Can One Partner Save a Marriage? Lee Baucom Says Yes — Here's How

Can One Partner Save a Marriage? Lee Baucom Says Yes — Here's How

What if you could save your marriage — even if your partner has already given up? In this episode of the Teaching Journeys Podcast, host Dave Roberts sits down with Dr. Lee Baucom, PhD, creator of the globally used Save the Marriage system and host of the Save the Marriage podcast (600+ episodes strong). Lee breaks down why most marriages fail — not from conflict, but from disconnection — and introduces his concept of the "pause button": the moment couples stop investing in their relationship and slowly drift apart. He reveals the three levels of connection (physical, emotional, and spiritual) that every healthy marriage requires, and explains why neglecting even one can quietly erode a relationship over years. You'll also discover: • Why premarital counseling rarely works — and what actually does • How to rebuild intimacy using a team approach, even through trauma, grief, and conflict • Why one motivated partner can shift the entire relationship dynamic (no dragging a reluctant spouse to therapy required) • The chaser-spacer dynamic — and how to invite connection instead of pushing your partner away • How Lee's Unpause app helps couples build new habits of connection daily • Whether your marriage is quietly disconnecting or at a full-blown crisis point, this episode delivers a clear, actionable roadmap for turning things around. Lee’s Bio and Contact Information Lee Baucom, Ph.D., is the creator of the Save The Marriage System, used around the world for over two decades. He is the author of four books on relationship issues and marriage recovery. As a Relationship Coach, Lee works with people around the world to save and restore their intimate relationships, even when a partner has given up. His method proved useful for people, working on their own, to turn their marriages and committed relationships around into loving, thriving, connected relationships. He shares that approach in his System, his writing, and the Save The Marriage Podcast. He has been podcasting since 2013. He is married, with two adult children and two active dogs. Connect with Lee Baucom: 📌 Connect with Lee Baucom: Chronically disconnected → unpauseyourmarriage.com [http://unpauseyourmarriage.com] At a crisis point → savethemarriage.com [http://savethemarriage.com] Save the Marriage Podcast: savethemarriage.com [http://savethemarriage.com] YouTube: Search : Lee Baucom Save the Marriage To connect with Dave, go to davidrobertsmsw.com [http://davidrobertsmsw.com]

Breaking the Cycle: Overcoming Addiction, Abuse & Generational Trauma with Shannan Kym

What does it take to break free from a lifetime of addiction, childhood abuse, and generational trauma? In this powerful episode of the Teaching Journeys podcast, host Dave Roberts sits down with internationally award-winning author, public speaker, and transformational mentor Shannan Kym to share her extraordinary journey from rock bottom to radical freedom. Growing up as the youngest of eight children in a home defined by alcoholism, mental illness, and abuse, Shannan endured unimaginable hardship — only to find herself trapped in a marriage to a narcissist and drinking up to six bottles of wine a day. Her story is raw, honest, and ultimately deeply inspiring. In this episode, you'll discover: •How childhood trauma and generational patterns fuel addiction — and how to break the cycle • What hitting rock bottom really looks like and the moment Shannan finally surrendered • Why traditional therapy and AA didn't work for her — and what did • The awakening that led to nearly 7 years of sobriety •How writing her award-winning book How in the Hell Did I Get Here? changed everything •The 10 Pathways to Self-Discovery . · •How she helps women ages 40–60 reclaim their identity, rebuild their lives, and step into their greatness Shannan's Bio and Contact Information SHANNAN KYM grew up in a family where addiction, violence, and extreme dysfunction were normalized. Robbed of her childhood, she was forced to grow up at a very young age. After dropping out of high school and leaving her family, she was filled with self-loathing and shame. Suppressing her feelings, Shannan became an alcoholic. For years, she abused her body, gained excessive weight, and let herself be taken advantage of by toxic people, including marrying a narcissist. She experienced career highs and lows and suffered the loss of a child. Eventually, Shannan hit rock bottom; but on August 17, 2019, everything changed. That day, Shannan made up her mind to stop letting addiction control her life. She also made a decision to get real, let go of her past hurts, embrace forgiveness, and focus on living each day with gratitude, purpose, light, and love. Connect with Shannan Kym at shannankym.com [http://shannankym.com] or find her on all social platforms @shannankym. To connect with Dave , go to davidrobertsmsw.com [http://davidrobertsmsw.com]

Legacy Architect Debbie Simmons: From Quadruplet Loss to Nonprofit CEO and Adoptive Mom of Nine

