Create The Love Podcast

#015: The Biggest Mistake Couples Make After Having Kids - Dr. Stan Tatkin

In this episode, renowned psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Stan Tatkin joins Mark Groves to unpack the emotional landmines couples face when transitioning into parenthood—and how to avoid them. Drawing from decades of research and his new book Baby Bomb, Dr. Tatkin breaks down why so many relationships collapse after a baby arrives, the hidden dynamics that trigger resentment and disconnection, and why co-regulation—not self-reliance—is the key to thriving love. He introduces powerful frameworks like “fighting for two winners” and building relational systems that prioritize interdependence, safety, and repair. Whether you're a new parent or simply want to future-proof your relationship, this episode is a must-listen blueprint for deeper connection and conscious partnership. Stan's Links: * Dr. Tatkin’s Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/drstantatkin/] * The PACT Institute Website [https://www.thepactinstitute.com/] CTL Links: * Website: www.createthelove.com [https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.createthelove.com] * Courses: www.createthelove.com/courses [http://www.createthelove.com/courses] * Where are you stuck in love? Take the quiz: https://markgroves.involve.me/where-are-you-stuck-in-love-quiz [https://markgroves.involve.me/where-are-you-stuck-in-love-quiz]  * Mark's Book: www.markgroves.com/book [https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.markgroves.com/book] * Get our Relationship Toolkit: How to Thrive in Your Relationships: https://markgroves.com/relationshipmastery [https://markgroves.com/relationshipmastery]

#014: Love Is Who You Are, Not What You Seek

In this solo episode, Mark Groves dives deep into the misunderstood fear of commitment—revealing it’s not about avoiding partnership, but about distrusting love and our capacity to hold it. With raw personal stories and powerful reframes, he unpacks the emotional roots of avoidance, the illusion of safety in certainty, and why real commitment begins with unwavering devotion to self. This episode is a call to stop shrinking for love and start choosing relationships that elevate, challenge, and liberate you. If you’ve ever questioned whether love is safe, or whether you can trust yourself in it, this one is a must-listen. Website: www.createthelove.com [https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.createthelove.com] Courses: www.createthelove.com/courses [http://www.createthelove.com/courses] Where are you stuck in love? Take the quiz: https://markgroves.involve.me/where-are-you-stuck-in-love-quiz [https://markgroves.involve.me/where-are-you-stuck-in-love-quiz]  Mark's Book: www.markgroves.com/book [https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.markgroves.com/book] Mark's Substack: https://substack.com/@markgroves [https://substack.com/@markgroves] Get our Relationship Toolkit: How to Thrive in Your Relationships: https://markgroves.com/relationshipmastery [https://markgroves.com/relationshipmastery]

#013: Your Trigger is Your Medicine with Rachel Fiori

In this episode, Mark Groves and Rachel Fiori explore the sacred intersection of the human and the divine. From the idea that our souls choose our families for the purpose of growth, to the reframing of trauma as a curriculum for transformation, this conversation invites you into a new level of self-responsibility. Unpack the power of breaking life-long patterns—not just by becoming aware of them, but by taking immediate, aligned action. Authentic healing isn’t a feel-good bypass or a quick fix. It’s the gritty, courageous work of facing your pain with open eyes and an open heart. It’s warrior work. Rachel Fiori is the founder & CEO of Masters of Self University. With a Masters of Science in Occupational Therapy (specializing in mental, emotional, & behavioral health), a BA in Business/Corporate Communications, and through the use of her psychic abilities of spiritual healing and vibrational medicine, Rachel has been healing clients at the soul level for over twenty-five years. Rachel's Links: * Website | https://www.mastersofselfuniversity.com [https://www.mastersofselfuniversity.com] * Instagram | @rachel_fiori [https://www.instagram.com/rachel_fiori/] * TikTok | @rachel_fiori [https://www.tiktok.com/@rachel_fiori] CTL Links: * Website: www.createthelove.com [https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.createthelove.com] * Courses: www.createthelove.com/courses [http://www.createthelove.com/courses] * Where are you stuck in love? Take the quiz: https://markgroves.involve.me/where-are-you-stuck-in-love-quiz [https://markgroves.involve.me/where-are-you-stuck-in-love-quiz]  * Mark's Book: www.markgroves.com/book [https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.markgroves.com/book] * How are your Nervous System + Attachment Style connected? https://markgroves.com/connectthedots [https://markgroves.com/connectthedots]

