The Real Enemy Wasn't Alcohol | With Mark Roundy | Episode #058

The Real Enemy Wasn't Alcohol | With Mark Roundy | Episode #058

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2241336/fan_mail/new] In this episode of the Truly a Masterpiece Podcast, Craig sits down with his longtime friend Mark Roundy—a husband, father, fisherman, and faithful follower of Christ—for an honest conversation about addiction, recovery, shame, self-doubt, and the grace of God. Mark shares his struggle with alcohol, what finally got his attention, and the journey that led him to sobriety. But as powerful as his story of recovery is, Mark explains that alcohol wasn't the deepest issue. Beneath the addiction was a battle with shame, self-doubt, and the lies he believed about himself. Along the way, Craig and Mark discuss: • The unlikely friendship that began with a chance meeting at a boat ramp • Why so many men stay away from church • Common lies men believe about themselves • Why surrender is so difficult for men • The importance of authentic male friendships • How shame and self-doubt keep men stuck • Why many men stop dreaming—and how to begin dreaming again Whether you've struggled with addiction, battled self-doubt, or simply want to become a stronger husband, father, and follower of Christ, this conversation will encourage and challenge you. Time Stamps 0:00 Welcome 0:49 Mark Roundy: Husband, father, fisherman, and follower of Christ 2:10 Being outdoors doesn't always mean you feel closer to God 4:12 A "coincedental" meeting 4:56 She got my attention 5:18 She prayed nine years for me 7:26 Why some men don't go to church 10:24 Lies that kept Mark stuck 11:30 Shame and self-doubt 12:11 A deeper change 12:47 He tried to fix the wrong thing 13:36 The breakthrough 14:08 When you see God for who He is... 15:40 Finding God's love is the key to loving others 17:28 The change that had a greater impact than overcoming alcohol 18:00 Why surrender is hard 18:28 What God asks us to surrender 19:33 Dare to dream 21:00 Lessons for your children 23:06 The need for male connection 26:43 Mark's emotional closing Connect with Craig @CraigWalkerCaoching Connect with Craig  @CraigWalkerCaoching Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/craigwalkercoaching Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/craigwalkercoaching LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/craig-walker-1816367/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@craig.walker.coach YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@craigwalker9197 Get a copy of Craig's Book SHAMELESS The Life You Were Born to Love https://amzn.to/44vldsQ Sign up for the Truly a Masterpiece Free Workshop: Why Self-doubt Keeps Returning and How to Finally Break Free https://craigwalkercoaching.com/workshop Join the Masterpiece Brotherhood Men's Group: https://craigwalkercoaching.com/brotherhood

The Real Reason Negative Thoughts Feel So Powerful: And How to Change Them | Episode #057

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2241336/fan_mail/new] Why can one word of criticism ruin your whole day while ten words of encouragement barely make a dent? Why does rejection linger in your mind? Why do mistakes seem louder than success? In this episode of the Truly a Masterpiece Podcast, Craig explores the surprising reason negative thoughts carry so much power. Psychology tells us what it is, the Scriptures tell us why it is, and how to change it. You'll discover: *  Why negative thoughts often feel more believable than positive ones  *  How shame fuels the negativity bias  *  Why positive thinking alone isn't enough  *  Why salvation creates capacity but it requires renewing the mind to develop   competency  *  A simple four-step process to overcome destructive thinking Most importantly, you'll learn that the goal isn't simply eliminating negative thoughts. The goal is learning to think in partnership with God. As your understanding of God's love grows, your problems may not get smaller—but you will get bigger... You plus God is enough for whatever you face. Scriptures: Genesis 3, John 3, Romans 12:2, Romans 5:5, Philippians 4:13, Psalm 23, Psalm 139, James 1 If this episode encourages you, share it with a friend who may be struggling with discouragement, self-doubt, anxiety, or negative thinking. Time Stamps 0:00 Why can one word of criticism or one mistake ruin a whole day 0:55 Where negative thoughts get their power and how to overcome them 1:06 Negativity Bias 1:40 Negativity gained its power at the fall 2:28 The Alzheimer’s illustration 3:41 Negativity is fueled by shame 4:28 A new birth experience is required to overcome shame 5:42 Salvation creates capacity, and renewing your mind creates competency. 6:27 You can learn to think in partnership with God 7:09 The four step process to renew your mind 7:14 Feel it 7:48 Name it 8:18 Process it 9:10 Faith it. 10:08 The goal: Learning to think in partnership with God 10:27 A new bias emerges…to interpret life through faith rather than fear 11:00 Problems don’t get smaller, you get bigger 11:29 This week, do this Connect with Craig @CraigWalkerCaoching Connect with Craig  @CraigWalkerCaoching Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/craigwalkercoaching Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/craigwalkercoaching LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/craig-walker-1816367/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@craig.walker.coach YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@craigwalker9197 Get a copy of Craig's Book SHAMELESS The Life You Were Born to Love https://amzn.to/44vldsQ Sign up for the Truly a Masterpiece Free Workshop: Why Self-doubt Keeps Returning and How to Finally Break Free https://craigwalkercoaching.com/workshop Join the Masterpiece Brotherhood Men's Group: https://craigwalkercoaching.com/brotherhood

