I Know a Guy Podcast

Ep. 126 - Stop Fixing Her: Why Your ‘Help’ Is Killing Connection

Most men think they’re helping… But what if the way you respond to your wife’s emotions is actually pushing her further away? In this episode of I Know a Guy, we break down the critical difference between sympathy and empathy—and why men default to fixing, minimizing, and controlling when emotions rise. If you’ve ever said, “Just don’t worry about it”… or “You’ll be fine”… This episode is for you. Because connection isn’t built through solutions. It’s built through presence. Mentioned on this episode: Brené Brown on Empathy [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Evwgu369Jw] Do me a favor?  Would you follow, rate, comment and share this podcast with another guy as the Spirit leads?  Let's help more men live from their true identity - together! I am Your Beloved" [https://open.spotify.com/track/3wNS3dTyxxEQQdfDz3yFeK?si=29c40f7f60ad4b7c]  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

Ep. 125 Why the Wide Path Feels So Normal

If the wide path leads to destruction, why does it feel so normal? Why do so many men live stressed, disconnected, and exhausted—and think that’s just life? What if the issue isn’t your schedule, but your identity?  And what if the patterns you’ve been living out for decades were never actually leading you where you think? This episode of I Know a Guy exposes why the wide path feels right— And why that should concern you. I wrote The Father Eclipse for this exact reason. To help men see clearly what’s been shaping them and step into the truth of who they are as beloved sons. It’s not a long book. It’s written like a one-on-one conversation—something you can read in one or two sittings. It’s available now on Amazon. [https://www.amazon.com/Father-Eclipse-Earthly-Identity-Clearly/dp/B0H1FBN6Y7/ref=sr_1_1?crid=28YUVHLJIJPGN&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.OygZHtnUZVGWwC2y78iI4A.nM4A7lqzalp47ZjfPeX-sh0H-wkqnlQes_BR7QfhdFU&dib_tag=se&keywords=steve+cummings+the+father+eclipse&qid=1778773441&sprefix=%2Caps%2C227&sr=8-1]  If you pick one up, thank you. And if you leave a review, that would mean more than you know.   "I Am Your Beloved" [https://open.spotify.com/track/3wNS3dTyxxEQQdfDz3yFeK?si=29c40f7f60ad4b7c]  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

Ep.124 - Two Gates - One Decision You Keep Making

Most men believe they’re following Jesus because they go to church. But what if Jesus never said that was the standard? What if the real question isn’t what you believe—but the path you’re actually walking? There are two roads. One is easy, comfortable, and crowded. The other is narrow, intentional, and requires everything. And here’s the tension— You don’t choose it once. You choose it every day. This episode of I Know a Guy will challenge the way you think about faith, identity, and what it actually means to follow Jesus. Do me a favor?  Would you follow, rate, comment and share this podcast with another guy as the Spirit leads?  Let's help more men live from their true identity - together!

Ep. 123 - Slow Down or Break Down

At some point, every man hits a wall.  A blow-up. A shutdown. A disconnect. Or just the realization—something’s off. That’s not random. That’s what happens when you ignore the why beneath your what. You can only outrun it for so long. Eventually… it catches up. This episode of I Know a Guy will show you how to slow down, get honest, and start uncovering what’s really driving your life—so you don’t have to learn the hard way. And if this topic resonates with you, my brand-new book, The Father Eclipse is now available on Amazon. [https://www.amazon.com/Father-Eclipse-Earthly-Identity-Clearly/dp/B0H1FBN6Y7/ref=sr_1_1?crid=28YUVHLJIJPGN&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.OygZHtnUZVGWwC2y78iI4A.nM4A7lqzalp47ZjfPeX-sh0H-wkqnlQes_BR7QfhdFU&dib_tag=se&keywords=steve+cummings+the+father+eclipse&qid=1778773441&sprefix=%2Caps%2C227&sr=8-1] It’s all about how our earthly fathers shaped our identity—and how to see God clearly again.

Ep. 122 - This Made Sense ...Then

You didn’t randomly become the man you are. Your reactions, your habits, your patterns. They were learned. Formed in your family. Shaped between ages 0–12. And here’s the hard truth: What helped you survive then - might be hurting you now. Performance. Withdrawal. Control. Avoidance. It all made sense. But is it still serving you? This episode of I Know a Guy will help you connect your past to your present—so you can finally understand the why beneath your what. Steve's new book The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity—and How to See God Clearly Again is now available on Amazon [https://www.amazon.com/Father-Eclipse-Earthly-Identity-Clearly/dp/B0H1FBN6Y7/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&dib_tag=se&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.OygZHtnUZVGWwC2y78iI4A.nM4A7lqzalp47ZjfPeX-sh0H-wkqnlQes_BR7QfhdFU&qid=1778629554&sr=8-1] in both paperback and Kindle formats.  If you have another guy who needs this message, grab a second copy and help scatter more seed.  ALL proceeds from this book launch through June 3rd go to Fathers in the Field [https://www.fathersinthefield.com/about-us/fathers-in-the-field-mission/]- a national ministry to rekindle and establish the spirit of boys who have been abandoned by their fathers; mentoring them one-on-one in life skills through outdoor activities, and by sharing a Christian understanding of our Heavenly Father’s love and sacrifice for His children. Do me a favor?  Would you follow, rate, comment and share this podcast with another guy as the Spirit leads?  Let's help more men live from their true identity - together! "I Am Your Beloved" [https://open.spotify.com/track/3wNS3dTyxxEQQdfDz3yFeK?si=29c40f7f60ad4b7c]  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.