#012: You’re Not Too Much—You’re Just Asking the Wrong People with Jeff Guenther

In this refreshingly honest conversation, Mark Groves and Therapy Jeff rip the shame out of attachment styles and self-awareness in dating. Jeff doesn’t just normalize your need for reassurance—he commands you to own it, while dismantling the outdated narrative that vulnerability is unattractive. With unapologetic wit, he challenges listeners to recognize their red flags, explore the roots of their emotional patterns, and get radically real about what they need in relationships. If you've ever felt "too much" or wondered when it’s okay to ask for clarity, this episode will shift your mindset and invite you to stop performing and start relating. Listen in and redefine what healthy love really looks like. Jeff Guenther is a licensed professional counselor in Portland, Oregon. He’s been a therapist since 2005 and his practice focuses on both couples and individuals. These days, he spends most of his spare time making one-minute videos for TikTok and Instagram, and more in-depth content on Patreon. Consider following him on all the platforms for relationship advice, tips, pep talks and other resources to maximize your mental health. Jeff's Links: * Website | therapyjeff.com [https://www.therapyjeff.com/] & therapyden.com [https://www.therapyden.com/] * Instagram | @therapyjeff [https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff/] * TikTok | @therapyjeff [https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff] * Patreon | @therapyjeff [https://www.patreon.com/therapyjeff] CTL Links: * Website: www.createthelove.com [https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.createthelove.com] * Courses: www.createthelove.com/courses [http://www.createthelove.com/courses] * Where are you stuck in love? Take the quiz: https://markgroves.involve.me/where-are-you-stuck-in-love-quiz [https://markgroves.involve.me/where-are-you-stuck-in-love-quiz]  * Mark's Book: www.markgroves.com/book [https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.markgroves.com/book] * How are your Nervous System + Attachment Style connected? https://markgroves.com/connectthedots [https://markgroves.com/connectthedots]

#011: Manifestation Without the Bullsh*t with Lacy Phillips

In this episode, Mark is joined by manifestation expert and founder of To Be Magnetic, Lacy Phillips, to disrupt everything you think you know about manifestation. Together, they explore why positive thinking alone doesn't work, how your subconscious beliefs—often rooted in childhood and relational experiences—block abundance and love, and how to reprogram those blocks using a neuroscience-based method called neural manifestation. With real-life examples and powerful insights on the link between love, money, and self-worth, learn to break free from old patterns, reclaim your innate magnetism, and finally manifest the life your soul is truly calling in. LACY'S LINKS: * Website: https://tobemagnetic.com [https://tobemagnetic.com/] * The Pathway – Membership: https://www.howtomanifest.com/p/the-pathway [https://www.howtomanifest.com/p/the-pathway] * Instagram: @tobemagnetic [http://instagram.com/tobemagnetic] CTL LINKS: * Website: www.createthelove.com [https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.createthelove.com] * Courses: www.createthelove.com/courses [http://www.createthelove.com/courses] * Where are you stuck in love? Take the quiz: https://markgroves.involve.me/where-are-you-stuck-in-love-quiz [https://markgroves.involve.me/where-are-you-stuck-in-love-quiz]  * Mark's Book: www.markgroves.com/book [https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.markgroves.com/book] * Get our Relationship Toolkit: How to Thrive in Your Relationships: https://markgroves.com/relationshipmastery [https://markgroves.com/relationshipmastery] * How are your Nervous System + Attachment Style connected? https://markgroves.com/connectthedots [https://markgroves.com/connectthedots]