The Lost & Found Podcast with Amanda Powers
Episode 122: We're back from a short break and bringing you along the journey with some brand new guests! This week we are kicking things off with nomadic relationship expert and guide, Alissha Davis. You're the most self-aware you've ever been. You've done the therapy, listened to the podcasts, read the books. So why do you keep making your worst dating decisions right now — in the middle of a career change, a move, a total reinvention? In this episode — our very first conversation about love and relationships on the show — Amanda sits down with Alissha Davis [https://www.instagram.com/alisshagoesthere], dating and relationship specialist and founder of Nomad Love Lab [https://www.nomadlovelab.com/]. Alissha has spent 11 years living abroad, from Thailand to Brazil, studying what actually happens to our love lives when our identity is in flux. Her answer is equal parts science and soul: when you're in transition, your nervous system stops looking for compatible love and starts looking for anyone to hold onto. That dopamine hit, that sudden quiet, that feeling of "finally" — it isn't always destiny. Sometimes it's just your body finding a regulation source and dressing it up as fate. Together, Amanda and Alissha get into the science of why "quieter" gets mistaken for "right," the red flags we can't see in ourselves, and Alissha's CED Method [https://app.nomadlovelab.com/ced-dating] — Clarity, Emotional Regulation, and Discernment — for making grounded decisions in love. Alissha also shares her own raw story of grief, losing her father suddenly, and how she caught herself latching onto the wrong person while she was at rock bottom. This one is personal, a little vulnerable, and exactly what you need if you're trying to find love and yourself at the same time. What you'll hear in this episode: * Why self-awareness doesn't protect you from bad dating decisions * The "Anchor Effect" and what your nervous system does when your identity destabilizes * How to tell genuine connection from someone who just makes the uncertainty feel quieter * The CED Method: Clarity, Emotional Regulation, Discernment — and which one collapses first * The myth of being fully "healed" before you're allowed to love * How to determine when you're using dating as avoidance Chapters: 00:00 Why We're Finally Talking About Love & Identity 02:42 Meet Alissha Davis 09:16 Why You Shouldn't Pause Your Love Life During a Transition 16:57 Why Self-Awareness Doesn't Stop Bad Dating Decisions 21:52 The CED Method: Clarity, Emotional Regulation & Discernment 24:01 How to Know What You Actually Need in a Relationship 25:29 Emotional Regulation: Calming Your Own Nervous System 27:38 Why Clarity Comes First (and What Happens When It Collapses) 29:44 Comfort vs. Compatibility: Is It Love or Just Relief? 32:59 When "Couple Goals" Is Really Emotional Anesthesia 34:28 The Anchor Effect: How Identity Loss Creates Codependency 35:26 Alissha's Story: Grief, Clarity & Walking Away 38:40 How Living Abroad Reshaped Her View of Love 43:01 How to Date in the Middle of a Major Life Transition 46:26 Take the Risk: Advice for Anyone Who Feels Lost CONNECT WITH ALISSHA: Website - https://www.nomadlovelab.com/ [https://www.nomadlovelab.com/] Instagram - @alisshagoesthere [https://www.instagram.com/alisshagoesthere] & @nomadlovelab [https://www.instagram.com/nomadlovelab/] Coaching, Quizzes, Events - Sign Up Here! 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