Not So Secret Lives

Are We Dating The Same Guy?

This week, we’re diving into the infamous “Are We Dating the Same Guy?” Facebook pages—and whew, do we have thoughts. Do we agree with the original intention of these pages? Absolutely. Women looking out for women, sharing information to stay safe, and avoiding being played or put in dangerous situations? Yes. Always yes. But do we agree with turning these spaces into places for public shaming, rumors, or slander? Not so much. We get real about where the line is, how it’s being crossed, and what accountability should actually look like. Plus—Chan drops some HUGE personal news, so you’ll definitely want to stick around for that 👀 As always, this is an honest, unfiltered conversation with strong opinions, a few laughs, and some real talk that needed to be said. Important Resources: If this conversation brings up anything heavy or if you or someone you know needs support, help is available: • National Domestic Violence Hotline 📞 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) 🌐 thehotline.org • National Sexual Assault Hotline (RAINN) 📞 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) 🌐 rainn.org (24/7 confidential chat available) If you are in immediate danger, please call 911.

Foreplay For The Win

It’s getting real hot this week 🔥 We’re talking all things foreplay — what turns us on, what keeps it interesting, and why it’s way more than just the warm-up. Chan shocks herself (and maybe everyone else) by realizing she actually loves getting head 😏 and let’s just say things in our sex lives are running very smoothly. We’re also reading some juicy listener feedback and exploring all the different kinds of foreplay — from touch to talk to teasing. #ForeplayFun #SpicyTalk #BedroomConvos #SexPositivePodcast #DatingUnfiltered #GirlsWhoTalkSex #SpicyAndHonest #PodcastBesties

Love Bombed or Loved Right?

Love is in the air — and we are so here for it! Big news... Karina and Chan are in relationships! 💕 It started off hot and heavy (are you surprised?) and it’s been going really well. In this episode, we’re getting real about the difference between love bombing and the real deal, and what it’s like navigating other people’s opinions when things move fast. From judgmental comments to unsolicited advice, we’re breaking down why you should always trust your gut, follow what feels good, and stop letting others dictate your happiness. This is your life.... live it how you want to! It’s honest, funny, and all about doing love your way.

The Lost Episode: Know Your Worth

This one’s been sitting in the vault — recorded back on August 21st, it’s our lost episode! We’re diving into knowing your worth — in relationships, in life, and within yourself. We’ve gone through the motions, learned the hard lessons, and finally figured out what it truly means to stand in your value. As always, it’s fun, it’s funny, and full of real talk (with a little spice, of course). Because when you know your worth, everything hits different — your confidence, your choices, your peace, and your love. #MindsetShift #GlowUp #SelfLoveJourney #LevelUpYourLife #FunnyPodcast #EmpowermentVibes #PodcastLife #WomenWhoPodcast #BestieEnergy #SpicyConversations #UnfilteredTalk #RawAndReal #DatingAndSelfWorth #HealthyLove #StrongWomen #RelationshipTalk #RealTalkRelationships

I Think I Want Out: Navigating Marriage Crises with Dr. Becky Whetstone

When Dr. Becky's team reached out and asked if we wanted to have her on we couldn't say yes fast enough! This week we’re joined by Dr. Becky Whetstone, therapist, author, and creator of the new book “I (Think) I Want Out: What to Do When One of You Wants to End Your Marriage” — an essential couples guide filled with real answers and guidance for navigating a marriage crisis. We dive into what inspired Dr. Becky to pursue therapy, her own personal experiences, and the wisdom she’s gained from working with countless couples. From real-life examples to tips and tricks for surviving the toughest relationship moments, this episode is packed with valuable insight. We’re also excited to announce that Dr. Becky will be joining us regularly for “Relationship School with Dr. Becky”, where she’ll continue sharing her knowledge to help couples everywhere. Beyond her book, you can also find her powerful writing on Medium (@DoctorBecky) and connect with her as she provides therapy to clients worldwide. Note: We had alllll the technical difficulties during this recording, so the audio quality isn’t our best — but the conversation is absolutely worth the listen. Links & Resources: I (Think) I Want Out: What to Do When One of You Wants to End Your Marriage — book by Becky Whetstone https://a.co/d/cqzQ26a Becky Whetstone’s Medium page (DoctorBecky) https://medium.com/%40doctorbecky MarriageCrisisManager.com (her site) https://marriagecrisismanager.com Instagram: @doctorbecky Instagram LinkedIn: Becky Whetstone, Ph.D. LinkedIn