Scared to Say No? The Real Cost of People Pleasing

She People Pleased Herself Into a Breakdown at 62 — Here's How God Freed Her

Have you ever been so busy trying to keep everyone happy that you forgot to take care of yourself? Faye Mattox did — and it caught up with her at 62 years old in the form of an anxiety breakdown that left her in her room for six months, unable to work, unable to function, and barely able to pray. In this episode of the Words of Encouragement Podcast, Faye gets raw about a lifetime of people pleasing, control, and performing for everyone's approval — starting from losing her father at age 3, hearing she'd "never be nothing" at 13, all the way to hitting a wall decades later when her body finally said enough. But this isn't just a breakdown story. It's a breakthrough story. Faye shares how God used her lowest moment to strip away the approval-seeking, quiet the noise, and bring her back to the only audience that matters. In this episode: Why high-achieving people pleasers are often the most at risk for burnout How the words spoken over you as a child can quietly run your adult life What happened when Faye anointed her daughter's shoes — and her daughter walked again in 8 months The moment a 6-year-old spoke with a voice that wasn't her own Why your only audience should be God — not people If you're exhausted from saying yes when God is saying no, this episode is for you. 🔔 Subscribe for new episodes every Wednesday 👍 Like this video if it blessed you 💬 Drop a comment — where are you in your people pleasing journey? 📲 Follow Frankie: @iamfrankielubin 🌐 Words of Encouragement Podcast — new episodes every Wednesday Join the prayer group: https://prayergroup.lovable.app [https://prayergroup.lovable.app] #PeoplePleasing #WordsOfEncouragement #FaithPodcast #ChristianWomen #MentalHealth #Anxiety #BreakingFree #FaithOverFear #MadeDifferent #IdentityInChrist #ChristianPodcast #Encouragement #GodsVoice #Burnout #ApprovalSeeking

Scared to Say No? The Real Cost of People Pleasing

f you say yes when you mean no, this episode is for you. In this episode of the Words of Encouragement Podcast, Frankie Lubin breaks down why people pleasing has nothing to do with having a big heart — and everything to do with fear. Fear of being alone. Fear of being replaced. Fear of losing people who may not even really have you. Frankie gets real about his own struggle — resetting the clock on promises he made to himself, going back to old habits just to fit in, and what it finally took to break free. This one hits different because it's not just preached — it's lived. In this episode: Why people pleasing is rooted in fear, not kindness How the need for approval destroys your boundaries Why transition seasons feel so lonely — and why that's okay How to stop seeking validation from people and start standing on God's word Scriptures referenced: Galatians 1:10 — Proverbs 4:23 — John 8:32 If you're tired of showing up for everybody else while saying no to yourself, this episode will give you the push you need. 🎙️ Subscribe to the Words of Encouragement Podcast for weekly episodes on faith, identity, and becoming the man God called you to be.

From People Pleaser to Purpose Driven (Her Story Will Wake You Up)

> What does it cost to perform for everyone your whole life? > > Alexis Gillespie found out the hard way. > > Two overdoses. A near-fatal car accident that put her in a wheelchair for months. The death of her father — less than a year later. And somewhere inside all of it, lying in her Nashville apartment with her Bible, she heard four words that changed everything: "You're not doing this right." > > In this episode of the Words of Encouragement Podcast, Frankie Lubin sits down with educator, discipleship leader, and Drip Cold Press Juices founder Alexis Gillespie for one of the most raw, unfiltered conversations the podcast has had yet. > > Alexis didn't just lose her old life — she had to grieve a version of herself she'd been performing since childhood. A little girl who learned that love had to be earned. A woman who changed who she was in every room, for every person, just to feel like enough. > > Until God said: enough performing. Time to rest. > > In this episode: ✦ Why people-pleasing is an identity trap — and how to recognize it in yourself ✦ The accidents & overdoses that cracked her open to God ✦ Healing a father wound — and why she tells every woman: don't wait ✦ How counseling + faith together accelerated her transformation ✦ What men get dangerously wrong about identity and emotional strength ✦ What a spiritually attractive man actually looks like (from a woman who knows) > > If you've been performing your way through life — for your family, your followers, your friends — this episode is your permission to stop. > > Identity built on performance will always collapse. Identity built on truth will hold. > > 🎙️ Words of Encouragement Podcast — hosted by Frankie Lubin (Mr. Made Different) 📲 Follow Frankie: @iamfrankielubin | Follow Alexis: @Ruach.Pnuema

How to Rebuild Yourself When Life Is Already in Motion

Most men think rebuilding themselves means starting over — leaving the relationship, walking away from the life they built, burning it all down. That's not what God is calling you to do. In this episode of the Words of Encouragement Podcast, Frankie Lubin breaks down how to rebuild your identity from right where you are — already in the relationship, already have the kids, already carrying the weight. We walk through three powerful points: the difference between starting over and rebuilding in place, why your life is reflecting exactly what's in your heart, and why surrendering is the most masculine thing a man can do. If you heard last week's episode on the three reasons men lose themselves in relationships and thought "it's too late for me" — this episode is your answer. Scriptures covered: Ezekiel 36:26 | Proverbs 27:19 | Romans 8:6 Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and all major platforms 📲 Follow on Instagram: @iamfrankielubin

3 Reasons Why Men Lose Themselves In Relationships (And How to Reclaim Your Identity as a Man)

Many men don’t lose their relationships — they lose themselves inside the relationship. In this episode of the Words of Encouragement Podcast, Frankie Lubin (Mr. Made Different) breaks down the deeper issue behind many relationship struggles: identity. When a man doesn’t know who he is, he begins to adapt to his environment, chase validation, and build relationships before he has built himself. Over time this leads to confusion, frustration, and loss of purpose. In this episode you’ll learn: • Why men lose themselves in relationships • How identity affects relationships and leadership • Why chasing validation destroys purpose • Why men must build themselves before building a relationship • How reconnecting with God stabilizes a man’s identity Frankie shares biblical insight, personal reflection, and practical wisdom to help men rebuild their identity and realign their lives with purpose. If you’ve ever felt lost in a relationship, disconnected from your purpose, or unsure about the man you’re becoming, this episode will challenge and encourage you. This podcast is part of the Made Different movement — helping men reclaim their identity through faith, discipline, and responsibility. Listen to the Words of Encouragement Podcast for conversations about identity, faith, masculinity, purpose, and personal transformation. #Identity #MensPurpose #ChristianMen #Masculinity #FaithAndPurpose