Choose Your Fear

The Stories We Tell Ourselves

What if the hardest part of our relationships is not what actually happens, but the story we tell ourselves about it? In this season finale of This Is Becoming, we unpack the internal narratives we so quickly write when we feel hurt, overlooked, or misunderstood. From unanswered texts to awkward conversations, our minds are constantly filling in the gaps, often with stories rooted in insecurity rather than truth. Ruth and Marisa talk about how these stories shape our emotions, reactions, and relationships, and how easily a single moment can spiral into deeply held beliefs like “I’m not enough” or “I don’t belong.” However, when we slow down, get curious, and ask better questions, we create space for clarity, compassion, and connection. If you have ever caught yourself assuming the worst, replaying conversations, or believing a story that may not be true, this conversation is for you. www.thisisbecoming.com INSTAGRAM @ruth.martini @the40hangercloset SOCIAL SHOUT OUT @donnapisani

Choose Your Fear

In this episode, Ruth and Marisa unpack the fear of man and the sneaky ways it shows up in everyday life. It rarely looks like “fear” at first. It often disguises itself as being considerate, avoiding awkwardness, staying quiet to keep the peace, or calling silence “honor.” But underneath, it can be a craving for approval and a reluctance to be uncomfortable. Together, they talk honestly about how fear of man can impact leadership, obedience, and relationships, and how it can quietly become a form of idolatry when the opinions of people start carrying more weight than the voice of God. www.thisisbecoming.com INSTAGRAM @ruth.martini @the40hangercloset SOCIAL SHOUT OUT @bendavidfitzgerald

What Are You Thinking???

What if the story you are telling yourself is not true? In this solo episode, Marisa invites you into an honest and deeply personal conversation about the thoughts we carry, the narratives we rehearse, and the quiet inner dialogue that shapes how we see ourselves and how we show up in the world. Through her own story, Marisa shares how painful words spoken in formative years can turn into deeply rooted internal beliefs, and how an encounter with truth has the power to interrupt them. This episode serves as a foundation for an upcoming conversation on identifying lies, renewing the mind, and learning how to replace old narratives with truth. If you have ever felt behind, not enough, too much, or stuck in repetitive thought patterns, this conversation is for you. www.thisisbecoming.com SOCIALS @the40hangercloset @ruth.martini SOCIAL SHOUT OUT @taylormadu GRATITUDE JOURNAL https://amzn.to/4quKgFb

Friendship Millionaire: How to Build Friendships That Last

In this episode, Ruth and I sit down with my friend Ashley, who is visiting from Canada, and we talk about the kind of friendship that actually forms you. Ashley shares her redemption story, the power of a praying mom, and how God can rebuild a life that felt completely off the rails. We also get honest about the fear of being left, the healing that happens in safe friendships, and what it looks like to pursue life giving relationships in your 30s and 40s without overcomplicating it. If you have been lonely, guarded, or tired of surface level connection, this one is for you. www.thisisbecoming.com INSTAGRAM @the40hangercloset @ruth.martini SOCIAL SHOUT OUT @sarah.sides

Lies We Believe

Not everything you think about yourself is the truth. The good news is - you're not alone in believing lies about yourself. The BETTER news is - there's a way out! In today's conversation, Ruth and Marisa share the lies they've identified that they believe about themselves AND what they are doing to break the cycle of belief. www.thisisbecoming.com INSTAGRAM @the40hangercloset @ruth.martini SOCIAL SHOUT OUT Clarissa from @gudonu