How I Therapist

#31 - Rebecca Stone: affair recovery & family constellations

In this episode, Rebecca Stone shares her innovative approach to infidelity recovery, integrating restorative justice, family constellations, and trauma healing modalities. We dive into how her structured model helps couples heal from betrayal by addressing deep-seated trauma and fostering empathy. Chapters 00:00 The Genesis of Infidelity Recovery Work 03:05 Understanding the Impact of Infidelity 05:53 The Role of Restorative Justice in Healing 08:57 Group Therapy Dynamics in Infidelity Recovery 12:07 Challenges in Working with Betrayed and Cheating Partners 15:01 The Complexity of Truth in Infidelity 17:59 Integrating Somatic Practices in Therapy 20:56 Family Constellations: Unpacking Intergenerational Trauma 22:53 The Healing Power of Empathy 25:37 Accountability vs. Trauma in Infidelity 28:51 Future Directions in Therapy and Workshops

#30 - Whitney Schaffer: relational & interpersonal therapy

In this episode of How I Therapist, we speak with Whitney Schaffer, a relational and interpersonal therapist. She shares her approach to therapy, emphasizing authenticity, emotional exploration, and boundary setting. She discusses her training, her philosophy of bringing her whole self into sessions, and practical insights on managing countertransference, enacting boundaries, and building a sustainable practice. Chapters 00:00 The Philosophy of Presence in Therapy 07:23 Navigating Training and Authenticity 13:49 The Importance of Relational Dynamics 19:41 Role-Playing for Insight 25:36 Exploring Sexual Transference 31:41 Trusting the Therapeutic Journey

#29 - Patch McCormick: grandiosity in couples therapy

In this episode, we welcome back Patch McCormick, a licensed clinical social worker, to discuss his experiences with Relational Life Therapy (RLT). They explore the nuances of grandiosity in relationships, the importance of feedback in therapy, and how Patch integrates RLT into his practice. The conversation also delves into the challenges of counter-transference and the significance of maintaining a strong leadership position in therapy. Patch shares his future aspirations, including starting a men's group and developing workshops. Chapters 00:00 Welcome Back, Patch McCormick 02:02 Diving into Relational Life Therapy 06:34 Courses and Training in RLT 08:52 Understanding Grandiosity in Relationships 12:04 Integrating RLT into Practice 20:52 Challenges and Surprises in Couples Therapy 22:59 First Experiences as a Therapist 27:14 Navigating Counter-Transference 43:30 Future Plans and Projects

#28 - Amanda Adili: death doula, family constellations, & couples countertransference

In this episode of "How I Therapist," we engage in a deep conversation with Amanda Adili, a licensed clinical social worker based in New York. Amanda shares her diverse training in various therapeutic modalities, including sex therapy, EMDR, and somatic experiencing, and discusses her recent completion of a year-long training in family constellations. This model of therapy focuses on ancestral healing and reveals hidden family dynamics, which Amanda describes as a powerful experience that has significantly influenced her practice. She emphasizes the importance of being present and trusting one's instincts during therapy sessions, drawing connections between her various training experiences and her personal journey of healing. https://inelda.org/learn/end-of-life-doula-training/ Chapters 00:00 Exploring Ancestral Healing and Family Constellations 05:29 Integrating Therapeutic Modalities 10:33 The Journey of Becoming a Therapist 15:27 Understanding Death Doula Work 19:27 Navigating Couples Therapy 23:20 Countertransference in Therapy 29:35 The Importance of Supervision 35:33 Future Aspirations and Creative Offerings

#27 - Dr Audra Horney: therapy for men

In this conversation, we delve into the intricacies of men's therapy, focusing on the role of medication management, the unique challenges men face in seeking help, and the importance of creating a safe space for vulnerability. Dr. Horney shares her insights on how therapists can effectively navigate conversations about medication, educate clients on their options, and set clear expectations for the therapeutic journey. She emphasizes the need for honesty and trust in the therapeutic relationship, as well as practical tools and resources that can empower men in their mental health journey. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Men's Therapy and Medication Management 03:43 The Role of Collaboration in Therapy 06:23 Understanding Male Urgency in Therapy 09:12 Navigating Medication Conversations with Clients 12:10 Gender Differences in Mental Health Treatment 15:24 The Importance of Education in Therapy 18:08 The Mask of Stoicism in Men 21:31 Creating Safe Spaces for Emotional Expression 21:55 Setting the Tone for Therapy 29:17 Practical Tools and Strategies for Growth 37:22 Recommended Resources for Men 42:29 Connecting with Dr. Audra Horney