When Talking Becomes a Shield Instead of Intimacy

When Talking Becomes a Shield Instead of Intimacy

In this episode, I talk about a relationship pattern I’ve lived with for years — and only recently understood. It started with one simple sentence someone said to me: “You can’t discuss everything.” At first it sounded obvious. Then it unraveled an entire part of my inner world. I share how using deep conversations and analysis can look like intimacy… but can sometimes be a way of keeping real vulnerability at a distance. You’ll hear the full original recording plus an honest epilogue I added days later, when I realized where I was still judging myself and misunderstanding my own needs. We explore: • Why we sometimes over-explain to feel safe • How fear of disappointment shapes our behavior • The difference between protecting ourselves and connecting • The role a partner actually should play in our healing • And how to open up to real experiences instead of scripting them If you’re analytical, introspective, or afraid of “getting it wrong” in relationships, this conversation will resonate. You’re not broken. You’re human — and you’re allowed to need care. Referenced in this episode: Parts work facilitator Silvia Hong - check out her offerings, I have been working with her, and I can highly recommend her (not sponsored): https://www.silviahong.com 👉 Subscribe to my YouTube channel for more videos on personal growth & simple living: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxo9_eHy5kxuuJimb8kwYCg 👉 Come say hi on Instagram 👋: https://instagram.com/sarineturhede👉 Notes from Self 💌 Connect beyond social media through my newsletter: https://sarineturhede.com/notes-from-self/*****************🌿 FREE GUIDED INNER JOURNEY: RECONNECT WITH YOUR DREAMSOur dreams are our North Star. They’re here to guide us — but sometimes we convince ourselves they’re impossible, and we turn away. That’s when the pain begins.I recorded the inner journey I use to reconnect with my true dreams so that you can use it too.This meditation will help you:🌾 Get in touch with your true dream (not the one you think you “should” want)🌾 Release the overwhelm of chasing too many paths🌾 Feel the relief of aligning with your real North Star👉 See if the dream your following is the dream your heart truly desires: https://sarineturhede.com/en/🌾-harvest-your-dreams-✨/*****************Business inquiries and collaborations:hello@sarineturhede.com*****************🎶 All music via EpidemicSound:Like the music? Find my playlist with the music I've used here:https://share.epidemicsound.com/g5vqhv/?playlist=1u47xc4gdvfo1u4qtdv51d66hicimay4If you sign up to Epidemic Sound through the playlist link, you'll get 7 days for free.This is a referral link. It means that if you purchase a subscription through the link, I get free months.

Personal growth lessons from vlogging

If you are a people pleaser or struggle with having a sense of self - this one is for you. In this episode of Where the Soul Flowers Grow I'm answering a question that came from you: what is good motivation for vlogging (or starting a podcast)? And is it a good idea to start vlogging / start a YouTube channel / start a podcast if you're doing it because you want to feel seen and validated?Referenced in the podcast:Teal Swan's video "Why following your passion both does and doesn't bring financial abundance": https://youtu.be/6Fg5ngIfrb4?si=IPvu_gk-nottCykx👉 Subscribe on YouTube for more videos on personal growth & simple living: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxo9_eHy5kxuuJimb8kwYCg👉 Come say hi on Instagram 👋: https://instagram.com/sarineturhede👉 Notes from Self 💌 Connect beyond social media through my newsletter: https://sarineturhede.com/notes-from-self/*****************🌿 FREE GUIDED INNER JOURNEY: RECONNECT WITH YOUR DREAMSOur dreams are our North Star. They’re here to guide us — but sometimes we convince ourselves they’re impossible, and we turn away. That’s when the pain begins.I recorded the inner journey I use to reconnect with my true dreams so that you can use it too.This meditation will help you:🌾 Get in touch with your true dream (not the one you think you “should” want)🌾 Release the overwhelm of chasing too many paths🌾 Feel the relief of aligning with your real North Star👉 See if the dream your following is the dream your heart truly desires: https://sarineturhede.com/en/🌾-harvest-your-dreams-✨/*****************Business inquiries and collaborations:hello@sarineturhede.com*****************🎶 All music via EpidemicSound:Like the music? Find my playlist with the music I've used here:https://share.epidemicsound.com/g5vqhv/?playlist=1u47xc4gdvfo1u4qtdv51d66hicimay4If you sign up to Epidemic Sound through the playlist link, you'll get 7 days for free.This is a referral link. It means that if you purchase a subscription through the link, I get free months.

Raw & Real: Redefining Relationships, Roles & My Next Chapter

In this honest and vulnerable episode of Where the Soul Flowers Grow, I drop the polished “coach” persona and invite you to my kitchen table (literally, that's where I recorded this). I open up about: – Ending my relationship and buying a home in Sweden – The unexpected freedom (and challenges) of living alone – My evolving view on relationships, emotional availability, and traditional roles – Questioning my own desire for motherhood – How family lineage and societal expectations shape what we think we “should” want This is a raw, unfiltered conversation about following your inner compass even when you don’t have all the answers. If you’re exploring your own authentic path, you’re not alone. Thank you for listening, and please share your thoughts with me — I always love hearing your stories and reflections. 💙 Let’s connect: 🌻 Come say hi on Instagram 👋: https://instagram.com/sarineturhede 🌻 F R E E resource to help you stay consistent in building your dream life throughout the seasons of life: https://sarineturhede.com/en/the-aligned-planner-free-ressource/ 🌻 Personal guidance: If you’re ready to build a life rooted in your authentic self, learn more about my coaching here: https://sarineturhede.com/en/personal-coaching/

Slow Living as a Creative: How to Honor Your Emotions Without Losing Your Dreams

In this episode, I explore the creative conundrum so many of us face: we need freedom and flow to thrive, but without structure, personal struggles can spill over and leave us feeling stuck, scattered, or ready to give up on our dreams. I share my own story of learning not to bulldoze myself through resistance, but instead to listen to the different parts within me. This gentle approach helps us stay connected to our dreams without abandoning ourselves along the way. To bring a sense of slow living into this episode, I’ve paired my reflections with cozy everyday moments—organizing my bedroom, clearing out drawers, and making pancakes for breakfast. Think of it as a podcast with a touch of silent vlog, inviting you to slow down and reconnect with yourself. ✨ Download my free Aligned Planner and join my newsletter for more soul-led inspiration: https://sarineturhede.com/en/the-aligned-planner-free-ressource/ With love, Sarine

Stop Chasing Signs — Regain Your Power by Trusting Your Inner Compass

Have you ever waited for a sign to tell you what to do next? I know I have. And in this episode, I share a very raw story from my own life — how I said yes to a job that seemed like the perfect “sign,” only to quit after just a few days because my body, my intuition, and my inner compass told me otherwise. Signs can be meaningful, but they are not instructions. If we follow them blindly, we risk living a life built on outside expectations instead of our own truth. In this conversation you’ll hear: 🌱 Why chasing signs can actually disempower you 🌱 The difference between resistance and true misalignment 🌱 How your body often knows the truth before your mind does 🌱 Practical steps to regain your power and trust your inner compass I hope my story encourages you to check in with yourself, take aligned steps (even when they feel scary), and remember that your power is in choosing. — 👉 Please remember: Creating your dream life is not about fixing yourself first. You are loved and worthy of all the good things you wish for. It's about finding a way that works for you, just the way you are right now. Find more resources to help you reconnect with your inner compass and create a life that feels true to you, just the way you are right now. Learn more at SarineTurhede.com [https://sarineturhede.com/en/home/]. — #TrustYourself #InnerCompass #PersonalGrowth