What would you do if you lost four babies in one day — and then built a multi-million dollar nonprofit, wrote a book, and adopted nine children from trauma backgrounds? In this powerful episode of the Teaching Journeys Podcast, host Dave Roberts sits down with Debbie Simmons — Legacy Architect, keynote speaker, author, and CEO/founder of Anchor Point, a nonprofit serving families in crisis. Debbie shares the extraordinary journey that shaped her: surviving the loss of quadruplet sons, battling infertility, finding purpose through grief, and ultimately adopting nine children from the foster care system. Together, Dave and Debbie explore: • How to process grief without getting stuck in the "why" questions • The founding of Anchor Point — a nonprofit offering medical care, maternity housing, parenting classes, and trauma-informed family camps • Debbie's proprietary frameworks: The Architecture of Trust and The Obedience Engine — and how leaders can identify where trust is leaking in their organizations • Why control and hustle are maladaptive survival mechanisms — and how to replace them • The realities of parenting nine adopted children from hard places • How to take the "next best step" no matter where you are in life • Debbie's book, The Heart of Legacy, is available FREE at theheartoflegacy.com [http://theheartoflegacy.com]. to teaching journeys podcast listeners. Debbie's Bio and Contact Information Debbie Simmons is The Legacy Architect™ — a keynote speaker, bestselling author, and the CEO/Founder of Anchor Point, a multimillion-dollar nonprofit changing lives every day. With over two decades of leadership at the intersection of impact and exhaustion, Debbie equips high-capacity leaders to rebuild what success was never designed to carry alone. She’s the creator of the Architecture of Trust™, a structural framework that helps leaders diagnose where trust is leaking — and the Obedience Engine™, a proprietary rhythm and decision-making model that aligns identity, trust, and forward movement. Her frameworks weren’t built in theory. They were born under pressure. Debbie has adopted nine children from trauma backgrounds, lost quadruplets, and battled a health crisis that nearly killed her. Despite the outward success — leading teams, speaking on global stages, publishing a bestselling book — her system began to collapse from the inside out. That breakdown exposed what many leaders quietly feel: they’ve built strong organizations but left their own structure weak. From that wreckage, she rebuilt. Today, Debbie is a trusted strategist to CEOs, founders, pastors, and high-level teams navigating leadership at scale. She doesn’t just speak truth — she helps leaders structure their obedience, rebuild trust at the root, and lead from a place that holds under pressure. If you’re successful but stretched, respected but unraveling, or tired but still performing… Debbie is your mirror, your strategist, and your challenger. SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS: https://www.facebook.com/TheDebbieSimmonsSpeaks [https://www.facebook.com/TheDebbieSimmonsSpeaks] https://www.youtube.com/@TheDebbieSimmonsSpeaks [https://www.youtube.com/@TheDebbieSimmonsSpeaks] https://www.linkedin.com/in/thedebbiesimmons/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/thedebbiesimmons/] https://www.instagram.com/thedebbiesimmons/ [https://www.instagram.com/thedebbiesimmons/] To connect with Dave, go to davidrobertsmsw.com [http://davidrobertsmsw.com]

"I Had to Choose the Day My Husband Died" : Erica Baccus on Love, Dementia & Letting Go

