CY aka Nkiru the Love Guru's Confessional

89. Confessions need Solutions.... Check for underlying feelings.

Nkiru the Love Guru comes to bring you advice and affirmations to help you through your journey of healing. We will talk about issues that heal the inner child, the wounded teenager and the anxious/avoidant adult. We dive deeper into understanding concepts on how to work through the potential trauma that could have existed due to the abandonment and misunderstanding of these three. Nkiru confesses her shortcomings and look for active ways to fix the issues that we all deal with in this life. After taking accountability and confessing our problems, we must then take the accountability to do the work to remedy the issues discovered. We lean on the bible for encouragement and to see what it says about our issues. Together we hope these small steps will help cultivate active solutions to the problems we are overcoming. This month's lesson plan topic: Emotional Awareness & Regulation The inner child: Notice when your emotional reactions feel disproportionate to the current situation. If you feel overwhelmed by feelings of fear, sadness, or anger without a clear present cause, it could be your inner child reacting to past unmet needs. The wounded teenager: If you react defensively to criticism or perceived rejection, it could be your wounded teenager who experienced rejection, isolation, or judgment in adolescence. The anxious/avoidant adult: If you frequently feel torn between wanting closeness and pushing people away, you may be dealing with an anxious-avoidant emotional pattern. This often stems from early attachment experiences where you were either rejected (avoidant) or overly dependent on others (anxious). Today's Affirmation: I am aware of the patterns in my emotions and choose to respond with clarity and understanding. I recognize recurring emotional patterns and gently explore their roots to foster healing and growth. With each emotion, I honor the opportunity to learn from my feelings and create healthier, more balanced responses. Today's Question: What triggers these emotional responses repeatedly, and how can I change my approach to those triggers for a healthier outcome? How do these emotional patterns reflect my beliefs about myself, and what would it take to shift them towards a more positive and empowering perspective? Scripture Recap: Proverbs 4:23, Jeremiah 17:9-10, Matthew 7:16-18, Luke 6:45, Romans 8:5-6, Galatians 5:22-23, Proverbs 23:7 and James 1:14-15

88. Confessions need Solutions.... Check for underlying feelings.

Nkiru the Love Guru comes to bring you advice and affirmations to help you through your journey of healing. We will talk about issues that heal the inner child, the wounded teenager and the anxious/avoidant adult. We dive deeper into understanding concepts on how to work through the potential trauma that could have existed due to the abandonment and misunderstanding of these three. Nkiru confesses her shortcomings and look for active ways to fix the issues that we all deal with in this life. After taking accountability and confessing our problems, we must then take the accountability to do the work to remedy the issues discovered. We lean on the bible for encouragement and to see what it says about our issues. Together we hope these small steps will help cultivate active solutions to the problems we are overcoming. This month's lesson plan topic: Emotional Awareness & Regulation The inner child: Often, your inner child is activated when you feel neglected, unloved, or misunderstood, which can trigger feelings like sadness, fear, or anger. Take note of situations where these emotions feel amplified or irrational. The wounded teenager: Teen years often come with experiences of rejection, criticism, or unmet expectations. If you feel defensive or reactive, ask yourself, “Is this about the present, or is this a past wound being triggered?” The anxious/avoidant adult: Anxious-avoidant individuals may struggle between wanting closeness and fearing it. When you feel conflicted in relationships, it’s helpful to ask yourself: "Is this fear based on a past experience where I felt abandoned or smothered?" Today's Affirmation: I am aware of my emotions and allow myself to explore the deeper feelings behind them with compassion and curiosity. I recognize that my emotions are messages, and I take time to listen to what they are trying to tell me. I trust myself to understand the underlying causes of my emotions and respond to them with patience and self-care. Today's Question: What might this emotion be trying to protect me from, and how can I respond to it with compassion rather than reaction? Are there past experiences or unmet needs that are influencing how I feel in this moment, and how can I address them with care? Scripture Recap: Proverbs 4:23, Psalms 139:23-24, Jeremiah 17:9-10, Matthew 12:34, James 1:19-20, Proverbs 23:7 and Romans 12:2

