His Job, Her Job: When submission becomes control

His Job, Her Job: When submission becomes control

What is healthy submission and boundaries in marriage, and when can submission cross the line into control? As a group practice of therapists, we too often see biblical submission used in an unhealthy way. In this episode, licensed, professional counselors Sharon and Kayla discuss the cultural context and biblical understanding of love and submission, how influences in our current culture, like purity culture and our experiences in childhood, impact how we relate to our spouses and operate in our marriages, and what both his and her jobs are in a healthy marriage. Links: Tim Mackie Sermon: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XBuDX8ds5ME Bell Hooks, All About Love: New Visions: https://amzn.to/3SQWZDu Jay Stringer, Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing: https://amzn.to/4dtFbXs Richard Schwartz, You Are the One You’ve Been Waiting For: Applying Internal Family Systems to Intimate Relationships: https://amzn.to/3M6weXI (Please note, as an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases)

Part 1: 5 Types of Narcissists

A re-release of an old episode! In 2022, we did a series called “Know Thy Trauma.” Throughout multiple episodes, we discussed trauma and its components: generational trauma, attachment styles, triggers, and so much more. This summer, we’re revamping our most popular episodes of that series! To start us off, we have part 1 of 5 types of narcissists. In this episode, counselors Sharon and Cait discuss narcissism and 2 out of the 5 types we commonly see. Vulnerable and covert narcissists can be difficult to spot due to coming off as “givers”, and Sharon and Cait dive into detail about what makes them narcissistic. Subscribe and leave a 5-star review, and follow us on Instagram and Facebook @wholeselftherapists!

How Society Puts Men In Boxes- With Guest Matt Owen

Professional counselors Sharon and Kayla are joined by guest Matt Owen, a counselor at the Moore Resilient Group, to discuss the messaging Western culture sends men and what boxes men can be put in as a result. They talk about gender roles, what men are taught about friendships and romantic relationships from a young age, how men are shown to handle emotions, and more. Lastly, they discuss what effect these things can have on men’s mental health and relationships, and what men can do to challenge or work through these narratives.

Pt. 4: Gender Roles and Low Sexual Desire In Married Women

Low sexual desire in married women is a topic we encounter a lot in our counseling office, and is more nuanced than you think. Licensed, professional counselors Sharon Wegman and Kayla Seader discuss the factors that contribute to lower sex drive, like gender roles, purity culture, unequal labor divisions in the home, pornography, and more. This episode is a follow up to our episodes on The Mental Load of Women, Weaponized Incompetence, and Boundary Conversations with Your Partner. Link to the study: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8382213/ The Great Sex Rescue by Sheila Gregiore: https://amzn.to/3Vuub5V Jimmy On Relationships on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jimmy_on_relationships This post may contain affiliate links so we may receive compensation if you purchase products linked to below. As an Amazon Associate, we can earn from qualifying purchases.

Pop Psychology Part 2

Have you seen tons of posts on social media about narcissists, or people breaking off relationships with “toxic” people? In this episode, Sharon and Mandy break down concepts that have been popularized by pop psychology, like narcissism, gaslighting, abuse, trauma, and more to help bring clarity to what is true about these topics and what is not. Follow us on Instagram and Facebook @wholeselftherapists!