What would you do if you had to choose the day your husband died? In this deeply moving episode of the Teaching Journeys Podcast, host Dave Roberts sits down with Erica Baccus — author, former marketing executive, and end-of-life advocate — to explore one of the most profound and rarely discussed decisions a family can face. After her husband John was diagnosed with early-stage Alzheimer's in 2020, Erica and John made a courageous choice: rather than wait for the disease to steal everything he was, John would die on his own terms. That journey led them to Dignitas in Zurich, Switzerland — and forever changed Erica's life. In this episode, you'll hear: · What it was like the day John received his Alzheimer's diagnosis · Why U.S. aid-in-dying laws create a cruel catch-22 for dementia patients · The intimate, heartbreaking, and even humorous final moments of John's life · How Erica found the strength to choose the date her husband would die · The family's reaction — and why secrecy was necessary · Erica's book A Promise Kept: Honoring His Wishes, Embracing Our Love · Why every person — young and healthy — should have end-of-life conversations now A powerful, compassionate conversation that will make you think differently about life, love, and letting go. Erica’s bio: Erica started her professional career in the suburbs of Chicago as an 8th grade English teacher. She went on to San Francisco to become a high-tech marketing, advertising, and research executive. She and her beloved husband John were married for 41 years. Together they lived an active and adventurous life-skiing, golfing, hiking and traveling around the world. Erica enjoys spending time with her son, stepson, stepdaughter and grandkids. Now she helps advocate and educate people about end-of-life decisions exploring the moral and ethical perils so many face. Erica’s Social Media: Website: https://ericabaccus.com [https://ericabaccus.com] Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/ericabaccus/ [https://www.instagram.com/ericabaccus/] Threads:https://www.threads.com/@ericabaccus?xmt=AQF0dd2_SOOtLxTJickCWTEMu8SGa14IuGfoLb6PD1SoMS0 [https://www.threads.com/@ericabaccus?xmt=AQF0dd2_SOOtLxTJickCWTEMu8SGa14IuGfoLb6PD1SoMS0] Substack: https://ericabaccus.substack.com/?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio&fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAc3J0YwZhcHBfaWQMMjU2MjgxMDQwNTU4AAGn9iTZX6vHaLEUPb4H0ve1jd4RW-YfGvouRzbgzDm4Loa51BkSGTvg61IkTtI_aem_M9j4EYCPiYOIDAt6UikBgA&utm_id=97760_v0_s00_e0_tv3_a1dennhddsnx1i [https://ericabaccus.substack.com/?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio&fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAc3J0YwZhcHBfaWQMMjU2MjgxMDQwNTU4AAGn9iTZX6vHaLEUPb4H0ve1jd4RW-YfGvouRzbgzDm4Loa51BkSGTvg61IkTtI_aem_M9j4EYCPiYOIDAt6UikBgA&utm_id=97760_v0_s00_e0_tv3_a1dennhddsnx1i] 📖 Erica's Book: A Promise Kept: Honoring His Wishes, Embracing Our Love Available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and wherever books are sold 🎙️ Subscribe, rate, and review the Teaching Journeys Podcast wherever you listen. To find out more about Dave, go to davidrobertsmsw.com [http://davidrobertsmsw.com]

Walking in Joy After Tragedy: Carrie Eaton on Child Loss, Near-Death Experiences & Faith

What does it look like to find joy after losing a child? In this deeply moving episode of the Teaching Journeys Podcast, host Dave Roberts sits down with author Carrie Eaton, who lost her 3-year-old daughter Chelsea in 1995 — and lived to tell a story of miraculous healing and unshakable faith. Carrie shares how she navigated decades of grief, survived two near-death experiences, caught a glimpse of heaven, and ultimately found peace through her relationship with God. She also opens up about releasing 27 years of self-blame and co-writing her book Walking in the Fullness of Joy After Tragedy — which she says God gave her word by word in under 30 days. A conversation about grief, faith, healing, and the hope that joy is always waiting on the other side. Carrie's Bio and Contact Information Carrie Eaton currently resides in Elgin Texas and cares for her 92 year-old mother who has dementia and has for the past three years. God And I have written two books: Walking in the Fullness of Joy .Faith without Borders is our second book that will be out later this year. Carrie wants to give people hope that even through tragedy joy is on the other side of it. Email: chvycwgrl4@gmail.com [chvycwgrl4@gmail.com] Social Media Links: https://www.instagram.com/carrie_eaton?igsh=aXFnYWtpOTlhdjl3&utm_source=qr [https://www.instagram.com/carrie_eaton?igsh=aXFnYWtpOTlhdjl3&utm_source=qr] https://www.facebook.com/share/14adN9w3wVP/?mibextid=wwXIfr [https://www.facebook.com/share/14adN9w3wVP/?mibextid=wwXIfr] https://www.threads.com/@carrie_eaton?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ== [https://www.threads.com/@carrie_eaton?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==] https://open.spotify.com/user/31wy23toaccub26to5c2osxoiqbm?si=BPT82bUCRSO9K9CF3bF8SA [https://open.spotify.com/user/31wy23toaccub26to5c2osxoiqbm?si=BPT82bUCRSO9K9CF3bF8SA] https://youtube.com/@carrieeaton8069?si=Li7csw_bQR6FzsHj [https://youtube.com/@carrieeaton8069?si=Li7csw_bQR6FzsHj] https://www.linkedin.com/in/carrie-eaton-485b7357?utm_source=share_via&utm_content=profile&utm_medium=member_ios [https://www.linkedin.com/in/carrie-eaton-485b7357?utm_source=share_via&utm_content=profile&utm_medium=member_ios] https://a.co/d/018Ct82R [https://a.co/d/018Ct82R] 📚 Carrie's book is available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and Apple Books. Keywords: child loss, grief, near-death experience, Christian faith, hope, healing, faith after tragedy