE #1 Comparison isn't just making you feel behind, it's convincing you not to start. Here's why, and how to stop using their success against yourself. In this episode, I tell the story of a woman who watched her neighbor's garden from the window for years. The rose hedge. The fig tree. The perennials that just came back every year. And the quiet conclusion she drew from all of it: that it was too late for her. We unpack why comparison is most dangerous not when it makes you feel bad, but when it makes you feel logical about giving up. And what it looks like to open the seed packet anyway. 🔗 EPISODE COMPANION LINKS Zazzle: https://www.zazzle.com/store/freshandyummy [https://www.zazzle.com/store/freshandyummy] 💭 YOUR TURN Let me know your thoughts in the reviews. 🔔 SUBSCRIBE OR FOLLOW It's free and it just means you won't miss the next one.

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