Don't Let Resentment Ruin a Relationship | Episode #056

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2241336/fan_mail/new] Resentment can quietly destroy a relationship—even when love is still present. In this episode, Craig explores why resentment is often much deeper than the situation that triggered it. Beneath irritation, tension, and emotional withdrawal is usually something unresolved in the heart: insecurity, fear, disappointment, unbelief, or an identity wound. Through the story of “John and Angela,” Craig shows why trying harder to “not feel or act resentful” doesn’t work—and how true freedom comes through honesty, trust in God, renewing the mind, and discovering the truth that sets you free. This is not just a conversation about relationships. It’s a conversation about identity, freedom, peace, joy, and learning to trust God with the deeper places of your heart. In this episode: • Why resentment is an identity issue • Why suppressing resentment never heals it • The difference between confessing the symptom and confessing the root • How resentment often exposes deeper unmet needs and beliefs You don't have to sacrifice freedom, peace, and joy on the altar of love. Time stamps 1:00 Don't let resentment ruin your relationship 1:29 What most people do 1:44 John and Angela 2:42 Show sacrificial love or learn to live with resentment? 4:00 There is a better way. 4:15 Stop trying to hide the resentment 4:43 Admit that your resentment isn't sacrificial love 4:58 Honesty is what it feels like when healing begins 5:01 Confess the root and not just the symptom 5:34 Resentment isn't the root. It is just the revealer 5:58 What "trusting God" does not mean 6:11  Recognize what you are feeling 6:36 Find the truth that sets you free 7:47 Resentment is rooted in a lie 7:55 Finding the lie is a process...like peeling an onion 8:33 The "truer-truth" 9:13 Ask the Lord for help. Psalm 139:23 9:21 John's truth that set him free--it was his identity 10:35 God had not asked him to sacrifice his freedom, peace, and joy. God was leading John to find it. 11:23 The change happened when John began to do the truth 11:48 Four steps summarized 12:46 Additional resources (see links below) Connect with Craig @CraigWalkerCaoching Connect with Craig  @CraigWalkerCaoching Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/craigwalkercoaching Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/craigwalkercoaching LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/craig-walker-1816367/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@craig.walker.coach YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@craigwalker9197 Get a copy of Craig's Book SHAMELESS The Life You Were Born to Love https://amzn.to/44vldsQ Sign up for the Truly a Masterpiece Free Workshop: Why Self-doubt Keeps Returning and How to Finally Break Free https://craigwalkercoaching.com/workshop Join the Masterpiece Brotherhood Men's Group: https://craigwalkercoaching.com/brotherhood