87. Confessions need Solutions.... Consider your emotional history.

Nkiru the Love Guru comes to bring you advice and affirmations to help you through your journey of healing. We will talk about issues that heal the inner child, the wounded teenager and the anxious/avoidant adult. We dive deeper into understanding concepts on how to work through the potential trauma that could have existed due to the abandonment and misunderstanding of these three. Nkiru confesses her shortcomings and look for active ways to fix the issues that we all deal with in this life. After taking accountability and confessing our problems, we must then take the accountability to do the work to remedy the issues discovered. We lean on the bible for encouragement and to see what it says about our issues. Together we hope these small steps will help cultivate active solutions to the problems we are overcoming. This month's lesson plan topic: Emotional Awareness & Regulation The inner child: The inner child represents the emotions and experiences you had as a child, particularly during formative moments where you may have felt loved, abandoned, nurtured, or neglected. The wounded teenager: The wounded teenager embodies the feelings of hurt, anger, rejection, or confusion that often arise during adolescence. This stage is full of self-discovery and navigating relationships, where emotional wounds might have been inflicted by peers, family, or society. The anxious/avoidant adult: The anxious-avoidant adult reflects emotional patterns formed in response to earlier experiences of attachment, particularly in romantic or close relationships. The anxious aspect stems from fear of abandonment, while the avoidant part comes from a desire for independence or a fear of being overwhelmed by closeness. Today's Affirmation: I honor my past emotions as part of my journey, and I allow them to guide me toward healing and growth. I release any pain from my emotional history, trusting that I am capable of transforming my past wounds into strength and wisdom. I am compassionate with myself as I reflect on my emotional history, knowing that each experience has shaped me into who I am today, and I am continually evolving. Today's Question: What patterns or recurring emotional responses from my past continue to influence my present reactions, and how can I begin to break those cycles? How have my past emotional experiences shaped the way I view myself and my relationships, and what would it look like to heal or transform those beliefs? Scripture Recap: Psalms 139:23-24, Isaiah 43:18-19, 2 Corinthians 5:17, Philippians 13:13-14, Romans 8:28, Psalms 147:3, Jeremiah 29:11, Matthew 11:28-30, Proverbs 4:23 and Hebrews 12:1-2

86. Confessions need Solutions.... Identify the intensity.

Nkiru the Love Guru comes to bring you advice and affirmations to help you through your journey of healing. We will talk about issues that heal the inner child, the wounded teenager and the anxious/avoidant adult. We dive deeper into understanding concepts on how to work through the potential trauma that could have existed due to the abandonment and misunderstanding of these three. Nkiru confesses her shortcomings and look for active ways to fix the issues that we all deal with in this life. After taking accountability and confessing our problems, we must then take the accountability to do the work to remedy the issues discovered. We lean on the bible for encouragement and to see what it says about our issues. Together we hope these small steps will help cultivate active solutions to the problems we are overcoming. This month's lesson plan topic: Emotional Awareness & Regulation The inner child: The emotions might feel pure, raw, and overwhelming, like you're experiencing a wave of emotion without the tools to process it. The wounded teenager: The emotions might feel like they are charged with anger or resentment.  The anxious/avoidant adult: Emotions can oscillate between intense anxiety (when you feel threatened) and emotional numbing or withdrawal (when you pull back to protect yourself). Today's Affirmation: I acknowledge and honor the full range of my emotions, knowing they guide me to deeper understanding and healing.  I am safe to feel deeply, and I trust myself to process and learn from my emotional experiences. With every emotion I experience, I grow stronger in my ability to understand, manage, and express my feelings authentically. Today's Question: What is the underlying need or fear driving this intense emotion, and how can I address it in a healthy way? How would I respond to this emotion if I saw it as a message from my inner self, rather than something to be fixed or avoided? Scripture Recap: Psalms 34:18, Psalms 42:11, Ephesians 4:26-27, James 1:19-20, Philippians 4:6-7, Isaiah 41:10, Psalms 147:3, 2 Corinthians 1:3-4, Matthew 11:28-30, John 14:27 and Hebrews 4:15-16

85. Confessions need Solutions.... Observe your reactions.

Nkiru the Love Guru comes to bring you advice and affirmations to help you through your journey of healing. We will talk about issues that heal the inner child, the wounded teenager and the anxious/avoidant adult. We dive deeper into understanding concepts on how to work through the potential trauma that could have existed due to the abandonment and misunderstanding of these three. Nkiru confesses her shortcomings and look for active ways to fix the issues that we all deal with in this life. After taking accountability and confessing our problems, we must then take the accountability to do the work to remedy the issues discovered. We lean on the bible for encouragement and to see what it says about our issues. Together we hope these small steps will help cultivate active solutions to the problems we are overcoming. This month's lesson plan topic: Emotional Awareness & Regulation The inner child: Emotional responses. Needs for love and connection. Observing. Self-Soothing, The wounded teenager: Defensiveness & Rebellion. Self-Protection & Guardedness. Observing. Self-Awareness. The anxious/avoidant adult: Push and Pull Relationships. Avoidance of Emotional Vulnerability. Observing. Addressing the Cycle. discomfort. Today's Affirmation: I am aware of my emotions without judgment, allowing myself to feel and understand without being overwhelmed. I honor my reactions as clues to my deeper needs, and I respond to them with kindness and curiosity. I am patient with myself as I learn to observe my feelings, trusting that awareness leads to growth and healing. Today's Question:  What past experiences or beliefs might be influencing how I’m reacting to this situation right now? What is this emotion trying to teach me about my needs or boundaries in this moment? Scripture Recap: Proverbs 4:23, Psalms 139:23-24, James 1:19-20 and Proverbs 15:1.