#116 - How to Get Someone Out of A Cult

#116 - How to Get Someone Out of A Cult

How to get someone out of a cult. Arguing, fact-checking, and cutting them off all make it worse. Psychologist Steven Hassan studied cult recovery for forty years and found one method that actually works. This episode covers exactly what to say, what to ask, and why the relationship you protect now is the only exit they will have when it falls apart. Free PDF of anti-cult questions in the comments.

#115 - Why Conservatives Are Obsessed with Trans People

To support my work subscribe to my Substack here: https://lucasbean.substack.com/ [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbUNJajd2ZWh0N2RqNHJ0bUZaamZKU3pQZmdpZ3xBQ3Jtc0tuN01oc3BVMmZhNmd5NWNDUnZiUjdDMzZseUZzMkZDYjRRRDJtV1ZBeldZUndJSzJXS3J4bzZOa2JieG1TYlZ2bEVudG5NVUhyY2w0R1JXeTZiUlhlZ1R3YU9WSVIyVUFoMDljR3Y3ZG1HTXNESEtLQQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Flucasbean.substack.com%2F&v=tGEMhXmritQ] In this episode we look at one of the most revealing psychological patterns in modern politics. The conservative obsession with trans people. In 1996 psychologist Henry Adams at the University of Georgia conducted a study measuring the physical responses of men who scored high on homophobia scales while watching different types of adult content. The results were extraordinary. Over half the men who scored highest on homophobia showed a measurable physical response to gay content. Less than a quarter of non-homophobic men did the same. Psychologists call this reaction formation. When people feel shame about something inside themselves they don't confront it. They attack it in others. The louder the outrage the deeper the shame. This episode explains why the most anti-gay politicians keep getting caught in airport bathrooms. Why Grindr crashes every time the Republican convention comes to town. And why the men screaming loudest about trans people cannot stop thinking about trans people. They are not protecting their values. They are terrified you will see their search history.

#114 - 4 Dark Psychological Traits of the Trump Cult

4 Dark Psychological Traits of the Trump Cult. To support my work subscribe to my Substack here: https://lucasbean.substack.com/ [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbUNJajd2ZWh0N2RqNHJ0bUZaamZKU3pQZmdpZ3xBQ3Jtc0tuN01oc3BVMmZhNmd5NWNDUnZiUjdDMzZseUZzMkZDYjRRRDJtV1ZBeldZUndJSzJXS3J4bzZOa2JieG1TYlZ2bEVudG5NVUhyY2w0R1JXeTZiUlhlZ1R3YU9WSVIyVUFoMDljR3Y3ZG1HTXNESEtLQQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Flucasbean.substack.com%2F&v=tGEMhXmritQ] In this episode we break down the Dark Tetrad, a cluster of four dark personality traits identified by psychologists Erin Buckels, Daniel Jones, and Delroy Paulhus at the University of British Columbia in 2013. These four traits, narcissism, Machiavellianism, psychopathy, and everyday sadism, are disproportionately drawn to authoritarian movements and leaders who deliver cruelty on demand. We look at how each trait explains a specific behavior pattern inside the MAGA movement. Why facts don't work on them. Why the lying doesn't bother them. Why they feel nothing for the people getting hurt. And why the cruelty isn't a side effect of the movement. It's the whole point. We also look at where these traits come from, how childhood abuse and neglect wire a brain for cruelty, and why Trump didn't accidentally attract these people. He built something specifically designed for them. This is not a political episode. It is a psychology episode. And once you understand these four traits you will never look at this movement the same way again.   To support my work subscribe to my Substack here: https://lucasbean.substack.com/ [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbUNJajd2ZWh0N2RqNHJ0bUZaamZKU3pQZmdpZ3xBQ3Jtc0tuN01oc3BVMmZhNmd5NWNDUnZiUjdDMzZseUZzMkZDYjRRRDJtV1ZBeldZUndJSzJXS3J4bzZOa2JieG1TYlZ2bEVudG5NVUhyY2w0R1JXeTZiUlhlZ1R3YU9WSVIyVUFoMDljR3Y3ZG1HTXNESEtLQQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Flucasbean.substack.com%2F&v=tGEMhXmritQ]

#113 - Then It Was Too late

A reading from a section of Chapter 13 of "They Thought They Were Free" by me.  Please listen and re-listen to this over and over again until you understand it all.  This is how Fascism rolls in.

#112 - Sycophancy Bias

Sycophancy Bias