From Shame to Freedom: Shane’s Story (Part 2) | Episode #055

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2241336/fan_mail/new] For 23 years, Shane lived trapped in an addiction to pornography and shame. In Part 2 of this powerful conversation, Shane Daugherty shares more of his journey from shame, self-doubt, and striving into freedom, identity, and healing in Christ.  Together, we talk honestly about life after overcoming shame, how it impacted him personally, how it has impacted his marriage, and the surprising insight that his wife would have to learn how to live with this "new" man. And, he honestly opens up about the battles he is still fighting. If you’ve ever felt trapped by your past, exhausted from trying harder, or afraid that something is fundamentally wrong with you, this episode will encourage you.  Freedom doesn’t begin by pretending the struggle isn’t real. It begins by discovering the truth about who you are. Part 1 is about finding freedom.  Part 2 is about life after freedom. If you’ve ever struggled with shame, addiction, self-doubt, or feeling stuck, this conversation will encourage you deeply. Time Stamps 1:04 The beginning 1:22 The weight is gone 2:00 Aware of his need for grace 2:13 A new love for others 3:02 Wal-Mart Ministry 5:02 Changes in marriage were not automatic 6:06 Learning to make her feel safe again 7:42 Not a “Hall Mark” life 8:03 A metaphor for the new life 8:47 She is learning to live with a new you 9:20 Husbands are the key to their wife’s growth 10:25 There have been strugges 12:01 The benefit of community 12:34 The source of shame is… 13:17 Freedom is a daily choice 13:54 Helpful resources 15:40 Shane advice Connect with Craig @CraigWalkerCaoching Connect with Craig  @CraigWalkerCaoching Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/craigwalkercoaching Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/craigwalkercoaching LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/craig-walker-1816367/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@craig.walker.coach YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@craigwalker9197 Get a copy of Craig's Book SHAMELESS The Life You Were Born to Love https://amzn.to/44vldsQ Sign up for the Truly a Masterpiece Free Workshop: Why Self-doubt Keeps Returning and How to Finally Break Free https://craigwalkercoaching.com/workshop Join the Masterpiece Brotherhood Men's Group: https://craigwalkercoaching.com/brotherhood

From Shame to Freedom: Shane’s Story (Part 1) | Episode #054

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2241336/fan_mail/new] For 23 years, Shane lived trapped in an addiction to pornography. He tried programs, accountability groups, Bible studies, discipleship, and every solution he knew to try. But no matter what he did, he could never go more than three weeks without failing again. Then one day, his wife gave him a sobering ultimatum: “You can have pornography, or you can have your family. But you can’t have both.” That moment woke Shane up and gave him the courage to try one more time. In this powerful and honest conversation, Shane shares how becoming a student of the Truly a Masterpiece Course helped him finally experience breakthrough. He explains the life-changing difference between confessing the symptom of sin and addressing the deeper root—unbelief. Today, Shane is experiencing freedom, joy, and deeper love than he ever thought possible, and that freedom is now overflowing into every area of his life and relationships. Shane said:  “Knowing what I know now, I would have paid thousands of dollars for this training and considered it a bargain.” This is Part 1 of a two-part conversation. Part 1 is about finding freedom.  Part 2 is about life after freedom. If you’ve ever struggled with shame, addiction, self-doubt, or feeling stuck, this conversation will encourage you deeply. Time Stamps 01:00 Meet Shane 3:31  A Year and a half free 3:39 The cost of self-doubt 04:41 Shane's mindset while living with the addiction 0:5:49 The ultimatum 06:31 How he was first introduced to pornography 07:05 23 years addicted and never more than 3 weeks without a failure 07:22 What he had tried to find freedom 08:32 What motivated Shane to try again 09:37 "I knew I needed to solve this porn problem... but I got so much more" 12:23 Nowhere else to turn 13:20 The effects on his wife 14:00 The breakthrough 16:51 Shame speaking louder than truth 18:04 Struggled with "unbelief" but he was not an unbeliever 19:37 "In Christ" is enough 19:49 the change was almost instant 20:32 Free indeed 21:05 My heart posture is what caused the change... it wasn't my words 21:43 Two surprising things Shane was never asked to do 24:12 Truly a Masterpiece is not theropy Connect with Craig @CraigWalkerCaoching Connect with Craig  @CraigWalkerCaoching Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/craigwalkercoaching Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/craigwalkercoaching LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/craig-walker-1816367/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@craig.walker.coach YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@craigwalker9197 Get a copy of Craig's Book SHAMELESS The Life You Were Born to Love https://amzn.to/44vldsQ Sign up for the Truly a Masterpiece Free Workshop: Why Self-doubt Keeps Returning and How to Finally Break Free https://craigwalkercoaching.com/workshop Join the Masterpiece Brotherhood Men's Group: https://craigwalkercoaching.com/brotherhood