Episode 30- It's a lovely time to become who you were meant to be, there are no shortcuts
Today I'm talking about how there are no shortcuts to becoming who you were meant to be. The journey is worth being traveled.
Typically, I'll record episodes, weeks if not months in advance but after a weekend of filling my cup I had to share this morning. This notion that somehow we will wake up to be who we were meant to be, tomorrow is something that continues to be brought up. As if we can simply do a few right things or if somehow we do "all the right things" we will suddenly have it all figured out.
- "riding a bike"
- john wooden, learning to tie your shoes https://www.riskology.co/better-shoelaces/
- my story
-- Growing up, even today my dad has said on occasion, "I'm still trying to figure out what I want to be when I grow up" if you heard him say this as a stranger walking by, you wouldn't know that he's a distinguished attorney who specializes Mergers and Acquisitions, compliance, corporate finance, corporate governance, employee benefits, insurance, litigation management, and securities law. Knowing what I know about my father, it's always encouraged me to look beyond what I'm doing in the present moment and how I can truly be "anything I want to be" While yes, I have specific goals in mind there are things I'm doing today that I know won't last forever.
- You may be surprised to learn that after my family moved from state to state and I tried to keep up with the changes in college requirements, I eventually dropped out of college just a year or so short of a diploma. Feeling the stress to begin paying back my original student loans and not having any real direction at the time I was getting by as I had throughout most of my life on hope & a dream but there was no clear vision and without any mindfulness practices in place, there's really only one thing to attribute my success or lack of falling flat on my face too, so thank you, God.
- We moved consistently every 1-3 years throughout my childhood making me a master of fitting in but this ultimately led to me lying and doing my best to fit into places when I didn't belong and so desperately wanted to feel that sense of belonging that I see now. But as a child, I was not seen for those lies and shortcomings as a coping strategy but I was told that I was a "story teller" and accused of being a liar. Maybe that's why one of my core values today is honesty. If you are a close friend you know that I would rather be told the ugliest truth than a lie and if you do lie, it's almost impossible for me to come back from. Still working through that.
- I didn't just wake up one day and decide to be the woman I am today. It took small consistent steps to better who I am, not being afraid to start shedding light on some of the really awful truths that I was afraid of anyone finding out from my past, including me.
- Therapy, lots of therapy, from EMDR to traditional talk therapy and neurofeedback. I am a huge advocate of therapy and finding the right therapist. I have actually stood up and respectfully walked out of a therapist's office after she asked me what I thought I should be doing. She was clearly in over her head and did not have much to offer me after my extensive therapy sessions of the past. I am begging you, if you've had a bad experience, don't let that stop you from finding a good one. It's not always the perfect fit the first time but you are worth finding the right match.
- daily meditation, still sometimes a struggle to fit in
- movement
- practicing "clear is kind"
- shitty first drafts are a way of life for my otherwise brash personality, I am an enneagram 8, the challenger, a strong visionary and hell hath no fury like a Meghan focused, although those moments are fleeting, especially while pregnant without my ADHD medication but watch out world.
References: Brene Brown- Raising Strong
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Hello lovely, Meg here, I'm glad you stopped by to listen in! P
