Self Centered™ with Katie and Allie

70. Love is Blind Part 7 (Final Episode): Why Chemistry isn't Enough for a Healthy Relationship

What happens when you want love so badly that you stop listening to yourself? In this episode, we unpack some of the biggest relationship dynamics from Love Is Blind, including avoidant attachment, codependency, emotional unavailability, weak egos, over-pursuing, validation seeking, and staying true to your values in relationships. Using examples from the show (especially episodes 10, 11, 12, and the reunion), we explore: * Why some relationships feel emotionally addictive and confusing * The difference between being loved and simply being chosen * Why confusion in dating is often a red flag, not a challenge to solve * How fear of starting over keeps people stuck in unhealthy dynamics * The role insecurity and ego play in dating behavior * What healthy partnership, emotional safety, and reciprocity actually look like * Why staying self-centered sometimes means walking away from someone you love * The importance of compatibility around values, children, finances, and communication This episode is especially helpful for people who: * Struggle with people pleasing or codependent relationship patterns * Feel stuck in confusing or emotionally inconsistent relationships * Tend to ignore red flags because they want love to work * Have experienced avoidant partners or anxious attachment * Want healthier, more reciprocal relationships rooted in mutual care and emotional maturity EPISODES MENTIONED: 27. What the Ego is and Why it Matters 32. Communication Styles, and how to Become more Assertive 35. How to Know Who You Can Trust (and Who You Can’t) 48. Codependence 101 Love the show? A quick rating or review helps us so much! New episodes every Tuesday – hit subscribe so you don’t miss out. Follow us on IG: selfcentered.pod [https://www.instagram.com/selfcentered.pod/] Thoughts, questions, guest requests, or episode ideas? Email us: selfcenteredthepod@gmail.com [selfcenteredthepod@gmail.com] DISCLAIMER: The Self Centered with Katie and Allie Podcast is intended for entertainment, educational, and reflective purposes only. The views, opinions, experiences, and content shared by the hosts and guests are personal and subjective. They are not presented as objective facts or as representative of any professional body, organization, or field, including psychotherapy, coaching, or personal training. This podcast includes personal reflections on dynamics in various relationships, platonic, family, romantic, and professional. General references to “family,” “an ex,” or “a friend”, for example, are intentionally vague to protect anonymity and do not refer to every individual in those categories. When names are used, they are fictitious, and identifying details are altered. Some information shared is based on research or professional experience, not personal history. The information provided does not constitute medical, mental health, legal, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It should not be relied upon as a substitute for consultation with qualified, licensed professionals. Listeners are strongly encouraged to seek the advice and support of appropriate professionals for their own needs. The hosts, guests, and creators of the podcast disclaim all liability for any direct, indirect, incidental, or consequential loss or damages arising from the use of, reliance on, or interpretation of the podcast content or any linked materials. Use of this podcast and related content is at your own risk. By listening, you acknowledge and agree to these terms.

69. Love is Blind Part 6: Avoidant Attachment, “Fixing” Partners, and When Love Isn’t Enough

What happens when someone seems emotionally available one minute… and completely shuts down the next? In this Love Is Blind recap of Emma and Mike, Bree and Connor, and Chris and Jessica in episodes 7-9, we unpack the real relationship patterns underneath what we’re watching unfold. From avoidant attachment and emotional deactivation to trying to mold someone into your ideal partner, this episode is really about the ways people disconnect from themselves and each other in relationships. We talk about: * Avoidant attachment and “deactivation” * The difference between loving someone vs loving their validation * The pressure to “fix” or raise a partner Love the show? A quick rating or review helps us so much! New episodes every Tuesday – hit subscribe so you don’t miss out. Follow us on IG: selfcentered.pod [https://www.instagram.com/selfcentered.pod/] Thoughts, questions, guest requests, or episode ideas? Email us: selfcenteredthepod@gmail.com [selfcenteredthepod@gmail.com] DISCLAIMER: The Self Centered with Katie and Allie Podcast is intended for entertainment, educational, and reflective purposes only. The views, opinions, experiences, and content shared by the hosts and guests are personal and subjective. They are not presented as objective facts or as representative of any professional body, organization, or field, including psychotherapy, coaching, or personal training. This podcast includes personal reflections on dynamics in various relationships, platonic, family, romantic, and professional. General references to “family,” “an ex,” or “a friend”, for example, are intentionally vague to protect anonymity and do not refer to every individual in those categories. When names are used, they are fictitious, and identifying details are altered. Some information shared is based on research or professional experience, not personal history. The information provided does not constitute medical, mental health, legal, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It should not be relied upon as a substitute for consultation with qualified, licensed professionals. Listeners are strongly encouraged to seek the advice and support of appropriate professionals for their own needs. The hosts, guests, and creators of the podcast disclaim all liability for any direct, indirect, incidental, or consequential loss or damages arising from the use of, reliance on, or interpretation of the podcast content or any linked materials. Use of this podcast and related content is at your own risk. By listening, you acknowledge and agree to these terms.

