Emotionally Unavailable

Motherhood, Womanhood, Burnout & Self-Trust: Healing Through Self-Love

Host, Malisa Hepner, and Jeselle Hinzmann, one of the hosts of the powerful podcast, Look In Through The Glass, sit down again for heartfelt conversation about self-love, emotional healing, motherhood, burnout, and learning to trust yourself again. Together, they explore the pressure women face to constantly perform, the impact of societal expectations on identity and femininity, and the importance of reconnecting with your authentic self. This episode offers honest reflections and practical insights for anyone navigating overwhelm, emotional exhaustion, or the journey back to self-worth and inner peace. Burnout is often a signal that you've been abandoning your own needs to meet expectations. Start rebuilding self-trust by asking yourself one simple question each day: What do I genuinely need right now? Practice honoring the answer without guilt, even in small ways. * Emotionally Unavailable is produced 100% in-house. No team, just me and my love for yapping and helping others. If this show has ever helped you in any way, here is your chance to help it keep going strong. Subscribe to the patreon, grab some merch or get a workbook! I appreciate you all. Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! * $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! * $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) * $30 - Deeper work and group spaces Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 [https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1] https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner [https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner] Look In Through The Glass: Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/70FRNU3BBO9dr5a2E2GLJf], Apple [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/look-in-through-the-glass/id1838197079], Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/search/top?q=look%20in%20through%20the%20glass] Link to previous episodes with Jeselle: Jeselle and Sela - Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/episode/3DXXYDakd3nPRPMvMgBt4C?si=lppbk0jkRw-WAgG-2tJyYw], Jeselle and Sela - Apple [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/breaking-generational-patterns-healing-relationships/id1743753206?i=1000754605423] Jeselle episode Mar 30, Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/episode/4DIWYFH2kpZd4nCeWOCMAH?si=STMZzY8MTce2eqgglTx-hw], Apple [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/postpartum-healing-trauma-reconnecting-to-your-body/id1743753206?i=1000758151939] My episode On Look In Through The Glass: Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/episode/6eii3E5GVYdCuPPep8aSaR?si=vFtBCLc2QTG3wgR4VP_HtA], Apple [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/malisa-hepner-w-emotionally-unavailable/id1838197079?i=1000748241316]

Why Your Personality Isn't Fixed | Mental Health, Identity & Change

Therapist and host, Malisa Hepner, sits down with clinical psychologist, Dr. Shannon Sauer-Zavala, to explore the truth about personality, emotional patterns, and the myths that keep people feeling stuck. Together, they discuss how personality traits are more flexible than we've been taught, why traditional mental health labels can sometimes miss the bigger picture, and how understanding your patterns can lead to lasting healing and personal growth. This conversation offers a grounded and hopeful perspective on change, self-awareness, and the future of mental health treatment. Pay attention to the patterns you've labeled as "just who I am." Instead of treating them as permanent personality traits, begin asking: What purpose is this pattern serving, and is it still helping me? Awareness creates the possibility for change. * Emotionally Unavailable is produced 100% in-house. No team, just me and my love for yapping and helping others. If this show has ever helped you in any way, here is your chance to help it keep going strong. Subscribe to the patreon, grab some merch or get a workbook! I appreciate you all. Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! * $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! * $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) * $30 - Deeper work and group spaces https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink [https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink] Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 [https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1] https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner [https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner] Shannon's links: Personality test [https://dashboard.personality-compass.com/bwyw-replay?utm_source=instagram&utm_medium=social&utm_term=bio-link&utm_content=&utm_campaign=the-personality-edit], Website [https://www.personality-compass.com/], Insta [https://www.instagram.com/self.made.personality/?hl=en], Pre-order book [https://www.amazon.com/BPD-Compass-Workbook-Personalized-Personality/dp/1648488390/ref=sr_1_2?crid=TKW5P2CYH9AC&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ZUMMzq6wYmVuv_0k0Wcwi0tL5qNpM4G91nQh6nrpsjzGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.TO73cIXoSNjVRzb8meDAuE2zsQmfimTSTdDVzcfRlnQ&dib_tag=se&keywords=bpd+compass&qid=1779203966&sprefix=bpd+compass%2Caps%2C480&sr=8-2]

