TACT

Gender identity and pronouns

“Never be ashamed, and never tone it down, because your visibility has the ability to save lives." - Dr Vik Fraser This episode of TACT is about gender identity and pronouns. Jen Seyderhelm’s guest is Dr Vik Fraser, Executive Director of A Gender Agenda. Jen and Vik talk about being intersex or endosex, why it isn’t up to you to dead name someone, unisex toilets, how to approach pronoun conversations, the four steps to being an active bystander, and how we can be an ally with members of the LGBTIQA+ community. After the record button was turned off, Vik spoke about joy. The joy that they have witnessed when you feel that you are now expressing who you are inside, finding your tribe, and feeling safe to be yourself. This episode supports that joy and visibility.

Contraception, pregnancy and babies

Contraception works to prevent pregnancy and some methods can also protect yourself and others from contracting a sexually transmitted infection. You may have heard about condoms, the pill, the implant (aka “the rod”) or you may not. The list of contraception options is extensive and can appear overwhelming. Talking to a medical professional can help you work out what the best option is for you and your circumstances. There is no “right” contraception for everyone and what suits you now may not suit you at a different phase of your life. While using contraception helps to greatly reduce the chance of pregnancy, there is always a risk. Up to one-third of Australian women will experience an unplanned pregnancy in their lifetime, and more than half of these women were using at least one form of contraception at the time. After seeing a positive pregnancy test you may experience a myriad of different emotions such as excitement or fear. And then after the dust has settled, the next question to cross your mind is, “Well, what do I do next?” In Australia, women have access to medical and support services if they choose to have a baby, or they have the option to terminate a pregnancy if they wish to do so. Whether a woman decides to continue or terminate a pregnancy, the choice is hers to make. In this episode of TACT, Jen is joined by Senior Learning Co-ordinator for CCCares, Susan Johnson, to talk about contraception, pregnancy and having a baby. CCCares is a unique program offering education and support services for pregnant teenagers and young parents in the ACT. Susan shares some important tips from CCCares students and parents around the value of sleep, asking for help and putting on a boy’s nappy versus a girls. Jen and Susan discuss the struggles and joy that pregnancy can bring as well as advice for new parents. Pregnancy can be a wonderful or overwhelming time, and no two pregnancies are the same. There are a range of options available to pregnant women to support them during their journey, and whatever a woman decides to do with her pregnancy is her decision.

Respectful relationships

Respectful relationships – both romantic and platonic – are an important part of a healthy life. These connections are critical for both our mental and physical health, and they have the ability to bring out the best in us. Unfortunately, so many of us aren’t taught how to start and maintain healthy relationships and are often exposed to examples of unhealthy or abusive relationships during our childhood. In this episode of TACT, Jen is joined by Dr Sheridan Kerr, who is a Senior Director at Sexual Health and Family Planning ACT, to talk about how to build and maintain respectful relationships with the people in our lives. Dr Kerr and Jen discuss the qualities of a healthy relationship, signs of abusive behaviour and how to improve communication with your loved ones. It is important that you feel safe, seen and comfortable in all your relationships, and work on practicing open and honest communication. Recognising areas within yourself that need improvement is also fundamental to building long-term and fulfilling relationships with your friends, family and partners.

Mental health, wellbeing and resilience

"When you’re young, all you want to do is fit in, but what I would encourage people to do is realise that there’s someone else who feels the same way as you, or is struggling with the same decision that you’re struggling with, and that’s where you can find your community" - Dr Kate Grarock This week’s episode of TACT is about mental health, wellbeing and resilience. There’s a lot of pressures in young adulthood to live a fulfilling life when you may be juggling entering the workforce, finding your identity, travelling, studying, home life, meeting or making new friendships, becoming independent, and taking on new responsibilities.  Looking after your mental health and wellbeing is an ongoing process of finding the right balance to physical health, a sense of purpose, feeling connected with others, and feeling safe and supported. The trait of resilience is embodied by Jen's guest in this episode, Dr Kate Grarock [https://www.kategrarock.com/aloneaustralia.html]. Kate is an ecologist, hiker, superstar of STEM, mum and YouTube creator. Perhaps you’ve seen Kate on the SBS reality series Alone Australia, where Kate maintains a joyous respect for her environment and conditions despite being alone and reliant only on herself and her abilities, mental and physical, to survive.

Sex

Let’s talk about sex. In this episode of TACT, Jen is joined by Kym Robinson to get to the heart of those topics many of us think of as too intimate or embarrassing to discuss. Jen and Kym talk candidly about a range of issues surrounding intimacy, sexual health and communication. Kym is a sex therapist who works with couples, individuals and groups to help people explore the diverse topics of sexuality, pleasure and the importance of consent. She uses a person-centred approach in her counselling to support her clients in a safe and judgment-free environment and believes everyone has a right to a happy and healthy sex life.  It can be intimidating to talk about issues relating to sexual health, but they are important conversations to have. Many people lack basic knowledge about reproductive health and are unsure how to navigate the topic of sex in new relationships. Better sexual education programs are necessary to ensure everyone has the resources to engage in safe sex and be treated with respect. And remember, no one has the right to pressure you into doing anything you don’t want to do, and always get consent from your partner before engaging in any sexual activity. Episode producer: Sarah Grieb