Baby Then What (Pregnant Bitchez)

We often hear "As long as it’s healthy...". But the truth is, what about when it’s not the gender you were hoping for? This week, we’re talking about the quiet, complicated reality of gender disappointment, a totally normal experience that most moms are too ashamed to admit. We unpack the shock, guilt, and internal shame spiral that hits hard when the baby isn’t the gender you dreamed of. From generational patterns and birth order pressure to intrusive comments and healing through it all, this is a raw, honest convo about mourning the child you imagined while falling in love with the one you’re growing. We share our own stories and yours from the tears and Google spirals to the “wait… can they get the gender wrong?” denial phase, all the way to the bonding, healing, and finally saying goodbye to the fantasy family you made up in your head at 13. You’re not a bad mom for feeling what you feel. And you’re not alone. Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@baby.then.what ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/baby.then.what/] YouTube:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Baby Then What⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Resources & Guides: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.babythenwhat.com [https://stan.store/babythenwhat] Amazon Faves: https://www.amazon.ca/shop/baby.then.what?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_aipsfshop_2F8R9R0YSYYZ7SZDFZ72 [https://www.amazon.ca/shop/baby.then.what?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_aipsfshop_2F8R9R0YSYYZ7SZDFZ72]

Welcome to the toddler trenches: ages 2 to 4, aka the "are you still a baby or just my drunkest roommate?" phase. In this episode, we’re diving headfirst into the hot mess that is toddlerhood - where logic goes to die and granola bars break your spirits. We get into: * Why they’re still babies until 4 (yes, really) * The full-body meltdowns that start over nothing and end with you questioning everything * Picking daycares, preschools, and camps like it’s a college application * The gear and toys that we didn’t expect to love and the ones that majorly flopped * Why giving your toddler “chores” might actually keep you from fully losing it * And the wild, sticky, feral energy of raising little boys Plus, we're sharing some personal chaos updates like panic-enrolling in camp at 11:59 PM, pretending we love how our toddlers “fold” laundry, and wondering if anyone's kid actually sits still. If you're deep in toddler chaos or bracing for it soon, consider this your group chat with moms who get it - no filter, no shame, just here to make sure you don't feel totally insane. Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@baby.then.what ⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/baby.then.what/] YouTube:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠Baby Then What⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpj7P5Q5roeMAGaDlMDeSVA] Resources & Guides: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.babythenwhat.com [https://stan.store/babythenwhat]

Welcome to our no-BS guide to baby gear. In this episode, we’re breaking down the newborn products we actually used (and loved) - and the ones that made us question all our life choices. From bottles and breast pumps to crib mattresses, pacifiers, and yes... the infamous wipe warmer, we’re sharing what worked, what didn’t, and what you can skip entirely. We cover: * Bottles that saved us vs. bottles that drove us feral * The breast pumps that actually gave us freedom * Crib mattresses, swaddles, diaper bags, and more * Registry regrets, wipe warmer disasters, and why baby shoes are a scam Plus our takes on the Nanit monitor, BIBS pacifiers, Frida Mom nail clippers, and other viral baby products everyone tells you to buy. Real talk from two moms, four kids, and way too many Amazon orders.If you're pregnant, building a registry, or just deep in the newborn trenches - this one’s for you. Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@baby.then.what ⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/baby.then.what/] YouTube:  ⁠⁠⁠Baby Then What⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpj7P5Q5roeMAGaDlMDeSVA] Resources & Guides: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.babythenwhat.com [https://stan.store/babythenwhat]

We thought it would be funny to take pregnancy tests just for content… and then we accidentally switched them, and one came back positive. In true Baby Then What fashion, what started as a lighthearted, just-for-fun idea turned into absolute chaos. One of us is pregnant… maybe?! But whose test is it?! And what do we even do now?! This episode is wild, emotional, a little unhinged, and everything we didn’t expect, but honestly, it’s kind of the perfect metaphor for motherhood: nothing goes to plan, and you’re just along for the ride. We’re bringing you behind the scenes of the moment it all went down, the laughs, the panic, the “wait, what?!” reactions, and figuring it out in real-time together. Watch until the very end, the reveal is WORTH IT. Then head to the comments and tell us your own pregnancy test story, the surprises, the scares, the joy, the chaos. With love (and maybe a positive test?), Amanda & Jessie ‪@babythenwhat‬

We're back this week for another round of your questions. In Part 2 of our unfiltered Q&A, we’re diving even deeper into the real, raw questions you’ve been too tired (or too scared) to ask out loud. From navigating postpartum hormones to figuring out if you’re ready for another baby,  we’re covering it all. In this episode, we get into: * Growing your family and navigating pregnancy loss * Postpartum hormones, body changes, and intimacy after baby * Baby stage challenges like teething, sleep routines, and the crawling limbo * Toddler topics including food allergies, patience, and screen time This is the stuff no one preps you for,  and we’re here to talk about it. Let's figure it out together. This episode is sponsored by Everydae — a wellness brand built by moms, for moms. Their bestselling supplement, Mood, is designed to help you feel calm, balanced, and like yourself again with clean, science-backed ingredients like ashwagandha, magnesium, and maca. No fillers, no junk — just real support. Use code BTW15 at ⁠Everydae⁠ [https://everydaehealth.com/products/mama-expecting?srsltid=AfmBOooGoH00BLCg7MLSozzN5Jc5UPSlv1-qnVs8KhfmZFIaRjjoMB1W&selling_plan=4101308668] for 15% off your first order. Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@baby.then.what ⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/baby.then.what/] YouTube:  ⁠Baby Then What⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpj7P5Q5roeMAGaDlMDeSVA] Resources & Guides: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.babythenwhat.com [https://stan.store/babythenwhat]