Grief & Boundaries: Navigating Loss Without Losing Yourself

Host, Malisa Hepner, opens up about navigating grief and the emotional challenges that come with protecting your peace while carrying profound pain. Malisa explores how grief can impact boundaries, emotional regulation and relationships while sharing grounded practices that have helped her move through overwhelming moments with greater self-awareness and compassion. This honest conversation offers support for anyone struggling to care for themselves while grieving, healing, or carrying invisible emotional weight. Grief often lowers our emotional capacity, making boundaries feel harder to maintain. Before reacting, pause and ask yourself: "Do I actually have the emotional energy for this right now?" Protecting your nervous system is not avoidance—it's self-respect. * Emotionally Unavailable is produced 100% in-house. No team, just me and my love for yapping and helping others. If this show has ever helped you in any way, here is your chance to help it keep going strong. Subscribe to the patreon, grab some merch or get a workbook! I appreciate you all. Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! * $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! * $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) * $30 - Deeper work and group spaces https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink [https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink] Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 [https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1] https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner [https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner]

The Hidden Pain Beneath Eating Disorders | Recovery, Identity & Self-Love

Therapist and host, Malisa Hepner, and Julia Trehane, eating disorder recovery coach, explore the complex realities of recovering from anorexia, orthorexia, and disordered eating. Julia shares how perfectionism, emotional pain, control, and societal pressure shaped her relationship with food and body image, and what it took to begin rebuilding trust with herself. Together, they discuss intuitive eating, nervous system healing, self-worth, and the deeper emotional wounds that often exist beneath eating disorders. Notice where control around food, exercise, or "health" may actually be covering deeper emotional needs like safety, worthiness, or acceptance. Healing begins when compassion replaces punishment. * Emotionally Unavailable is produced 100% in-house. No team, just me and my love for yapping and helping others. If this show has ever helped you in any way, here is your chance to help it keep going strong. Subscribe to the patreon, grab some merch or get a workbook! I appreciate you all. Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! * $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! * $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) * $30 - Deeper work and group spaces https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink [https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink] Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 [https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1] https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner [https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner] Julia's links: Website [https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner], Website [https://www.edrecoverycircle.com/], Youtube [https://www.youtube.com/@juliatrehane], Insta [https://www.instagram.com/juliatrehane/], Podcast [http://bit.ly/43w11Xn]

Navigating Overwhelm, Growth & Self-Compassion

In this heartfelt episode of Emotionally Unavailable, therapist and host, Malisa Hepner, welcomes back Ashana Kaiulani for an honest conversation about self-care, emotional overwhelm, and the healing power of self-compassion. Together, they explore what it means to care for yourself beyond surface-level routines, how vulnerability creates deeper connection, and why emotional resilience is built through presence rather than perfection. This episode offers grounded insights for anyone navigating burnout, grief, anxiety, or the pressure to hold it all together while learning to reconnect with themselves in a more compassionate way. When overwhelm rises, pause long enough to ask yourself: "What do I actually need right now?" Emotional resilience often begins by responding to yourself with curiosity and compassion instead of criticism. * Emotionally Unavailable is produced 100% in-house. No team, just me and my love for yapping and helping others. If this show has ever helped you in any way, here is your chance to help it keep going strong. Subscribe to the patreon, grab some merch or get a workbook! I appreciate you all. Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! * $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! * $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) * $30 - Deeper work and group spaces https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink [https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink] Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 [https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1] https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner [https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner] Ashana's links: Website [https://www.wayhomewellness.com/], Insta [https://www.instagram.com/wayhomewellness/], Youtube [https://www.youtube.com/@WayHomeWellness], Substack [https://substack.com/@ashanakaiulani] Ashana's Previous Episodes: Nov. 10, 2025: The Alchemy of Healing: Turning Pain into Purpose Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/episode/2HCte33utbfqQnli80uHwH?si=OfBQZPyoQHe700KtzXAJbQ], Apple [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-alchemy-of-healing-turning-pain-into-purpose/id1743753206?i=1000736055482] March 16, 2026: Embracing Imperfection: Letting Go of Burnout, Spiritual Perfectionism, and the Pressure to Be "Zen" Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/episode/18nKW73JuNbSuWVC5eReOZ?si=93SAkVb_QG-dRSY8q9Bf4A], Apple [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/embracing-imperfection-letting-go-of-burnout/id1743753206?i=1000755507273]