#82 Why Do I Do That - Memory Processing

#82 Why Do I Do That - Memory Processing

If you've been in therapy for years and still can't think about a certain memory without your body going into panic, this episode will change the way you understand why. In this episode of Healing Conversations, Jessica speaks openly about memory: what it actually is, why talking about it doesn't process it, and what has to happen in the brain and body for a traumatic memory to fully close. She also shares something deeply personal. There was a period in her life when an incorrectly processed memory sent her into full psychosis. When her nervous system was so overwhelmed it began pairing current panic with memories from the past, and she couldn't tell what was real anymore. It was one of the most frightening experiences of her life, and it taught her more about trauma and healing than anything she had ever studied. Inside this episode: 👉🏼 Why a therapist telling you not to go back into a memory is almost always about their gap, not your fragility 👉🏼 The difference between explicit and implicit memory, and why processing one without the other means nothing has actually healed 👉🏼 Why talking about a memory doesn't process it, and what actually does 👉🏼 How the state you're in when you access a memory can change the memory itself 👉🏼 Why your brain stacks unrelated triggers onto an open, unprocessed wound 👉🏼 Why it doesn't matter whether the memory is real or exactly true 👉🏼 How a correctly processed memory only ever needs to be worked on once This episode is for the woman who is exhausted from revisiting the same pain. And for the therapist, coach or healer who has hit a ceiling with complex trauma clients and knows something is missing. The podcast is completely ad-free. Subscribe, leave a review, and share this with someone who is still carrying something they were never taught how to put down. 🎧 Podcast Listener Offer Podcast listeners get 50% off Triggered to Thriving®. 👉🏼 https://www.jessicaella.com.au/offers/QV5G7Pov?coupon_code=T2T50 [https://www.jessicaella.com.au/offers/QV5G7Pov?coupon_code=T2T50]

# 81 Why Do Spiritual Healers Struggle to Charge for Their Work?

Do you feel guilty charging for your healing work? You're not broken and you're not alone. In this episode of Healing Conversations, Jessica Ella unpacks the real reason so many healers, coaches and therapists undercharge: it's not a pricing problem, it's a trauma pattern. Jessica shares her own experience building Aaruka® Therapy — the internal battle between wanting to give everything away and needing to build a business that actually sustains you and why charging for your work doesn't make you greedy, unspiritual, or less caring. In this episode you'll learn: → Why spiritual people often feel guilty charging for healing work → The trauma pattern behind overgiving and people-pleasing → The difference between aligned giving and "I should" giving → How childhood money beliefs block healers from earning well → Why "good people don't charge" is a wound, not a truth → Why free work often leads to no-shows and low commitment → How investing in healing helps clients show up more fully → Why the most spiritual thing you can do is sometimes charge someone This episode is for healers, coaches, therapists, spiritual women, trauma survivors and overgivers who feel torn between wanting to help everyone… and needing a business that actually holds them. If you've ever felt guilty for charging, scared of being seen as greedy, or worried that making money makes you less spiritual, this episode will hit home. Free, ad-free, always. Subscribe, leave a review, and share with a healer who needs this. 🎁 Podcast listener offer: 50% off Triggered to Thriving® → https://www.jessicaella.com.au/offers/QV5G7Pov?coupon_code=T2T50 [https://www.jessicaella.com.au/offers/QV5G7Pov?coupon_code=T2T50]

