You Don't Know Who He Is Until He Is Aroused

You Don't Know Who He Is Until He Is Aroused

This episode is the beginning of a series on sex as an invisible contract. What women are taught about intimacy. What they are not taught. And why that gap is not accidental. I talk about penetration and power. About what happens energetically when a man is in an aroused state and his intent is to seek release. About why women are disbelieved when they share experiences of violation - even in consensual situations. About why sanitising these conversations does women a profound disservice. This is not an anti-sex or anti-men conversation. It is a conversation about what women deserve to know. In this episode: — Why the comment "you made sex sound like a war zone" tells us exactly what the video was actually about — Penetration, power, and why this dynamic is not neutral — What bisexual men's conversations about intimacy reveal that heterosexual women are rarely told — Why women are disbelieved when they share difficult experiences of intercourse — even within marriage — The specific shift that happens energetically when a man's intent is to seek release using your body — Why this education is not happening in homes, in religion, or in schools — and what that costs women — What it means to reclaim dignity, safety, and pleasure as a woman on your own terms If this resonated with you — here is where to go next. The July Intensive — open now Six weeks live on Zoom for single women ready to move from understanding their patterns to living differently inside them. unpunishablewoman.mykajabi.com/offers/QC2LBLLA [http://unpunishablewoman.mykajabi.com/offers/QC2LBLLA] Free Unpunishable Money Reset resource — download now unpunishable-woman-kgwpuz.subscribepage.io [http://unpunishable-woman-kgwpuz.subscribepage.io/] Weekly essays on Substack unpunishablewoman.substack.com [http://unpunishablewoman.substack.com/] TikTok — @unpunishablewoman Instagram — @unpunishablewoman LinkedIn — linkedin.com/in/abentildhue [http://linkedin.com/in/abentildhue] Email — unpunishablewoman@gmail.com [unpunishablewoman@gmail.com]

The Part About Penetration During Sex Nobody Ever Prepares Women For

There is nothing neutral about penetration. Not culturally, not physiologically, not socially. And yet this is the conversation that is almost entirely absent from how women are prepared for sexual experiences. In this episode Ashanti addresses the gap between what women are told about sex - the romance, the love, the communication advice - and the visceral reality of what it means to be the person receiving penetration. Drawing on the Invisible Contracts framework, she examines why this conversation is consistently dismissed, why lived experience is data, and why women are routinely told they are not reliable narrators of their own bodies. This is part of the Invisible Contracts series. The conversation that should have been part of sexual education a long time ago. Content note: this episode contains frank discussion of sexual experience, coercion, penetration, and bodily autonomy. Please take good care of yourself while listening. Break Your Invisible Contracts unpunishablewoman.mykajabi.com/offers/heJcE2UR [http://unpunishablewoman.mykajabi.com/offers/heJcE2UR] The Truth About Money (That Single Women Learn Too Late) unpunishablewoman.mykajabi.com/offers/H9db2EtS [http://unpunishablewoman.mykajabi.com/offers/H9db2EtS] Free community and resources https://unpunishable-woman-kgwpuz.subscribepage.io [https://unpunishable-woman-kgwpuz.subscribepage.io/] Weekly essays on Substack unpunishablewoman.substack.com [http://unpunishablewoman.substack.com/] TikTok and Instagram — @unpunishablewoman Email — unpunishablewoman@gmail.com [unpunishablewoman@gmail.com]

Why Your Friends Disappeared When They Got Married

There is a role that highly competent single women often occupy in their female friendships - and nobody names it, because naming it requires admitting what it is. You are the one who organises everything, drives everyone, shows up last minute, runs the wedding, remembers the details, holds the emotional weight, and asks for nothing in return. Not because you chose it. Because usefulness became your identity, and everyone around you benefited from that before you did. This episode is about the quasi-boyfriend role - what it looks like, why competent women fall into it, what it costs, and what happens when you stop. Read the full essay on Substack https://unpunishablewoman.substack.com [https://unpunishablewoman.substack.com] FREE RESOURCE - WHAT WOMEN WERE NEVER TAUGHT ABOUT SEX https://what-women-were-never-taught-about-sex.subscribepage.io [https://what-women-were-never-taught-about-sex.subscribepage.io] FREE RESOURCE - THE UNPUNISHABLE MONEY RESET https://unpunishable-woman-kgwpuz.subscribepage.io [https://unpunishable-woman-kgwpuz.subscribepage.io] THE INVISIBLE CONTRACTS AUDIT - $49 https://unpunishablewoman.mykajabi.com/offers/i2NFDBkc [https://unpunishablewoman.mykajabi.com/offers/i2NFDBkc] Brand partnerships, speaking, media and advisory enquiries: unpunishablewoman@gmail.com

Sunday Update

Moving forward, I'll be uploading here weekly, each Thursday. I'm now over on YouTube Daily and will be teaching the full Invisible Contract series over the next two months on YouTube. Thank you for being here. THE INVISIBLE CONTRACTS AUDIT - $49 https://unpunishablewoman.mykajabi.com/offers/i2NFDBkc [https://unpunishablewoman.mykajabi.com/offers/i2NFDBkc] YouTube: https://youtube.com/@UnpunishableWoman [https://youtube.com/@UnpunishableWoman] Substack: https://unpunishablewoman.substack.com [https://unpunishablewoman.substack.com] TikTok: @unpunishablewoman Instagram: @unpunishablewoman LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abentildhue [https://linkedin.com/in/abentildhue]

Why Your Sexual Choices Are Policed More Than Your Pleasure As A Woman

Whether the argument is that women should save themselves for marriage, or that women should be freely choosing their partners, the conversation is always about what women are giving up, giving away, or withholding. It is about her as utility. Her body as a resource to be managed. Never about what she is actually experiencing. Never about whether she is enjoying it. Never about whether any of this is pleasurable for her at all. The barometer should always be safety, consent, and pleasure. It is not. And that tells you everything. EXPLORE THE WORK THE JULY INTENSIVE — OPEN NOW Six weeks live on Zoom for single women ready to move from understanding their patterns to living differently inside them. https://unpunishablewoman.mykajabi.com/offers/QC2LBLLA [https://unpunishablewoman.mykajabi.com/offers/QC2LBLLA] Break Your Invisible Contracts https://unpunishablewoman.mykajabi.com/offers/heJcE2UR [https://unpunishablewoman.mykajabi.com/offers/heJcE2UR] The Truth About Money (That Single Women Learn Too Late)https://unpunishablewoman.mykajabi.com/offers/H9db2EtS Weekly essays on Substack https://unpunishablewoman.substack.com [https://unpunishablewoman.substack.com] TikTok — @unpunishablewoman Instagram — @unpunishablewoman LinkedIn — https://linkedin.com/in/abentildhue [https://linkedin.com/in/abentildhue] Subscribe on YouTube — https://youtube.com/@UnpunishableWoman [https://youtube.com/@UnpunishableWoman] Brand partnerships, speaking, and media enquiries unpunishablewoman@gmail.com