Raccoons, Roleplay & Reactive Dogs

The Pool Fight, The Gallbladder & The Garden Center

This week on You Know What I Mean, Bethany and Kait catch up on everything from mysterious health scares and frustrating doctor appointments to marriage arguments in the pool, emotional support gardening, and the reality of figuring out whether or not you want kids. Kait opens up about recent health anxiety after dealing with abdominal pain, night sweats, and the exhausting experience of trying to advocate for herself in the healthcare system - while Bethany shares how a simple Instagram post about not having children unexpectedly shifted the way she views her mom, marriage, and current life. The conversation bounces between deep and ridiculous in the best way possible: raccoons named Two Smokes, public pool trauma, cats on harnesses, why dog trainers don’t actually obsess over dogs all day, and the oddly healing power of repotting flowers while emotionally spiraling. They also talk about conflict in relationships, the emotional “messy middle” of life decisions, Louie’s personality glow-up, why four dogs somehow works in Bethany’s house, and the realization that maybe appreciating your own backyard pool is a metaphor for life. Basically: part therapy session, part dog podcast, part gardening podcast, part existential crisis. Exactly how you’d expect.

Raccoons, Roleplay & Reactive Dogs

This week on You Know What I Mean, Kait and Bethany catch up on life, wildlife, and dog training chaos. Kait shares the terrifying night she thought an intruder was breaking into the house while Casey was away… only to discover the real culprit was a raccoon with very strong opinions about bird feeders. Meanwhile, Bethany gives a front yard gardening update and talks about the unexpected emotional growth that comes with realizing your neighbors might actually like you after all. The girls also answer a listener question about dogs losing their minds at the front door - covering place command, meaningful e-collar levels, practicing before the “big moment,” and why waiting until your dog is already spiraling usually makes everything harder.

Glimmers, Therapy & Loose Chickens

This episode starts exactly how you’d expect from us - mid-conversation, laughing, and absolutely no formal intro energy. We talk glimmers (including sweet potatoes, butterflies, and bird sounds at sunrise), relationship therapy breakthroughs, growing together in marriage, and how differently families communicate. Somewhere along the way: * Bethany has to chase escaped chickens mid-recording * Kait confesses to buying herself flowers at the roller rink and pretending they were from a crush * We relive our high school soundtrack era featuring Britney Spears, Spice Girls, JoJo, and Limp Bizkit * We talk about confidence, growing up insecure, and why feeling truly seen matters so much * Plus: reactive dog boarding guilt, giving family members dog instructions, and why one bad weekend won’t ruin your dog’s training Honestly? This episode feels like sitting at the kitchen table with friends while everyone talks over each other in the best possible way.

From Book Club to Murderous Chickens

In this episode of You Know What I Mean, Bethany and Kait start with a simple idea — share three “glimmers” from the week — and somehow end up talking about everything from books and backyard ecosystems to irrational pet peeves and the lives they’re trying to build. What begins as a light, feel-good exercise turns into something deeper. They talk about the small moments that bring joy (and how easy they are to overlook), the weird things that make them irrationally defensive, and the tension between where they are now and the lives they’re working toward. There’s no real structure. No dog training deep dive. Just honest, unfiltered conversation — the kind that makes you feel like you’re sitting at the table with them. And honestly? That’s kind of the point. In this episode, we talk about: * What “glimmers” actually are — and why noticing them matters * The difference between big wins and small, everyday joy * Kait’s unexpected reading streak and living in multiple “worlds” at once * Bethany’s current obsession with gardening and backyard life * The moment things took a turn… (yes, the chicken story) * Comfort shows, book vibes, and why some things just hit differently * The question: what feels unreachable right now? * Building a life that blends ambition with ease * Wanting more — while also being content with what you have * The things that make us irrationally defensive (this gets honest) * Family dynamics, boundaries, and unspoken tension * Pet peeves, gym “icks,” and inside thoughts that should stay inside * Why this podcast doesn’t feel like work — and why we love it

From Constipation to Controversy

This episode starts off exactly how you’d expect — catching up, talking about life, and yes… a very detailed conversation about homemade lattes and a recent bathroom situation. But somewhere between ice cream habits, baking dilemmas, and full-on garden mode, we end up having a really honest conversation about dog training — specifically, the growing gap between what people believe online and what actually works in real life. We talk about: * why certain narratives around e-collar training stick — even when they don’t match reality * the difference between hearing about something and actually experiencing it * how overcomplicating dog training can leave owners feeling stuck * and why clear, simple communication often gets overlooked We also get into: * addictive personalities (coffee edition ☕️) * the mental gymnastics of having sweets in the house * plant care becoming a full personality trait * and the chaos of trying to “tighten things up” after a few weeks of living your best life It’s one of those episodes that feels like a real conversation — a little all over the place, unexpectedly honest, and somehow still tied together in a way that makes you think.