The Parent Who Wasn't There: Absent Parents, and the Wounds We're Still Carrying

ADHD, Trauma, or Both?

You're in a meeting, nodding along, and forty seconds ago you were somewhere else entirely. Not quite daydreaming — just gone. If that's familiar, you've probably already asked the question: is this ADHD? It might be. It might also be an old nervous system pattern showing up in a new context. Or — more often than people expect — both, tangled together in ways a symptom checklist was never built to sort out. In this episode, I go deeper than the usual ADHD content you'll find online. We cover: — What adult ADHD actually looks like clinically, and why hyperactivity in adults rarely looks the way it did in childhood — The real, ongoing debate among researchers about overdiagnosis versus long-overdue recognition — and where the evidence actually points — Why ADHD and complex trauma share so many symptoms, and what the research says about telling them apart — What the evidence supports for treatment — medication, therapy, and where each one actually helps versus where its limits are — Who tends to get missed by traditional screening, and why a late diagnosis often isn't overreach — it's correction This one runs a bit longer and a bit deeper than usual, because the topic deserves it. If something in this episode named a pattern you've been carrying without a word for it, that's worth a real conversation. Learn more at traumatherapists.ca. Hosted by Jim Squire, RP, CCTP — Surviving to Thriving.

The Parent Who Wasn't There: Absent Parents, and the Wounds We're Still Carrying

Some of the deepest wounds don't come from what happened to us — they come from what never did. In this episode, I'm talking about absent parents. Not just the parent who left — but the parent who was in the home and emotionally unreachable. The parent whose love felt conditional on your performance. The parent whose moods made the house feel unsafe. Absence takes many forms, and the wounds it leaves tend to travel quietly into adult life. I'll walk you through what those wounds actually look like — in your relationships, your nervous system, your sense of what you deserve — and why so many high-functioning adults never connect what they're carrying today to what they didn't get back then. I also share a bit of my own story as a single parent who raised two kids while going through school to become a psychotherapist — and why this topic is one I take personally as much as clinically. If you've spent years feeling like something is just a little bit off — in your relationships, in how you trust people, in that quiet sense of not quite being enough — this episode might help you name it. In this episode: * The four forms parental absence takes and why emotional absence is often the hardest to recognize * What these early wounds look like in adult relationships and behaviour * Why the patterns you developed aren't character flaws — they're adaptations * What healing actually looks like, and why reparative relationships matter * Why you are not sentenced to repeat what was done to you Jim Squire is a Registered Psychotherapist (RP) and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional (CCTP), regulated by the College of Registered Psychotherapists of Ontario (CRPO). He works with adults across Ontario via virtual practice. To explore working together: traumatherapists.ca

Imposter Syndrome: Knowing You're Capable and Still Feeling Like a Fraud

You've built something real. And part of you still doesn't trust it. In this episode of Surviving to Thriving, we go deeper than the usual conversation about imposter syndrome  past the surface-level "just believe in yourself" advice and into what's actually driving the feeling. In this episode: * Where the research on imposter syndrome started and what it's revealed since * The three root causes most people never hear about, including early family dynamics and trauma * Why high-achievers are especially vulnerable and why more success often makes it worse * The cognitive loop that keeps it running even when the evidence says otherwise * What it actually takes to interrupt the pattern in real moments This isn't about eliminating self-doubt. It's about understanding it well enough to stop letting it make decisions for you.

The Stories That Shaped Us: The Beliefs Running Your Life That You've Never Questioned

Most of us carry beliefs about ourselves that we've never really stopped to question. That we're too much. That we're not enough. That we have to earn love, or that we don't really deserve to take up space. These beliefs feel like facts — like just the way we are. But they're not facts. They're stories. And they were formed a long time ago, by a much younger version of you, trying to make sense of experiences you didn't yet have the tools to understand. In this episode, Jim Squire, Registered Psychotherapist, talks about where those stories come from, how they quietly shape the way we show up in our relationships and our lives as adults, and what it actually looks like to start understanding yourself differently. This isn't about blame. It isn't about reliving the past. It's about recognizing that the story you've been living by was never the whole truth — and that it doesn't have to stay the way it is. If you've ever felt like you keep getting in your own way without really knowing why, this episode is for you.

Wired Young: What Your Nervous System Never Forgot

Have you ever reacted to something... snapped, shut down, pulled away and genuinely didn't know why? You're not broken. You're not overreacting. Your nervous system learned how to protect you a long time ago, and it's still doing exactly that even when the danger is long gone. In this episode of Surviving to Thriving, I want to talk about something I think is one of the most important pieces of understanding ourselves as adults. How our nervous system gets shaped in the earliest years of our lives, before we have any memory of it happening, and how those early lessons quietly drive so much of how we feel, how we respond, and how we show up in our relationships today. This isn't about blame. It isn't about revisiting painful memories. It's about finally making sense of patterns you may have been carrying for years and understanding that those patterns made sense once, even if they're getting in the way now. If you've ever wondered why you are the way you are, this episode is for you.