Why I Can't Shoot Cats In My Neighborhood

Tech & Childhood - Loss of Play

We're talking about the loss of community, public space, and play - all washed out in the digital tides. Good thing our kids have a different destiny!

On Spiritual Fathers (pt.2)

On how to engage with older men and pull insights from them. We also discuss how NOT to engage with older men. It's a bit of an art, really. Gotta pay attention and keep at it - get through some reps.

On Spiritual Fathers (pt.1)

Two old guys talk through an introduction to spiritual fathering - what it is, why we need it, why it's in such short supply.

Why I Can't Shoot Cats In My Neighborhood

Even if I really wanted to shoot cats, like if I had a great reason - I couldn't. Governing a house and raising multi-generational, thriving families means we have to think asymmetrically and stay innovative. We have to problem solve and never assume the conventional, well-trodden pathways are the correct route. Sometimes - we run up against well-entrenched barriers and immovable barricades. That's just part of it, guy. We have to work within boundaries, but hack our way through just the same.

Fire Tornados

File under: stuff married men should know and think about. Emotional intimacy and physical sex are two wonderful aspects of a warm, life-giving marriage. The difficulty seems to hinge on how these two forces seem to move or fail to move in a coordinate motion. When it works - it works. When it fails - it really fails. Frustration is the most common result. IF, however ....and this is a big IF...you can get a nice fire tornado moving, then brother - it can really warm up the place. Many guys are surprised to discover that a HUSBAND needs to be the prime-mover in this dynamic. Initiating emotional connection/intimacy is the first motion that might just get something moving in the right direction. Men need to govern the spin - the spin of the Fire Tornado.