Jollof and Kompa

Do Nigerian Men Find It Hard To Be Vulnerable In Marriage?

This episode turned into a much deeper conversation than we expected. We talked about emotional vulnerability, growing up in different households, why some men struggle to express emotions, and how those experiences show up in marriage. From family dynamics to painful personal moments, this was one of the most honest conversations we’ve had on the podcast.

My American Wife Asked Me To Wash The Toilet

In this episode of Jollof & Kompa, we talk about what “Head of the House” actually means in a modern marriage — and why we don’t completely see it the same way. From chores and leadership to gender roles and expectations, this conversation started small… and turned into something much deeper. We unpack the cultural ideas we grew up with, the roles men and women are expected to play, and how marriage forces you to redefine a lot of those beliefs in real time. Let us know in the comments: What does “Head of the House” mean in your relationship?

I Asked My Wife What She Tells Her Friends About Our Marriage

What do you actually tell your friends about your marriage? In this episode of Jollof & Kompa, we get real about friendships, boundaries, and what should (and shouldn’t) be shared outside your relationship. From cultural differences to personal comfort levels, we unpack how we each view privacy, respect, and oversharing—especially when it comes to sensitive topics.

Are Good Intentions Enough? The Argument That Ruined Our Night

In this episode, we unpack how one small moment revealed a bigger difference in how we think and show up for each other. If you’ve ever felt like your effort wasn’t seen—or like someone’s intentions didn’t match their actions—this one will hit home. 00:00 Is Food Really That Deep? 04:40 We Bought Bikes (Life Update) 10:00 Trying New Things in Our 30s 14:20 The Argument: What Happened 18:30 Expectations vs Reality in Relationships 22:30 It’s Not About Food (Acts of Service) 25:00 Good Intentions vs Follow-Through

She Thinks It's Shameful. My Culture Says It's Obligation.

Sending money back home is an expectation in Nigerian culture — but not everyone sees it that way. Augustus and Alexis get into one of the most sensitive financial conversations in their marriage. Where do you draw the line between family obligation and protecting your own household? Drop your experience in the comments.