OH, HI SELF w. Sandra Possing

People Pleasing, Self-Abandonment, and Coming Back to Yourself

Of all the protective patterns in this series, people pleasing is the one I've struggled with most. By far. In this episode, I share what I've learned about people pleasing, why it's not the same thing as kindness, and how it can quietly lead us to abandon ourselves in the pursuit of approval, acceptance, and keeping the peace. We'll talk about where people pleasing comes from, how it shows up, the hidden costs, and practical ways to build healthier boundaries while staying compassionate and connected. You do not have to earn love by making everyone else comfortable. 💛 Connect with me:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sandrapossing/ [https://www.instagram.com/sandrapossing/] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sandrapossinglifecoach/ [https://www.facebook.com/sandrapossinglifecoach/] Website: https://sandrapossing.com/ [https://sandrapossing.com/]

Perfectionism: The Hidden Costs and How to Heal It

Today we’re talking about perfectionism: what it is, why high achievers struggle with it, the hidden costs of trying to always get it right, and how it can quietly keep us stuck, exhausted, and disconnected from ourselves. This episode is packed with practical tools, mindset shifts, nervous system support, and reminders that you are allowed to be messy, growing, imperfect, and still deeply worthy. Connect with me:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sandrapossing/ [https://www.instagram.com/sandrapossing/] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sandrapossinglifecoach/ [https://www.facebook.com/sandrapossinglifecoach/] Website: https://sandrapossing.com/ [https://sandrapossing.com/]

How to Stop Overthinking Everything (and What to do Instead)

This is the first episode in a short 4-part series about the most common ways high achievers get in their own way. In this episode, we tackle overthinking: * what it is * why we do it * examples of how it shows up * the costs of overthinking * what to do instead In the subsequent three episodes, we'll tackle the similarly frustrating protective patterns of perfectionism, people pleasing, and imposter syndrome. If this episode hits home, please know that you're not alone. There are many of us out here! Share it with a friend to remind them that they too are not alone. This is a very common unhelpful tendency (aka a protective pattern), and one that we can absolutely shift with practice. Connect with me:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sandrapossing/ [https://www.instagram.com/sandrapossing/] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sandrapossinglifecoach/ [https://www.facebook.com/sandrapossinglifecoach/] Website: https://sandrapossing.com/ [https://sandrapossing.com/]

How to Communicate Better

Want to communicate better? Not for the sake of winning an argument or being right, but for the sake of deepening your connection with your people? Then you came to the right place. In this episode, I give you my 5 top tips for communicating more effectively. They may seem basic, but if you actually take the time to get good at the basics, your communication and thus your relationships will level up, and fast. Connect with me:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sandrapossing/ [https://www.instagram.com/sandrapossing/] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sandrapossinglifecoach/ [https://www.facebook.com/sandrapossinglifecoach/] Website: https://sandrapossing.com/ [https://sandrapossing.com/]

Why Getting Triggered is Good Thing (and What to do When it Happens)

Instead of resisting our triggers, we can learn to embrace (and even love) them! Here's what I've learned from my own experience of ignoring and judging myself for my triggers for years (spoiler alert: it just made things worse) and ultimately how I finally shifted my approach and trained myself to reframe them as a good thing and turn them into opportunities for growth and healing. Connect with me:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sandrapossing/ [https://www.instagram.com/sandrapossing/] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sandrapossinglifecoach/ [https://www.facebook.com/sandrapossinglifecoach/] Website: https://sandrapossing.com/ [https://sandrapossing.com/]