# 80 Why Dating Is Easier Than Ever… And Harder Than Ever

Why Dating Feels Harder Than Ever | Trauma, Attachment Styles & Modern Dating In this episode of The Jessica Ella Podcast, Jessica breaks down why dating is easier than ever… but somehow feels harder than ever. With dating apps, endless options, and constant access to people, you’d think finding love would be simple. But instead, we’re seeing more ghosting, more confusion, more rejection, and more emotional triggers than ever before. Jessica shares her personal experience navigating dating after a 12-year relationship, and explains how trauma, attachment styles, self-worth, and subconscious patterns are shaping the way we date. Inside this episode: 👉🏼 why dating apps are creating overwhelm and decision paralysis 👉🏼 anxious attachment, avoidant patterns, and emotional triggers 👉🏼 why you keep attracting the wrong people 👉🏼 how rejection wounds show up in dating 👉🏼 the truth about “abundance dating” 👉🏼 why honesty about what you want changes everything 👉🏼 how to stop repeating toxic relationship patterns This episode is for women who are ready to stop chasing, stop settling, and start dating from self-worth instead of wounds. The podcast is completely ad-free. Subscribe, leave a review, and share this with someone navigating modern dating. 🎧 Podcast Listener Offer Ready to stop repeating patterns in love and actually heal at the root? Get 50% off Triggered to Thriving® (T2T) as a listener. 👉🏼 https://www.jessicaella.com.au/offers/QV5G7Pov?coupon_code=T2T50 [ https://www.jessicaella.com.au/offers/QV5G7Pov?coupon_code=T2T50]

# 79 Healing, heartbreak, and coming home to yourself with Mel

How Mel Went From Heartbreak to Healing | Aaruka® Therapy, People Pleasing, Divorce, Breakups & Coming Home to Yourself In this episode of The Jessica Ella Podcast, Jessica sits down with Mel from the Aaruka® online clinic to talk about what real trauma healing looks like through the lens of Aaruka® Therapy. This conversation goes deep into heartbreak, divorce, people pleasing, emotional pain, relationship patterns, and nervous system healing… and how Aaruka® Therapy works across the body, subconscious, and past memories to create real, lasting change. Mel shares how she first found Jessica through a breathwork event, what happened after her first Aaruka® Therapy session, and how her own healing journey led her into the clinic, now using Aaruka® Therapy to help others heal. Inside this episode, they talk about: 👉🏼 what actually happens in an Aaruka® Therapy session 👉🏼 healing heartbreak, divorce, and abandonment wounds through Aaruka® Therapy 👉🏼 people pleasing and losing yourself in relationships 👉🏼 why some relationships fall apart when you start healing 👉🏼 what it means to finally feel safe in your body 👉🏼 working with both adults and children using Aaruka® Therapy 👉🏼 how healing helps you speak your truth and stop abandoning yourself This episode is for anyone navigating trauma, heartbreak, or relationship patterns… and for those wanting to understand how Aaruka® Therapy creates deep, full-body healing. The podcast is completely ad-free. Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with someone who needs to hear that healing is possible. 🎧 Podcast Listener Offer If you’re ready to experience Aaruka® Therapy for yourself and go deeper… podcast listeners get 50% off Triggered to Thriving®. 👉🏼 https://www.jessicaella.com.au/offers/QV5G7Pov?coupon_code=T2T50 [https://www.jessicaella.com.au/offers/QV5G7Pov?coupon_code=T2T50]

# 78 What Really Happens When You Avoid the Pain

What REALLY Happens When You Avoid The Pain & Emotions? In this episode of The Jessica Ella Podcast, Jessica breaks down what really happens when you avoid your pain, emotions, and trauma - and why it eventually catches up with you. If you’ve ever felt like your anxiety came out of nowhere, or like you’re coping but not actually healing, this episode will show you what’s really going on underneath it. Jessica explains how unprocessed trauma and emotions build up in the body, why most people stay stuck in coping cycles, and why true healing requires going deeper - not avoiding it. Inside this episode: 👉🏼 why avoiding pain makes anxiety worse 👉🏼 coping vs real healing 👉🏼 how trauma stays stored in the body 👉🏼 why healing can feel worse before it feels better 👉🏼 how to start safely feeling and releasing emotions This episode is for women ready to stop avoiding… and start actually healing. The podcast is completely ad-free. Subscribe, leave a review, and share with someone who needs this. 🎧 Podcast Listener Offer Ready to go deeper? Get 50% off Triggered to Thriving® (T2T) as a listener. 👉🏼 https://www.jessicaella.com.au/offers/QV5G7Pov?coupon_code=T2T50 [https://www.jessicaella.com.au/offers/QV5G7Pov?coupon_code=T2T50]