Stop Praying for God to Change Your Spouse

The Relationship Conversation We Couldn't Avoid

In this season finale, Pastor David and Venus have an honest conversation about marriage struggles, separation, divorce, counseling, reconciliation, and the hope available through Christ. This episode is filled with practical wisdom, personal stories, and biblical perspective for anyone navigating difficult relationship seasons. Have a question? Ask here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdEy8iXDYbXPkUpbYgqObR7hj4Ls07gVuaaQt5MQIYWrUaDIQ/viewform [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdEy8iXDYbXPkUpbYgqObR7hj4Ls07gVuaaQt5MQIYWrUaDIQ/viewform]

Stop Praying for God to Change Your Spouse

In this episode of What Do You Want to Know?, Venus and Pastor David Martin continue their relationship series with the conversation almost no one prepares you for: the reality of marriage once the wedding is over. They dig into whether marriage is about happiness or holiness (or both), why a covenant is nothing like a contract, and the word that makes almost everyone flinch - submission - what it really means, what it absolutely doesn't, and why it can be a joy instead of a power trip. This conversation covers everything from Ephesians 5 and the heavier weight Scripture places on the husband, to how culture quietly trained men to go passive and then blamed them for it, to praying for your spouse instead of trying to fix them, to a brutally honest look at how David and Sarah actually fight (and the Notes-app trick that finally helped), to the lie the enemy whispers into every marriage. If you've ever bristled at the word "submit," felt alone in your own home, wondered why your husband won't lead, or just keep fighting about the same thing over and over, this episode is for you. Have a question? Ask here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdEy8iXDYbXPkUpbYgqObR7hj4Ls07gVuaaQt5MQIYWrUaDIQ/viewform [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdEy8iXDYbXPkUpbYgqObR7hj4Ls07gVuaaQt5MQIYWrUaDIQ/viewform]

A Stick of Dynamite Didn't Build the Stars

In this Memorial Day weekend episode of What Do You Want to Know?, we keep things short, light, and a little weird while answering three real questions you submitted: how science and Christianity fit together, why God can feel hidden, and what to make of "anti-Paulism." This conversation covers everything from the Apple Watch that obviously needed a designer, to why "something came from nothing" falls apart under pressure, to a chilling story about a remote monastery and a monk painted with flames in his eyes, to what Romans 1 says about a heart that keeps saying no - and whether Paul's letters are really "less inspired" than the words of Jesus. If you've ever wrestled with doubt, felt like God was distant or silent, or wondered whether you can be intellectually honest and still believe, this episode is for you. Have a question? Ask here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdEy8iXDYbXPkUpbYgqObR7hj4Ls07gVuaaQt5MQIYWrUaDIQ/viewform [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdEy8iXDYbXPkUpbYgqObR7hj4Ls07gVuaaQt5MQIYWrUaDIQ/viewform]

Worship Is More Than Raising Your Hands (Sarah Martin)

What does it actually mean to “abide” with God? In this episode of What Do You Want to Know?, Venus sits down with Pastor Sarah Martin to talk about prayer, worship, quiet time, distractions, intimacy with God, and how spending daily time with Jesus can completely transform your life and home. This conversation covers everything from creating a secret place with God to navigating busy schedules, raising families, dealing with distractions in worship, and learning how to genuinely enjoy God instead of treating faith like a checklist. If you’ve ever struggled with consistency in prayer, feeling spiritually dry, or wondering why your relationship with God feels distant, this episode is for you. Timestamps: 0:00 – Gluten-free struggles, Bluey, and British accents 4:55 – Introducing Pastor Sarah Martin 8:10 – What is the purpose of spending time with God? 11:32 – “The chief end of man is to worship God and enjoy Him forever” 15:40 – Why quiet time with God matters 19:45 – Building a secret place with God 24:10 – Why Sunday worship should be an overflow 29:50 – Spiritual dryness and missing daily connection with God 34:15 – Learning to hear God’s voice 38:20 – How God speaks in themes 42:35 – Time management, busy seasons, and making space for God 47:10 – Why worship changes the atmosphere of your home 52:40 – Worshipping through distractions 57:25 – Different expressions of worship explained 1:02:30 – Why Christians judge worship 1:08:12 – David dancing before the Lord 1:13:45 – Raising your hands, posture, and engaging in worship 1:18:20 – How worship transforms your heart 1:24:50 – The importance of staying spiritually sensitive 1:30:35 – Final encouragements and closing thoughts Have a question? Ask here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdEy8iXDYbXPkUpbYgqObR7hj4Ls07gVuaaQt5MQIYWrUaDIQ/viewform [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdEy8iXDYbXPkUpbYgqObR7hj4Ls07gVuaaQt5MQIYWrUaDIQ/viewform]

Why ‘Almost Married’ Isn’t Married (And It Matters)

This episode tackles one of the most real (and uncomfortable) topics in modern relationships: sex, boundaries, and living together before marriage. Is it actually wrong? What if you’re engaged? What if you’re planning to get married anyway? And how do you set boundaries in a culture that pushes in the opposite direction? We don’t dodge the hard questions. We go straight to Scripture, real-life experience, and practical wisdom for dating, relationships, and honoring God with your life. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged, or mentoring someone who is, this conversation matters. Have a question? Ask here:https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdEy8iXDYbXPkUpbYgqObR7hj4Ls07gVuaaQt5MQIYWrUaDIQ/viewform