68. Love is Blind Part 5: Confused, Avoidant, and Still Engaged

This week, we continue our Love Is Blind breakdown by looking at the difference between relationships that feel grounded and relationships that leave you confused, disconnected, and second-guessing yourself. We talk through the growing disconnect in episodes 7-9 between Brittany and Devonte, the red flags and confusion showing up with Ashley and Alex, and the steadier dynamic we see with Jordan and Amber and Vic and Christine. This conversation circles around self-trust, emotional availability, communication, and what it means to notice when something feels off instead of trying to force clarity out of confusion. Love the show? A quick rating or review helps us so much! New episodes every Tuesday – hit subscribe so you don’t miss out. Follow us on IG: selfcentered.pod [https://www.instagram.com/selfcentered.pod/] Thoughts, questions, guest requests, or episode ideas? Email us: selfcenteredthepod@gmail.com [selfcenteredthepod@gmail.com] DISCLAIMER: The Self Centered with Katie and Allie Podcast is intended for entertainment, educational, and reflective purposes only. The views, opinions, experiences, and content shared by the hosts and guests are personal and subjective. They are not presented as objective facts or as representative of any professional body, organization, or field, including psychotherapy, coaching, or personal training. This podcast includes personal reflections on dynamics in various relationships, platonic, family, romantic, and professional. General references to “family,” “an ex,” or “a friend”, for example, are intentionally vague to protect anonymity and do not refer to every individual in those categories. When names are used, they are fictitious, and identifying details are altered. Some information shared is based on research or professional experience, not personal history. The information provided does not constitute medical, mental health, legal, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It should not be relied upon as a substitute for consultation with qualified, licensed professionals. Listeners are strongly encouraged to seek the advice and support of appropriate professionals for their own needs. The hosts, guests, and creators of the podcast disclaim all liability for any direct, indirect, incidental, or consequential loss or damages arising from the use of, reliance on, or interpretation of the podcast content or any linked materials. Use of this podcast and related content is at your own risk. By listening, you acknowledge and agree to these terms.

67. Love is Blind Part 4: Couples Retreat Chaos

This week, we pick back up on episodes 4-6 of Love is Blind Season 10 as the newly engaged couples head into the couples retreat in Cabo. As we react in real time, we talk about the very different energy across the couples: where connection feels easy, where bids for connection keep getting missed, where lifestyle differences already start showing up, and where attraction, insecurity, and mixed signals make everything feel off. From gym-rat compatibility and "Type A" vs "Type B" living to avoidant behavior, performative confidence, and couples who actually seem calm together, this one gave us a lot to talk about. Come sit with us as we unpack the retreat phase and all the dynamics starting to surface. Love the show? A quick rating or review helps us so much! New episodes every Tuesday – hit subscribe so you don’t miss out. Follow us on IG: selfcentered.pod [https://www.instagram.com/selfcentered.pod/] Thoughts, questions, guest requests, or episode ideas? Email us: selfcenteredthepod@gmail.com [selfcenteredthepod@gmail.com] DISCLAIMER: The Self Centered with Katie and Allie Podcast is intended for entertainment, educational, and reflective purposes only. The views, opinions, experiences, and content shared by the hosts and guests are personal and subjective. They are not presented as objective facts or as representative of any professional body, organization, or field, including psychotherapy, coaching, or personal training. This podcast includes personal reflections on dynamics in various relationships, platonic, family, romantic, and professional. General references to “family,” “an ex,” or “a friend”, for example, are intentionally vague to protect anonymity and do not refer to every individual in those categories. When names are used, they are fictitious, and identifying details are altered. Some information shared is based on research or professional experience, not personal history. The information provided does not constitute medical, mental health, legal, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It should not be relied upon as a substitute for consultation with qualified, licensed professionals. Listeners are strongly encouraged to seek the advice and support of appropriate professionals for their own needs. The hosts, guests, and creators of the podcast disclaim all liability for any direct, indirect, incidental, or consequential loss or damages arising from the use of, reliance on, or interpretation of the podcast content or any linked materials. Use of this podcast and related content is at your own risk. By listening, you acknowledge and agree to these terms.

66. Love is Blind Part 3: Coupling Up and Closing the Pods

This week, we finish out the pod phase of Love Is Blind and reflect on the final pairings before the couples retreat. As we watch the last connections unfold, we talk about the pressure to be chosen, the difference between anxiety and clarity, and what happens when someone wants certainty before real trust has had time to form. We also touch on people-pleasing, mixed signals, bids for connection, and the bigger questions that come up when values around marriage, kids, and readiness do not fully line up. Come sit with us as we wrap the pods and see who actually makes it to the next stage. Love the show? A quick rating or review helps us so much! New episodes every Tuesday – hit subscribe so you don’t miss out. Follow us on IG: selfcentered.pod [https://www.instagram.com/selfcentered.pod/] Thoughts, questions, guest requests, or episode ideas? Email us: selfcenteredthepod@gmail.com [selfcenteredthepod@gmail.com] DISCLAIMER: The Self Centered with Katie and Allie Podcast is intended for entertainment, educational, and reflective purposes only. The views, opinions, experiences, and content shared by the hosts and guests are personal and subjective. They are not presented as objective facts or as representative of any professional body, organization, or field, including psychotherapy, coaching, or personal training. This podcast includes personal reflections on dynamics in various relationships, platonic, family, romantic, and professional. General references to “family,” “an ex,” or “a friend”, for example, are intentionally vague to protect anonymity and do not refer to every individual in those categories. When names are used, they are fictitious, and identifying details are altered. Some information shared is based on research or professional experience, not personal history. The information provided does not constitute medical, mental health, legal, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It should not be relied upon as a substitute for consultation with qualified, licensed professionals. Listeners are strongly encouraged to seek the advice and support of appropriate professionals for their own needs. The hosts, guests, and creators of the podcast disclaim all liability for any direct, indirect, incidental, or consequential loss or damages arising from the use of, reliance on, or interpretation of the podcast content or any linked materials. Use of this podcast and related content is at your own risk. By listening, you acknowledge and agree to these terms.